Why do I attract clingy/needy people so much?

[watdatmouthdothoo]

No like seriously every friend I have is super clingy and get attached to me so fast even when they just meet me. I don't know what I do to people or what vibe I give them that makes them feel so comfortable around me to constantly wanna be around me , call me all the time, Text all the time and hang out all the time. Like what the hell? I am a person who likes alone time & values it so being around someone or talking to them all day is rather frustrating & I feel passionate about people who are clingy like it really does something to me it bothers me a lot. Why do people cling so much to me like it's back to back with every friend I have?

[Anonymous]

I have this too? I always attract clingy friends and it gets really annoying because you can't say no to them or they'll get really defensive and butthurt and most likely turn into an emotional wreck that's even harder to deal with. I also attract really clingy guys and all they do is text and don't get the concept of alone time. Clingy guys that I attract are really fast moving and persistent, they will tell you they love you within a week and won't stop till you say it back. I'm not exactly sure but I've been blaming this on my empathetic nature. I can't say no and I feel really bad when I do and usually change my mind. i hate myself for this but I can't help it, it's how I was raised and I'm just too nice!

[OldS0ul]

You are young and a lot of people around your age are trying to figure things out. You may come off in a way to them that makes them feel that you have things more figured out. Your personality might be firmer than their's and in that firmness they see stability. I have a friend with a similar problem she is quiet and shy and a lot of her friends are obsessive and aggressive personalities who are overly protective of her.

[HOAAH]

maybe you are a good listener and they want you to listen to them and their stories. Maybe you are empathetic and you are understanding. Maybe they want to be your friend and they want to hear more about what you think of life too that's why they are sharing with you.

[gtjrh4zrfg]

Actually that once happened with a friend of mine (girl) in my friends group. She was so nice and so cool that even tho we all knew it didn't mean anything, we all started to think you know... maybe there could be something between us? When she left our friends groups for unknown reason, we talked about her (obviously) and that's the moment when we understood that she acted so nicely, we all were at some point in love with her. Then we laughed and drank a beer.

Well, you might be in the same situation. Your behaviours towards others generate people to think you like them more than "friends" ! :/

[watdatmouthdothoo]

lol no tf I'm not gay

[gtjrh4zrfg]

It has nothing to do with being gay tf

[NahBruh]

Then we would make excellent friends! know why? Cause I don't talk to any of my friends unless I'm face to face with them. or they text me first. I'm not into calling people so I wouldn't call you. we would basically never talk unless you talked first. But in regards to the question, I have no idea. Might be a natural leader but fail to realize it or who knows, I'm kinda in the same boat but I ask them why they are texting me and then I make the conversations short. So I can now relax peacefully by my self. also play video games

[IwanderIwonder]

I swear I'd really like to find the antidote to this as I'm suffering from the clingy/needy attraction virus.
I'm exactly the same (or maybe worse) because I don't "like" people or being around people generally.
It drives me crazy.
I've tried getting angry and telling them off, etc. Nothing seems to work.

[martyfellow]

It sounds like you have a lot of self confidence and spiritual strength. Not many people have these qualities, and those who lack self esteem and who are unhappy with themselves and their situations will of course seek to attach themselves to you.

You should take this as a compliment though I understand that it keeps you from focusing on your own situation at times. Be honest with these people and tell they hey, I'm too busy to help you right now!

[savalisk]

Maybe you have that sort of personality, that positive aura about you that attracts people to you of all sorts. Particularly clingy people in need of feeding off that sort of thing.
I have a friend or two like that. You should probably put your foot down. If you're too busy or need some time alone, let them know.
Although, there are a ton of people who would love to be in your position right now. It could be a good thing, in a weird sort of way.

[NormaTavish]

I have that exact same problem, clingy needy people that always seem to want things.. its really annoying and they always seem to find me even when I'm trying to hide...

No wait... my mistake.. they are my kids.. sorry.. my mistake.. :)

[nerms123]

They are probably acting normally but you are not comfortable with that level of closeness. Usually the more a person pulls away, the more other people cling. Look up attachment theory online and read all about it.

[miezi]

mate I got the same problem I'm a total introvert but for some reason I attract extroverts who all end up calling me their best friend and I'm just like plssss leave me some me-time

[lovelyhoneybones]

Are you a caring person? You might give off that motherly vibe which would attract needy people to you.

[alice55]

Surely because you're very independent. Personally I'm a clingy girl and I'm attracted to independent person.

[only_money_]

meeee ( your probably easy to talk to so they trust you)

[SpartanMEC777]

are you kind, curtius, smile a lot, friendly to most people?

[WeirdoWerdo]

Why do I attract depressed people like honestly I'am already depressed myself... So how about u go away

[Anonymous]

They look up to you to lead them. You are their prophet.

[egolessprick01]

coz you genuinely care

[watdatmouthdothoo]

I don't tho lol

[Enrique356]

Because they like u