Why does my sister care about more about her friends than she does for me?

[Anonymous]

Whenever I try to hang out with her, she just distances herself. She never talks to me at home and acts like I don’t exist. She’s always starting fights with me even though I haven’t done anything and she’s always passive aggressive around me. Whenever I try to talk about if I feel down (I have depression) she dismisses it but when her friends call her in their time of need she’s there for them 😞her friends always mention how mean she is to me as well as my mother too. What can I do?

[BellaBelly]

I am there for you :) My big sis also dont care about me and when I have a phobia of insects, spiders, cockroaches she bullies me instead and thinks that I am lying, and sometimes she thinks that Im the one who started it when I keep on saying sorry but she is the one who actually dosnt understand, I have anger ISSUES and she keeps on saying, THATS WHY I DONT LIKE PLAYING WITH YOU! WHATS THE REASON THAT IM ALWAYS WITH MY FRIENDS? and it kinda traumatised me. But I will still be there for you <3

[Anonymous]

I have a younger sister she’s 15 and she acts the same i think it’s a phase... i hope

[Asker]

She’s older, she’s 25

[Asker]

I doubt it’s a phase now

[random56286]

You don't mention whether she is younger or older but you may need to wait a few years. That age siblings fight more than most. Just don't let it cause a real split between you that runs the rest of your lives. That does happen.

[Asker]

She’s older than me, she’s 25 and I’m 18

[Asker]

She’s always been like this though even when we were younger

[Asker]

She just disliked me

[random56286]

At 25 I would really hope she has begun to mature a bit but not everyone gets it together. I have a cousin who was always a bully and as an adult is no better.

If you are struggling with depression, that makes life even more difficult for you. You will have to decide if she has any amount of empathy you can try to talk to her. Otherwise, you really need to protect yourself from her attitude.

[AdviceGuy7]

Family relationships are always difficult. Perhaps, give her the space she needs and when she is ready to talk she will talk. Give her time and im sure sure she will begin to miss you.

[kinley]

Sometimes big sisters can be jerks, plain and simple. I have older and younger sisters, so I have been on the giving and receiving end. It doesn't feel great just know that deep down even if it doesn't feel like it she loves you. 😊

[BellaBelly]

she keeps on saying she hates me and loves and cares about her friends and BFF's more? and I always keep on saying sorry but she never says sorry :(

[Varun_Singh]

My sister (younger) too... and i have never interfered in her thing

[quietdom]

Because they're her friends, that's why she wants to hang out with them