She had a miscarriage last month and was bleeding super heavy. When his mom caught them she flipped and they both got sex lectures from both of their moms. They never use condoms and she’s not on any birth control. They are literally constantly attached to each other. They are like the perfect couple. When their parents wouldn’t let them see each other outside of school, they both cried for each other. They sneak around all the time and both lie to their moms about where they are going. I don’t think they are ready for a baby but it doesn’t matter what anybody says to them, nothing phases them. How do I get this through their heads?
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They plan on having his mom help support the baby (which I don’t think will happen) or his grandma (his grandma had to take his sister because his mom was on drugs but isn’t anymore and that’s him in the last pic with his tongue out and he didn’t get taken in cuz they didn’t feel she was a threat to him). But he gets along great with his grandma and she’s really understanding. People have told them all about how hard babies are and how they can’t support it and it goes in one ear out the other
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They are both super argumentative with everyone and yell and swear back and are very mean when you say anything negative or try and tell them it’s a bad idea and think they know everything and I feel bad cuz I want to help but I don’t know how. They scream at everyone. She lies about where she’s going all the time and so does he. She’s one of my best friends but I think she’s gonna get kicked out. She always tells people at school she doesn’t need anybody except her boyfriend I don't know what to do
How can I stop my friend from getting pregnant? She is 13 and her boyfriend is 14?
I have been following this thread for long time. Mostly because i was hoping it to be some sort of practical joke. 😣
But this is real. Very real. And i have read almost all comments people wrote. I only wanna point out few things.
1) When someone said that people need both parents, i think they meant in a way that one could still be able to handle kids if other screws it up.
2. I am glad you decided against giving away their Snapchat.
3. I applaud you for trying yo help.
However, I do wanna point out, that you are also a kid. You have so much to look forward to. I am sure your parents wouldn't approve of you being friends with such kids. And i am also 90% sure that they are gonna try and physically harm you if you try to do anything to stop them. Whatever you do, do it discretely, don't let them know that its you because of whom they aren't able to have sex or sneak out. I get that you wanna be helpful, but you should think about yourself first. About your mom, and how much it would hurt her to see you hurting.
Lastly, try to block them on snapchat if you can. What they post is child pornography and possession and distribution both are punishable offence, both to adults and minor.
Be safe sweety.
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My mom knows about this and she tries to talk to her mom and the boyfriends grandmother. The boyfriends grandmother said she can’t control what her grandson does because he doesn’t have authority over him only her sister. My mom tried to talk to his mom and she screamed at her and threatened her and I think she was on something. When she contacted my friends mom my friend got grounded and yelled at. However my friend lies about where she’s going and posts on Snapchat that she’s with her boyfriend. She also has 4 other siblings and is the second youngest and her mom works two jobs and the older kids are supposed to look after the younger ones. The two older ones already have kids of their own and the oldest is 17.
I have good enough career but i am still skeptical to have kids or settle down. This is way to messed up. Sweety i think you and your mom should stay out of it. Try to help discretely. I am now concerned for your well being.
@Tryagaintroll this isn’t fake and in no Way shape or form does this seem fake. Please get off of this forum because I don’t even think your 13 years old which is the age limit. You act like you’re 10.
They are living in a fucking fairy tale. How in the hell can this kid expect to give his kid what he never had, he's the exact kind of idiot that causes kids to have absent fathers in the first place!!! No planning for the future, not financially stable, FUCKING 14 FOR FUCKS SAKE this is ridiculous. Were they living on a farm by themselves and capable of running the place well enough to sustain a living (a. k. a 200 years ago when kids grew up faster) I could perhaps see giving it a shot, BUT NOWADAYS? You got to be fucking delusional.
How do you get through to them you ask? VIOLENTLY!!! The logical argument has failed, they are too stupid to listen. I would be taking my kid and moving to another part of the country if I were their parents, that is how serious this is. Take them out of school, get them in therapy, keep them under constant supervision. That is if the parents give a fk about their kids. As a friend, this is not your job, all you can do is inform the legal gaurdians as well as you can and then step back. You could also have em shitkicked by you and your friends. Either way, the bruises will be a lot less painful then what this stupidity will become if left unchecked.
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Well his mom was on drugs and his sister lives with his grandma but the court didn’t see his mom a threat to him. He plans on moving in with his grandma because grandma understands him. Her mom will probably throw her out. Her mom has depression and drinks and works a lot and is rarely home. They did get yelled at by their two moms once but that’s it. I can tell adults at school but I don’t know if they will do anything
Do everything in your power to stop this, even though it's not your job (it's the parent's job) so I guess do it if you want to, just know it's the right thing. The child that is about to be born and probably aborted does not deserve it's ill fate, there's too many stupid people in this world and if you are smart enough to set em straight and can figure out some way to do it, DO IT. Fking drunk and drugged up mom's produce drunk and drugged up kids who make similarly stupid decisions... circle of fuckedness
These kids think they know everything when in reality they don’t know shit. Their mothers are pieces of shit too. The kid won’t even have supportive grandparents. asker I know you want to help but these people can’t even help themselves. Like I said on my post if you tell other adults and they don’t do anything then they are sol. This situation is sad. Teen pregnancies In general are sad. you guys are just kids yourselves
@Tryagaintroll i highly doubt you're 24 years old by your post. IF that’s true, you need to grow up before you open your mouth and talk shit to people. You act like a 10 year old.
God damn, these people make my fucking blood boil. First of all, the boyfriends mother is on drugs and lost her daughter and the son still lives there and he has no father. Second of all, your friend is the second youngest child and the two older daughters already have kids, and the mom works and used to do drugs. Still no father. Your friend and her boyfriend expect to LIVE and have the grandmother support their baby? HELL NO! That’s the parents job! She is NOT legally responsible for either of them, their mothers are! I would not let that fly if I was that grandmother. THIRTEEN AND FOURTEEN YEAR OLDS HAVE NO BUSINESS HAVING SEX OR BABIES PERIOD. This is outrageous and the fact she’s posting videos of them getting it on on Snapchat is DISTURBING! They need to be placed in the foster system, get to therapy and be placed in stable homes. She needs to get on an abortion pill. PLEASE TALK TO POLICE OR SOMEONE AT SCHOOL AND SHOW THEM EVERYTHING FROM THEIR SNAPCHATS. This needs to stop and it needs to stop soon.
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I plan on talking to the guidance counselor at school on Monday.
They can't raise a baby. They have NO source of income. They are KIDS themselves, immature ones at that. That boyfriends poor grandmother. The baby won’t even have actual stable grandparents to depend on. TALK TO AN ADULT ASAP AT SCHOOL. Try and get help. If nobody will help her and they won’t help themselves, they are SOL. This entire situation is fucked up. This is what happens when you have drug attics and absent parents, you get kids who don’t know how to cope with anything doing shit they shouldn’t be doing. This makes me want to rip through my phone and beat both of their asses. What’s the girl and boys Snapchat? I want to give them a piece of my mind.
Why help them? They did this to themselves! People warned them and gave them contraceptives. They don’t wanna use condoms that they have access too and take into consideration what adults who have had kids say to them, then that’s their fault. They think they know everything and can handle this by themselves, then let them. IF what adults had said to them didn’t get through to them, anything you say won’t get through to them either. This angers me so much because they are so stupid but think they are so smart. In the end, they will suffer and it’s not gonna be any bodies problem to solve except them. Leave it alone. Not your problem don’t make it yours
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But I want to be a good friend and try to help her
Holy smokes that’s way too young. They both need to realize it’s huge monumental responsibility that’s nothing to be taken lightly. There are costs that are involved such as medcial & buying diapers & formula. etc. Plus it can hurt there future should they desire to collage later on down the road etc or where there plains where for the future. Who is going to foot the medcial bills for it? It’s not cheap to have a child. When My neice had hers the cost was $20,000 alone in medcial costs. They need to get a grip & reaize it.
They are under the influence and have no idea. Cut their fix and see if their relationship lasts.
Physical contact (esp. sex) triggers the release of the drug-like hormones involved in infatuation (commonly mistaken as “love”): oxytocin, dopamine, serotonin, etc. These hormones systematically shut down parts of the brain (ever notice how “in love” people are often blind to red flags obvious to everyone else) and artificially inflate the the sense of intimacy & health of the relationship (which is why some cultures banned physical contact before marriage).
So dare them to test and discover the true state of their relationship MINUS the chemical high impairing their judgement. If their love is real, it should last months after their agreement. If they cannot go without physical contact, then their love us false and the basis of it all is a chemical high. If they cannot agree to the test, my previous conclusion is true and even they already know it, subconsciously at the very least.
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I can’t make them stop seeing each other, And I doubt they will do this test if I mention it
Also, miscarriages happen when the body knows it’s not able to carry to full term and/or severe genetic defects were detected and her own body has deemed the child unfit for life, hence mercy-killing it. Her own body knows this isn’t right.
Also, unless both of them can make an honest living to take care of themselves and a child, they have no right to create life.
Educate them, at least about them hormonal high and dare them. Even if they do not agree to it (yet), it should begin to sow the seeds of doubt in their minds.
This is not about making them stop seeing each other, which does not seem possible at this state. It’s about making them not WANT TO see each other.
If worst comes to absolute worst, copy a link to child porn she posts and report it to your local police.
Be warned. This will be messy (very, VERY messy), they WILL go to jail, they will be in the sex offenders’ registry for life, and their lives will be effectively Hell from hence forth… but they will be separated… by law enforcement.
That said, I’d advise doing the only only after consulting with their parents and as last resort.
She hasn’t posted any sex videos since last month. And I tried to tell them what you said and they both screamed at me on the phone and told me off and hung up and I think she might’ve blocked me on Snapchat. I was just trying to help ughh :/
I tried to explain what you said in the first message and I got told off. Her boyfriend told me to stay out of their fucking lives and that they don’t need to take some stupid test and they know they love each other and my friend called me a jealous bitch and told me to go get bent? (I have no idea what she means by that) and I said I was just trying to help and she screamed at me I don’t need your fucking help Jessica and hung up the phone
This is a mental issue. The boy is clearly not a good influence and I think they should get some professional help. I’m talking Dr. Phil type shit. I can’t express how stupid I think her ‘boyfriend’ is. “He wants a baby because he didn’t have a father figure” that is is complete garbage. God forbid they have a baby, he/she is going to have a terrible fucking life. Or does the 14 year old boy in grade 9 think that he can provide for a whole human being. This is nothing more than some kids acting dumb and thinking that they are some magical invincible righteous couple. If this goes on she’s going to mess her whole body up and live a miserable adult life. This actually enrages some so much
Asker - reading your responses it seems that you yourself don’t understand the situation fully just like your friend and her boyfriend. This is why young teens shouldn’t be sexually active. Anyways, I would highly suggest talking to as many adult figures as possible and trying to get them help ( counselor at school, your parents etc). I understand you want to help your friends but they aren’t willing to accept help at this time and are putting themselves in a very bad situation. Please talk to more adults about this
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Ok thank you. I will do that when I go to school on Monday
They are 13 and 14 years old. Their brain doesn’t stop growing until about 26. Of course they are stupid and so is the chick in the youtube video by the way her boyfriend was 14 at the time. She’s now 15 and her boyfriend is 16 and they live in a shitty apartment, barely getting by with no support from either parents. They think they know everything so let them be. That girl has a terrible attitude and I wouldn’t be surprised if the guy did too. This is why you need a father in your life. No matter if your a girl or guy. Being raised by a single parent results in shit like This
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That’s not true. I am raised by just my mom and I have straight A’s and don’t even have a boyfriend but I wouldn’t do this. I want to go to UCLA when I’m older and do something with my life. I don’t like kids
Being raised by one parent has nothing to do with this. I was raised by my mom and I have a masters degree and I’m a nurse practioner. My brother is an RN and my other brother is a lawyer. It’s all about being a stable parent, which neither of these kids have. It has nothing to do with being a single parent
whatever backlash and negative shit they get towards them, they fucking deserve it. They are completely immature and don’t have any ounce of common sense or respect for anyone. You do this and post it on snapchat, yeah your gonna get backlash because this is fucked up. This is in no circumstance ok. You wanna do adult activities and put it out there, be prepared to feel the heat of others! I don’t care if they don’t like it, they need to hear it because most people speak the truth. Show them what everyone says on here. This is not acceptable and I’m sure that youtube girl has harsh comments as well. When the hell did it become perfectly acceptable to have 13 and 14 year olds become parents? My parents would’ve beat my ass so hard back in the day and the boys ass
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I’m not showing them this because that won’t do anything. They won’t care. I just want to try and help her. I get your mad but that’s not helping. I don’t know how to help
I personally don't think that's okay. I'm 14 and I feel that most people my age would be flirting, but not really getting into anything. They also don't have the means to support the child, they can't even get a job. I think all of this is wrong, and if they truly love each other, then they should wait.
Wait `til she's sound asleep and then stick an IUD up inside of her. Or, sneak a diaphragm up into her. Or get a jar of rubber cement and fill her up with it. Maybe you can sew her shut. Put a few spikes in her so that, when she shoves his dick into her, it gets all sliced up and he won't be able to fuck. What about razor wire?
Let me get this straight. They think they don’t need anybody else except each other? They think they know everything? They are 13 and 14 years old They are rude af to anybody trying to help them Omg... what a bunch of conceited air heads. I don’t care what shit you’ve been through this is just ridiculous! Let her get pregnant and what ever happens is karma for both of them. I can’t understand people like this. Anyways - can't HELP OTHERS WHO DONT WANT HELP
They're most likely not going to listen to you and are going to have to learn the hard way. Personally, since they want a baby at this young of an age. I wouldn't be friends with any of them anymore. Not worth the drama or annoyance.
You sometimes can't convince people im Sorry to say that and i really wish i could help but sometimes if you try talking to them and they just refuse to listen there's not much you can do, im sorry
This shit is stupid. This isn't medivel times, you'll live long enough to have healthy children. They can wait until they grow up a bit. Ya know, get a real stable job, a place to live, etc.
Just tell her that due to her age she's most likely going to die whilst giving birth, and I doubt she'd want to have a child that's raised without a mother or want to die.
I’ve never seen such a dumber ass... if she wants to ruin her life then let her. You can’t make her do anything. She’ll realize how hard motherhood is eventually.
You can’t cure stupid op. If her mom can’t be sensible enough to get her a depo shot and neither of their parents bother to control them so :/
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So many teenagers getting pregnant and not knowing what they he’ll they are getting into. It’s sad. There’s nothing you can do. They are both super ignorant and think they know everything and oh well.
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You can’t stop someone from having sex and conceiving a baby. You and their parents can warn them all they want but as soon as he jizzes inside of her, games over. They both seem stuck in their ways and think they can handle this. It’s sad. I feel so sad seeing that little girl in the youtube video and she seems so happy about it too. Like no. You are children, act like children.
Just hope she wasn’t ovulating and doesn’t end up pregnant. That’s all I can say. This entire situation sucks. I’m sorry I wish I could help or give you ways to help but I don’t even know what to do in this situation.
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Id just be like so how are you going to support a baby? Last time i checked yo mamma was the one keeping your ass alive.
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Can’t help stupid. If only nature would weed them out quicker
i watched 16 and pregnant the secret life of a American teenager and teen mom
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This is a terrible sick joke. You’re a terrible troll. There’s no way this is real. Get a life and find something else to do with your time
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This isn’t a joke or a troll. Unfortunately this is real life. I want to help my friend and I’m sorry you feel like this is a joke and trust me I wish it was but it’s not and it’s what’s really going on. :/
I just want to try and get it through her head that it’s not ok to do. I just don’t know how. Sorry you feel the way you do but that’s how I feel on this which is why I’m reaching out
I don’t know how to make you believe that it’s not fake and it’s real. I’m sorry you think it’s fake. It’s not and it’s real life stuff. I want to be a good friend and try to help her.
😂😂😂😂😂 omg DONT apologize to me apologize to the site. Your fucking stupid and pathetic. Quit making up stories and showing off your Snapchat. Get friends in real life and then u won’t have to make up stuff. Lay off the drugs too mmmk
You can just stop. Nobody finds this funny and it’s a real story. Why would I make this up? For what purpose? I have no reason to make this up. The real person who needs to get a life is you. You keep commenting laughing emojis and showing what an ass you can be and trying to trigger me for whatever reason. Ok I get it, you think it’s fake, no matter what I say. You can stop spamming me now.
Because you are a pathetic 40 year old man living in his moms basement with no friends or life pretending to be a teen girl making this up 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 now your mad cuz you got caught 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
You make no sense. First you say that it’s my Snapchat? Which clearly it’s young teens in the pictures? And then you say I’m a 40 year old in the basement making up stories? What? I think you need to lay off the drugs. I’m sorry you got so triggered by my post. I’m a 13 year old girl seeking help for a friend and her boyfriend who aren’t in the best of situations and all you can do is act immature and belittle me? Really? Grow up and leave me alone
I truly doubt you’re 24 years old @tryagaintroll. This sounds like something coming from a 10 year old. If you are 24, you are a sad excuse for an adult. Try acting your age born your IQ
you can tell a school therapist and then they can get therapy for her and him, my friend was once going through self harm and shit and she wouldn't stop and wasn't getting help. So i went and told a therapist and although she was kinda annoyed at first when I told her i got her a school therapist, she was so thankful afterwards.
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