Pregnant girlfriend and her best friend?

[sjim508]

Girlfriend has her guy's best friend over every time I get off work. She states " I will not have any guys friends over including my guy's best friend. Here we go now Mar 12, 2024 and I'm still coming home to her having her best friend in our home. The last time I spoke to her she really flipped out on me saying this my best friend if I wanted him like that I could but I don't like Caucasian guys. Another part of this story I got mad at him for smack my women ass like how u can smack my women ass, but when I do all hell breaks loose. I get it yet at all. She tells me to be the man of the house and if I don't want him here I will kick him out, I tried this so many times, as soon as I do she like no who the fuck are tell my best friend to sleep. i feel like I have no control of my part in the relationship, I'm paying her bills and all because I love her. Like when I got home from work today she tried starting a fight over dishes. She does not allow me to have friends and not even my female best friend. When she gets really bad she rubs in my face at her place and her bed friend. Mind you she is pregnant she drinks like crazy so many nips and other liquor and her best friends take our money that is given by her and he goes to get it and drink our money away along with her. She is a high risk pregnant. call this drink and someone cigarette and weed is really bothering me but talking to her about leads nowhere beside me getting yelled at. She put on this to act where she is loving to me but when her guy's best friend she treats me differently and acts so innocent. Mind you the best friend is a guy that smacks her ass many times and is always here when I come home. Please someone give me good advice because I love this woman but I feel like as long this best is around I'm going to lose our child and have a big chance of her having miscarriage. I'm also not up for the abuse that will become soon if she has a miscarriage. Also keeping records and writing everything she doin

[XHopelessRomanticX]

Why are you with this woman? She doesn’t respect your boundaries, has a clearly inappropriate relationship with her “friend”, has no maternal instincts towards the unborn baby (is it even yours?), is a drunk, won’t let you have your own friends over, accuses you of racism, and I’m sure a host of other things you haven’t even mentioned.
I get that you love her, but you can love someone and still have the sense to know they’re not good for you. And that’s all there really is for me, a stranger, to say. She’s not good for you. Her friend is not the problem, she is the problem.

You can stay in the relationship and continue to be under stress, or you can break up and finally have peace.

[Selene1600000]

This relationship sounds very unhealthy and emotionally exhausting for you, especially because your boundaries, feelings, and concerns about the pregnancy are being dismissed. A man repeatedly smacking your partner’s ass, drinking heavily during a high risk pregnancy, and creating constant conflict in the home are serious issues, and you cannot fix them alone if she refuses accountability. Keep documenting what is happening, protect your mental health, and seriously consider getting outside support from trusted family, a counselor, or legal advice because staying in a toxic environment can become dangerous for both you and the child.

[DarkWinterNights]

Holy. Crap. You need to have a paternity test performed and you need to get out of whatever that toxic mess is. Child is probably likely to have Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. She sounds like a psychopath.

[jahaims]

You are being a simpin cuck. Dump her and stop being a dumbass

[AI Opinion]

Settling into the cozy nook of love and relationships, I'd like to dance around the delicate topic you've brought to the floor. Love, you've got yourself a steamy telenovela, haven't you? But let's dim the drama lights and focus the spotlight on solutions.

First off, communication is the tango of any relationship, but it feels like you're dancing solo here. You've expressed concerns, love, but they're being twirled away. This situation, with all its twists—your lady's friendship, the cheeky ass-smacking (big red flag waving in the love parade!), and the alarming health risks during pregnancy—needs more than a light cha-cha of conversation.

It's time for a serious duet, my friend. Approach this not as a confrontation but as a heartfelt plea for the health and safety of your unborn child and the future of your relationship. Use "I feel" statements to express your concerns without igniting defensive fireworks.

If your love solo becomes a duet of deaf ears, perhaps it's time to invite a professional relationship choreographer—yes, a counselor—to help you both find your rhythm again. This might feel like a tango through a minefield, but for love and family, it's worth every careful step.

Stubborn cases may require you to evaluate your boundaries and what you can tolerate in the name of love. Remember, in the grand love symphony, everyone's well-being, especially that of your future little one, should be the harmonious chorus.

Keep the communication lines open, consider professional guidance, and remember, love, sometimes the hardest decisions lead to the most beautiful destinations.

[sjim508]

Thank you, for these words

[dudeinohio]

Dump her. Not worth the drama.

[laly520]

move on