Do nothing stop acknowledging their presence and counter question some questions. Watch the light go out and smile condescendingly. Enjoy 😉 it it’s the closest to just retribution.
Ok I sound bitter resentful but theoretically it’s empowering to feel you own it. The rejection can be turned on them and the power back to you.
Yes we temporarily loaned our power to be taken for granted and maybe didn’t communicate as we are too polite to ask for what we want.
One too many episodes carry on like this and you now you feel drained thinking of the what if’s.
That’s when you loaned your power by your own consent.
Don’t think they don’t know that they enjoy the boost to their own ego at your cost.
Ok the devils advocate sits in my mind not on my shoulders.
I think this way always as I’ve been repeatedly hurt and let down.
So this is my kind of power trip for each it varies. I’m up for the war bring it on !!!
As someone who's been mistreated their whole life, I just assume that everyone is an asshole that I shouldn't expect anything nice from right off the bat just to save myself the disappointment of being nice to someone only to have them be rude to me and have me looking stupid. It's then up to them to prove to me otherwise.
I would do nothing. Just because I'm nice to someone doesn't mean they are obligated to return the favor. I'm not going to try to force someone to be nice to me. If they don't like me or don't want to treat me with kindness/respect then I don't need them in my life. It's as simple as that.
I’m not kind to people because I expect something in return down the road, I’m kind to them because I want to be. And also because I’m desperate for approval. But still, I don’t “handle” people who don’t reciprocate my kindness because I never expect people to reciprocate my kindness.
If I am kind to them and later on they can't for me, I continue my kindness each time but if they start to make a habit of refusing each time I slowly start to decrease my acts of kindness till they are left with someone who just greets them and laughs and talks with them but won't do any favours for them.
But if they do favours in the future after this has happened, they have proved that they are capable of helping and that trust will begin to grow again and we will start from the beginning.
I don't do a "Remind them whenever I need something" because I feel like it makes me seem like I had ulterior motives when I did that favour for them earlier ^__^
A kindness given with the expectation of reciprocity is not a kindness at all. It is a BRIBE. Whenever I act in kindness I do so without expecting reciprocity.
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I'm starting to learn now, that if someone doesn't reciprocate my kindness, I don't need that in my life
I am a giving person to my friends/family...
If i help, its becuase i want to... not necessarily looking for a return fav.
if i need help and have asked once or twiced... truend down.. i would think twice the next time he/she asked for help.
Yes there are some people who will take advantage of that kindness but what matters most is that you've done the kindness deep in your heart without expecting a return. :)
You stop donating your kindness to them. They can't be fixed. They are broken people. Be kind to people who deserve it.
Do nothing
I do my best not to seek help from others and i do everything to repay his/her help lol. but i if such a thing happen i still probably help him i think. Not keeping bonds with people and possessions is the key i guess.
Punch then in the apple bag, and when they fall, extend your hand to help them back up Then remind then that is the 2nd time you helped and the favour wasn't extended.. Right @ChetAtkins...
I don't talk to them. We all have a choice whether to be nice or not...
If they have a legitimate reason they can't, then I let it pass. But if they are just being jerks then they can eat shit, choke to death on it, and go to fucking hell!
Do nothing. Then when they need help again, do nothing.
Simple I don’t show any kindness. Be respectful to me and I’ll give you the same respect. I also don’t disrespect people that respect themselves.
Never bothered me. I am kind because that's who I am and not looking for praises.
Depending on who they are, I usually stop being kind to them.
Don’t help them again
That's the way most people are
I shrug
I just ask someone else.
I always tend to give what I am offered
Just stop being kind to people
Ignore them. They aren’t worth my time.
I won’t help the next time.
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