Does anyone else's kindness get taken advantage of?

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I've noticed this a while ago, that people take advantage of kindness, shit... even on here they do, they just use mfs for sympathy, i had a few drinks so rn i just don't give a fuck, y'all can read a bit on how I think, they come to you when they are down, consume all your good energy throw all their bullshit on you and walk out with a smile and leave a mf carrying their bullshit, I can surely see why people are shit to others, I can understand the anger and frustration, I believe I've swallowed enough of it and I believe I've reached the limit, I just gotta stop giving a shit about people, I believe I've put people over myself long enough and I'm picking up the pieces of people and putting them back together so they can be happy, for what? It surely only fill my head with their bullshit and makes me feel bad for them, maybe I should just let em rot, maybe they deserve to rot, mfs are ungrateful and maybe I should let them drown in their own misery, to prove my point I know most won't even read this far cause it's simply just too long, I'm not much of a venter but I've realized I was much happier when I stepped on people to get to the top, it was much easier and just brought better results.

Altheavas · Accepted Answer

I have been through that phase in my life, I had become bitter, angry, hateful.
The things is it’s because you care too much, you have a good heart, you’re punctual available to them.
When something/someone is too good no one knows its/their value because it’s always at their reach, they only know the value of something that is rare, and they have to sweat, or get out of their way to reach out. Be a tantalum, iridium, gold 😂, these metals are valuable, expensive, because they are rare. If they were available like copper, zinc, iron that are available almost everywhere they wouldn’t be rare or expensive. You’ve said it, you feel like you’ve been taken advantage of. Stop being available, stay as you are, kind, be kind for yourself with yourself, they’ll keep reaching out, but you won’t be as available as you were.

Don’t expect anything back after you give someone an advise, just be reserve about it and stay professional, detach yourself from them or their situation.

I feel like I should have known this a long time ago? Don’t stop being kind, is being kind part of your true-self, or for the validation of others?
Stay kind, if you feel that their entourage is going to drain your energy, stop participating, don’t go where they are. don’t force yourself, take your power where you feel control of how you want to feel.
Know that not everyone deserves your energy.

You’re not a therapist, so make them answer their own questions too.

mandyfire98 · Accepted Answer

Yeah it definitely happens. I think most people are deep down ultimately focused on themselves and thats something we all have to fight against and overcome. We are survival minded individuals who are automatically geared towards taking care of ourselves so in doing that sometimes we might not even know we are taking advantage of people, it's just happening naturally.

People by nature are self centered creatures because we view things from a first person perspective. It's up to each of us to correct that and work hard to have empathy and see things from other people's perspectives. We should all work harder to be more mindful of others.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

No. Because I'm impervious to feeling bad for anyone on here. I assume somebody is lying at least 50% of the time. So whatever someone tells me is already 50% 🦬💩. Also I learned a secret to happiness long ago. NO EXPECTATIONS. I never expect anything, from anybody, anytime, ever. You can't hurt me, because I don't expect you to be decent human being. I expect you to be a price of 💩. And therefore I am never let down. I'm not kind. And I'm not trying to be. I'm trying to give people what I feel they need. Some people that's a reality check and a smack up side the head, some people that's a hug. But I DO NOT care how they respond to it. Because I didn't do it for them. I did it because it was the right thing to do.

Sonorous · Accepted Answer

Nah. Not anymore. But only because I've become completely okay with being disagreeable over the years. Like I give no fucks now it's crazy. I'm also less willing to help people in many ways. I don't like to be bothered most times.

7Phoenix7 · Answer

I feel you 🥲 . You have to put yourself first sometimes or people will take advantage.  And don't drain your good energy for everyone because not everyone deserves it.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Yes, it happens. Give an inch and someone will take a mile.

rachel776 · Answer

yes but stay kind

Thestupidusername · Answer

Yup! Definatly notice my kindness taken advantage of.. People seam to think if you forgive them they can do it all again..

Lisia · Answer

Everything okay? And yeah I agree.. I call those people energy vampires.

Anonymous · Answer

You don't need to take it to your heart. It's like they might be feeling too low so they tell you to lighten up their mood and I know it might be disturbing for you but you shouldn't think too much. God is there so see everyone. If you are helping someone God is there to pay you. Stop thinking about people. They are just bullshit. If you are helping someone God will send someone to help you...

The-Stud · Answer

I don't want to bother you.. just curious.. what you drinking?

Lyndsielee666 · Answer

That’s when you stop being nice friend

QuietRunner · Answer

yes it is often

TiaNour · Answer

To much

Tearsdropp2 · Answer

Yup.

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