Does anyone else's kindness get taken advantage of?

[ChicoFromThe305]

I've noticed this a while ago, that people take advantage of kindness, shit... even on here they do, they just use mfs for sympathy, i had a few drinks so rn i just don't give a fuck, y'all can read a bit on how I think, they come to you when they are down, consume all your good energy throw all their bullshit on you and walk out with a smile and leave a mf carrying their bullshit, I can surely see why people are shit to others, I can understand the anger and frustration, I believe I've swallowed enough of it and I believe I've reached the limit, I just gotta stop giving a shit about people, I believe I've put people over myself long enough and I'm picking up the pieces of people and putting them back together so they can be happy, for what? It surely only fill my head with their bullshit and makes me feel bad for them, maybe I should just let em rot, maybe they deserve to rot, mfs are ungrateful and maybe I should let them drown in their own misery, to prove my point I know most won't even read this far cause it's simply just too long, I'm not much of a venter but I've realized I was much happier when I stepped on people to get to the top, it was much easier and just brought better results.

[Altheavas]

I have been through that phase in my life, I had become bitter, angry, hateful.
The things is it’s because you care too much, you have a good heart, you’re punctual available to them.
When something/someone is too good no one knows its/their value because it’s always at their reach, they only know the value of something that is rare, and they have to sweat, or get out of their way to reach out. Be a tantalum, iridium, gold 😂, these metals are valuable, expensive, because they are rare. If they were available like copper, zinc, iron that are available almost everywhere they wouldn’t be rare or expensive. You’ve said it, you feel like you’ve been taken advantage of. Stop being available, stay as you are, kind, be kind for yourself with yourself, they’ll keep reaching out, but you won’t be as available as you were.


Don’t expect anything back after you give someone an advise, just be reserve about it and stay professional, detach yourself from them or their situation.


I feel like I should have known this a long time ago? Don’t stop being kind, is being kind part of your true-self, or for the validation of others?
Stay kind, if you feel that their entourage is going to drain your energy, stop participating, don’t go where they are. don’t force yourself, take your power where you feel control of how you want to feel.
Know that not everyone deserves your energy.


You’re not a therapist, so make them answer their own questions too.

[ChicoFromThe305]

It's hard not to be kind for me, I wish it wasn't like that but it is, I appreciate the time and effort you put into my question, very well said missy, thanks 🙂💯

[mandyfire98]

Yeah it definitely happens. I think most people are deep down ultimately focused on themselves and thats something we all have to fight against and overcome. We are survival minded individuals who are automatically geared towards taking care of ourselves so in doing that sometimes we might not even know we are taking advantage of people, it's just happening naturally.

People by nature are self centered creatures because we view things from a first person perspective. It's up to each of us to correct that and work hard to have empathy and see things from other people's perspectives. We should all work harder to be more mindful of others.

[ChicoFromThe305]

I agree

[Anonymous]

No. Because I'm impervious to feeling bad for anyone on here. I assume somebody is lying at least 50% of the time. So whatever someone tells me is already 50% 🦬💩. Also I learned a secret to happiness long ago. NO EXPECTATIONS. I never expect anything, from anybody, anytime, ever. You can't hurt me, because I don't expect you to be decent human being. I expect you to be a price of 💩. And therefore I am never let down. I'm not kind. And I'm not trying to be. I'm trying to give people what I feel they need. Some people that's a reality check and a smack up side the head, some people that's a hug. But I DO NOT care how they respond to it. Because I didn't do it for them. I did it because it was the right thing to do.

[Sonorous]

Nah. Not anymore. But only because I've become completely okay with being disagreeable over the years. Like I give no fucks now it's crazy. I'm also less willing to help people in many ways. I don't like to be bothered most times.

[7Phoenix7]

I feel you 🥲 . You have to put yourself first sometimes or people will take advantage. And don't drain your good energy for everyone because not everyone deserves it.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yea that's true, thanks for the supportive words Phoenix 🙂💯

[7Phoenix7]

You're welcome hope you didn't drink too much lol

[ChicoFromThe305]

Ehh I controlled myself, sorta lol

[7Phoenix7]

Lol drink water

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well I'm chillin now, that was last night my puffy haired friend 😂

[7Phoenix7]

I thought maybe you had a hangover lol but u dont so that's good. I'm glad, my fluffy haired buddy

[ChicoFromThe305]

I actually didn't sleep, can't have a hang over if I don't fall asleep 😂

How have you been tho?

[ChicoFromThe305]

No matter how much you rub it, you can mess something that's already messy 😂

[7Phoenix7]

Ok now that's even worse. 💀 Whyyy?

You gonna feel terrible if you don't.

[ChicoFromThe305]

I have insomnia, I'm waiting for the night time now so I can sleep, gotta fix the schedule ha

[7Phoenix7]

Lol true but I honestly just like doing that to fluffy hair 😅

[ChicoFromThe305]

I'm not surprised you do, when I was in high school girls were always touching my hair, I couldn't even sit in peace cause in one class the girl behind me would randomly start touching my hair, I have the feeling you were one of those hair touchers. Lol

[7Phoenix7]

I was! 🫢 lmao

[ChicoFromThe305]

I knew it lol

[rachel776]

yes but stay kind

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yep it was just a wave of depression, I'm chillin now

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[ChicoFromThe305]

So much for the view image thingy

This site just hates me 😐

[rachel776]

make sure it says. jpg or. gif on the end

[ChicoFromThe305]

But how do I get it with the jpg, man I feel old, is this how old people feel with technology, this feeling sucks damn

[rachel776]

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part, without all the spaces

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[ChicoFromThe305]

I give up with this shit, maybe I'll try when I haven't pulled an all nighter, thanks for trying 😂💯

[Thestupidusername]

Yup! Definatly notice my kindness taken advantage of.. People seam to think if you forgive them they can do it all again..

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yep definitely seems that way, people smh

[Thestupidusername]

Yeah:/ but then at least the bad action is on them not me. I just cut them out for good after that and move on

[Thestupidusername]

Reading the discription hope you start putting yourself first.:)

[ChicoFromThe305]

If I do put myself first it would most likely be in a toxic way, once released there might not be a way to put that genie back in the bottle

[Thestupidusername]

Yeah but sometimes thats nessecary but thats up to you to deside

[ChicoFromThe305]

I'd have to think about it

[Thestupidusername]

👍👍

[Nikki1989]

Yes, it happens. Give an inch and someone will take a mile.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Kindness Is bullshit

[Lisia]

Everything okay? And yeah I agree.. I call those people energy vampires.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Define okay cause I haven't been okay since I was 13

Seems like these energy vampires are everywhere

[Lisia]

Okay is for me how you usually feel from a day to day basis.. did something happen?

[ChicoFromThe305]

Something is always happening here but I'm alive, so thats my form of okay I guess

[Lisia]

Okay, just please don't bottle it up and drink your pain and/or worries away.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Easier said than done, I envy y'all for having a peace of mind, I miss that shit

[Lisia]

I really don't.. and yeah I know. I'm just lucky to have sleep as a coping mechanism instead of substances.

[ChicoFromThe305]

So what's bothering you?

[Lisia]

Me? It's about you rn

[ChicoFromThe305]

Nah I already don't feel comfortable with the amount I already vented, i gotta suck it up, maybe helping you will make me feel better

[Lisia]

Venting is healthy :)) and for me, I'm just depressed but I already go to therapy

[ChicoFromThe305]

I grew up believing, never vent to a woman, they will see you differently and it shows weakness, I've always abided by that rule and I will continue doing so, it's fine tho, I'll snap out of it, I've done it for years now, but why are you depressed? I don't think I'd forgive myself if I left you this way, fuck the therapist, all they care about is money.

[Lisia]

True but I actually found out that I have ADHD so great that I went anyway.. I don't think venting to a woman is bad-.. I feel like the same goes for crying. But it's whatever you feel comfortable with. My depression is due to a mix of a lot of different things tbh like the shit happening at home.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well I'm not here to force it out of you, i respect your privacy, whatever you are going through at home, for as long as I'm here, you aren't alone 💯

[Lisia]

Same goes for you!

[ChicoFromThe305]

Mhm.

[jcampbell115]

Energy vampires! I like that term haha

[Anonymous]

You don't need to take it to your heart. It's like they might be feeling too low so they tell you to lighten up their mood and I know it might be disturbing for you but you shouldn't think too much. God is there so see everyone. If you are helping someone God is there to pay you. Stop thinking about people. They are just bullshit. If you are helping someone God will send someone to help you...

[ChicoFromThe305]

Thanks anon, you are right, God will repay, but I'm only human you know, if I can give away my emotions to feel nothing I would.

[The-Stud]

I don't want to bother you.. just curious.. what you drinking?

[ChicoFromThe305]

Some whiskey

[Lyndsielee666]

That’s when you stop being nice friend

[ChicoFromThe305]

Indeed.

[QuietRunner]

yes it is often

[TiaNour]

To much

[Tearsdropp2]

Yup.