How come some people keep being nice and helpful even if you are rude or dismiss them?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

They love & care about you. They stand your outbursts because they know you are going tru a lot of pain.

I too care about you a lot even if you are mean with me sometimes. Many people care for you here too even when you treat them badly.

Poppykate · Accepted Answer

I am assuming you are talking about your fiancée. It’s because she loves you! She sees that are are going through a tough situation, and is giving you tolerance.

Sonorous · Answer

Because they either don't take it personally, or they want to appear as if they don't take it personally. Either way, it's a way of coping that could potentially help them grow into the person they'd want to become. For whatever reason, they're trying to resist their shadow. Or they're just naive and can't accurately judge whether or not someone is being hostile towards them. 🤔

CaptainOverthink · Answer

Because they understands that ill-will commonly stems from personal turbulance and the internal struggle that person is facing.
The events they've gone through and how they've been treated plays a role in who they've turned out to be.

Keeping that in mind while engaging in a rude confrontation help to distance yourself from the hurt they are trying to cause. Sometimes it's not YOU that's the problem. This is just them ventilating emotional pressure any way they can. Probably unknowingly as well.

Being rude back doesn't solve anything and probably will make it worse. It's better to try and see past the reaction and try to listen to the person.
Ask yourself.. what can you do? What can you say without saying too much. Start with accepting their precense if possible.

uniquelyshy · Answer

Well honestly im the type of girl who lives in the moment, so yeah ud be mad or sad you were so rude to me but yeah ud still be nice to you cause you deserve it and you dont deserve to be treated bad just cause you push someone away or say something rude, I mean you could have any number of reasons as to why you did what you did to me so I dont mind at all, cause I dont know what youve been through so you could have a reason to be the way you are so its all good, I have no right to judge you and I should try to understand you before I treat you badly in a way you dont deserve.

SimpleShai · Answer

Because they love you. They want to love your pain away. They understand why you’re acting out and they can see what you think you are hiding. So they are giving you grace. Showing compassion. Hoping the love will warm your cold heart up one of these days.

YHL6965 · Answer

They might believe that being mean won't help the situation or they might understand that it's not about them or that you act this way for certain reasons like not feeling too well at this particular moment. Some people are also beyond that as they do their best to not let themselves be affected by negative things, especially small things.

Also, sometimes, when someone is being rude, the other person acting kind might make them question themselves : "Why am I acting so rude towards someone being so kind?".

Holisticapproachsara · Answer

They are people who believe in being kind and that it can reward them. Maybe that is their personality. I was like that in the past and its so wrong and damaging. I would bring my abusers gifts hoping they would treat me with kindness. How wrong i was. Thankfully i have changed. Because it was too dangerous to remain that way

Commander_Red · Answer

Because that's who they are, and I think we need more people like them. When I was much younger, I used to be very rude, dismissive, and just mean in general, but when people have me a helping hand and we're just nice, I realized how awful of person I was and made serious changes to my personality.

Puppystarfish23 · Answer

I'm like this myself and it just because I generally can't be bothered to go to the effect of scooping down to others level. I'd rather have positive vibes and show love and be loved by others. If someone has a problem with me let them I don't care, they can't hate me by themselves and make themselves look a fool by starting a fight, I can't be bothered to acknowledge

flamiE · Answer

It’s what we’re taught. How we treat others is a reflection of how we feel on the inside, so if someone treats us bad we just send prayers their way, hope they find the inner peace they need so they can start treating others better too.

nelly83 · Answer

you need to realize that if other people are rude to you for no reason, its THEIR problem. It has nothing to do with you. They probably live miserable lives or are unhappy

MilaRay · Answer

Sometimes people think you are hurting and try to be nice to you because they want the world to be a little easier to live in🤷🏽‍♀️ If they are nice maybe your mood will lift

Jayceeleigh · Answer

It’s the “kill them with kindness method” some people believe you catch more flies with honey and can be nice through anything. Others it’s a struggle but they’ll keep being nice to make you mad. And some people are genuinely happy and could care less about some mean person.. I fall into none of these categories.

RolandCuthbert · Answer

I honestly wish I was one of those people. I get pissed off with myself for having no patience.

curiouschrissy · Answer

If its in a heated argument then they most likely are being sarcastic and doing it to upset you more.. kill them with kindness.

Amaoctober · Answer

We all have gifts that are natural. Those people are gifted to be nice even to the enemy and the purpose is to show you that it is easier to be nice than being hard on people. If anything we are born to be nice to everyone, but nature change us.

Egirl28 · Answer

Killing them with kindness and sometimes its just that person's values or personality

taeh_ie2 · Answer

Just a better thing to do then follow along with the other.

Iamasking · Answer

Honestly, i've never met anyone who keep being nice. I can't wait to read comments!

LemiaOfTheCodes · Answer

Some people refuse to accept the nasty side of you and believe thay with there help you can be nice

Phoenix98 · Answer

Well some of us are just genuinely good people and that's just how we are.

Not_Average · Answer

A lack of self respect or a willingness to see past people’s negative emotions.

douride2 · Answer

I don't know why I am so nice all the time. It's a mystery.

JakeS00 · Answer

It’s the compassion and kindness. For me it’s mercy/compassion and love for one.

Anonymous · Answer

If I do this it's because I can tell that the person has mental health problems or anger problems and is being irrational.

boxcarjoe · Answer

Some people were treated poorly by their parrents so they see rude or dismissal as love and affection

Anonymous · Answer

Because people who are rude or disrespectful feed on angering people, and giving in will not be of any benefit

pjf1958 · Answer

Some people believe it is their right to be patronizing to certain groups or individuals because of their altruistic disposition towards them. The Democrats displayed this behavior after the election.

rienna888 · Answer

Cuz they were born like that. They usually get taken advantage of.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably because some people are just that much better than certain pieces of shit deserve. That's just a guess though.

Stoner710 · Answer

It’s nit easy but you got to realize it’s not you just because there in a bad mood doesn’t mean you can’t be nice to them

ScotishLegend · Answer

Some people refuse to accept the nasty side of you and believe thay with there help you can be nice and Some people are just nasty.

Nazgol · Answer

They're hoping their love will overwhelm & change you, or it's in their ethics

Ctt200101 · Answer

I think it’s easier to be nice than rude in most situations

Sarahr123 · Answer

They’re too nice for this world. They get hurt the most because of their soft personality.

psychoticanimaIIover · Answer

The meaner you treat ‘em, the keener you keep ‘em.

simplesarah · Answer

Becuase they see the pain underneath the anger.

msc545 · Answer

They have manners while apparently you don't.

sheikalana · Answer

"Kill them with kindness."

Emperorxxxemilio · Answer

Why would you be rude to somebody being nice to you? That’s dumb.

DailyFairy · Answer

Thats their personality

Sia_nee · Answer

Because they're nice people

Kit_Kat88 · Answer

They usually want something

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds like the traits of a true Christian to behave in this positive manner

Sel666 · Answer

Genuine kindness!

Wowboi · Answer

They know how to play ball

_no_one_ · Answer

I feel bad for such pure souls.

Larson7 · Answer

People play games.

colin77 · Answer

Because of wisdom

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