Living with your parents after 18?

Question

Do you think its something one should be ashamed of? Or is it normal?

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

I live with my parents, and I don't find it shameful as long as your not deliberately freeloading on them and the parents don't find it bad. Not everybody is marrying young anymore, it's harder to find jobs, college is extremely expensive, people can't even get out of loans anymore, hard to even QUALIFY for loans, or benefits, or any of your basic needs to survive. This is the 21st century as many now want to call it. It is not the 20th century anymore or before the 80s, where you can just go to the store and apply for jobs, or when college was readily available and cheaper, when housing was affordable, etc. People better wake up to the 'times' and actually have compassion for people. I never would have dreamed I would still be home. I expected to be out by at least 21, overseas and living my life. Didn't happen. Life happened.

nandinikhaneja · Accepted Answer

Tbh, I am from India and many students after completing their 12th, they leave their home, I mean not completely as in they have completely cut off themselves from their parents or they earn their own money. Their parents pay their fees and if their is a holiday, they will come and live with their parents only. They do internships in college and I was also one of them who wanted to go out of my hometown and wanted to live alone, pay my expenses but I am living with my parents and I am doing my graduation from my hometown. I am happy to pursue it from here and Living with your family is not at all a bad idea.. I am not at all ashamed.. instead I am proud that I am getting a chance to spend time with my family.. I am truly staying connected to my family values which I think nobody should ever feel ashamed of!

scooogy · Answer

I tried moving out when I was 22 years old, but my father wasn't willing to support me in that and practically forced me back into his house. My little brother is the only one still living with your parents, even after our little sister moved out and our mother recommended him to finally move out since he already found a job. But all he says is "you need someone to take care of you once you're old", which is basically what the youngest of my mother's brothers did, even way after first their father then their mother died, 13 years ago.

Crystal28 · Answer

As long as you’re working and paying rent, I don’t see a problem with it. What sense does it make to move out young and struggle to live, paying for a place you can barely afford? As long as you’re welcome to stay home and you’re working hard, it isn’t something to be ashamed of.

ChaloBC · Answer

Yes and when I say yes believe me because it is coming from a person who is from South Asia.

I went for higher education after 18 after which I worked for a year there, later shifted and started staying with my parents. People might think it's weird but here it's not and here where I am from parents wants us to be with them.

I see nothing wrong in that I can take care of them as they are getting older.

swim15 · Answer

I live on my own and with my parents. I moved to an apartment in another state. But since this pandemic and being able to telework l went back to live with my parents. Because in a apartment there's nothing do after work. At my parents house, they always have plenty of landscaping work that needs done, someone to play cards with, and just someone to talk to.

Additionally, it is hard to find any woman close to my age who do want to settle down and start a family. That is the other reason, l go back and live with my parents for long stretches of time.

Daniela1982 · Answer

In this day and age perfectly normal. Let's face it, living on your own is not attainable for most people who are 18 and just out of high school. They couldn't go to college if they were on their own and hold down a job that wouldn't even give them a living wage. Most will stay at home until 21 or until they can swing it so they can afford to move out.

Soon2bmi · Answer

I think it's very normal especially since you can't be expected to have a job that pays enough to be able to get your own place from the moment you get out of high school. It's also a way to get some savings if you already do have a good job and if you're not going to college.

19vetteman91 · Answer

No not in my day (33 years ago) parents were in control of kids ! Today kids control parents, so parents need to stop being pushovers! And lay down the law! 1st of all why would you want to live with your parents? Rent is no different today compared wages when I turned 18 plus if I stayed living at home my dad would make me pay rent anyway plus still follow my parents rules. If you aren't making enough money then get YOUR LAZY ASSES out bed and WORK MORE HOURS OR GET A SECOND JOB! What the hell is wrong with you people, including your parents put your foot down!

NamerOfStars · Answer

Ashamed? No. Not proud, either. The old model of "reach 18, automatically move out immediately" was a novel idea two and a half generations ago, but before and since, it hasn't worked out especially well. It's not a bad idea to do, but it's troublesome to expect.

PureCharacter · Answer

In my country, it is very normal to stay with parents after 18, but I can understand how it would be different in other cultures.

Soleful-b3ing · Answer

Nothing to be ashamed about. I’m 22 and still live with my family. It’s normal, most the people I know are older than 18 and still live with their families. Sometimes what I do though is contribute to the household by helping pay Some bills, or doing some gardening for my house.

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

Pretty normal, definetly not something to be ashamed of.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Its not ideal. I would be ashamed but most of my friends didn't move out til 23-28 so its almost norm here in the south. I personally hope to move out before 26. We hardly act like fam anyways, more so roommates at this point

chriss · Answer

It depends on the culture in the West its seeing differently but in a country like Turkey it shouldn't be a problem because Turks in the US stay with their parents until they get married

jsincal · Answer

I lived with my parents until I moved to college. Then moved back for a year after college. You’ll naturally want to enjoy your freedom once you get the taste of independence.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

It's normal. I'm 21 and I'm still living with my parents. Most people in their early 20s will live with parents, unless they can live with a friend who has their own place. Or they have a long term partner they want to live with.

hellish-kitty · Answer

It's definitely normal, considering that everyone's situation is different, and is certainly nothing to be ashamed of.

ztrok · Answer

It's pretty normal, especially outside of America and Scandinavia.

I have a very good amount of money saved because of it and I'd rather date a girl who lives with her parents anyway.

Just don't be a mess who sits and drinks mountain dew all day

here2helpuALL · Answer

Nah. I lived with my parents until I was 23. It helped me save up to buy a house rather than jumping out and having to rent

disgustingweebtrash · Answer

Normal. Ignore all the boomers who dont understand how expensive getting a house is these days

arun934 · Answer

No. No need to be ashamed. I'm with my parents till my 21st.

Don-_-Don · Answer

I would say that it's normal, but I can't help but to feel shame about it myself.

EyesOfGod · Answer

It should be ok. Like if your trying to save for your own place staying at home is far far cheaper.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

With an average income of about $110K required to qualify for a typical two-bedroom in LA County, it is almost necessary unless you want to live with multiple bunks in a studio apartment.

Barry88 · Answer

Nothing to be ashamed of. It's different when you're past 25, or 30...

NaaaNcyyy · Answer

Normal. But changes a lot depending on the country/culture. I think once you start working it's time to move out... Before it's ok to stay

Travis_Skyles · Answer

Seems fine to me. I mean the cost of living would be much lower so you can actually start saving.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Normal... a friend of mine is 26 and lives with his parents, his net worth is £3million

Brakesareoverrated · Answer

If a person is hot they can still get away with it.

leftis25 · Answer

I dont like it but when you get paid 500-600 per month and the rent is 350 i dont think you got a choice brah.. we live in bad lifetime

jasco · Answer

I am 18 and i live with my parents due to highschool so yea

codyccc · Answer

Should be instantly be conscripted into the army for no less than 5 years

Anonymous · Answer

No, it is not. If you can't afford where else you can go. You have dual accounts am I right?

Liz_thorne · Answer

In germany it is normal.

Cryptic-Game · Answer

Most do until 21 or 22 so it is common. Normal, probably not entirely.

andy530 · Answer

No it’s quite normal. No shame needed

coffeewithcream · Answer

Pretty much normal now.

LoveForSmall · Answer

its normal here

SunnyCaliGirl · Answer

Your of adulthood age, do what you want

worldscolide · Answer

i dunno... I moved out at 16 though..

Aquiline_feast · Answer

Good if you have to and need to.

ConfusedGuy96 · Answer

Very normal

Bernys777 · Answer

i still do,

asshole_ · Answer

Yeah

Fuentes · Answer

Normal

hknmhmn4 · Answer

It’s too normal

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