When is too old to be living with your parents?

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When does it become loser living in basement never leaving the nest (even without a pandemic)

sagevalentineee · Accepted Answer

It totally depends on the situation. In China it's common for young girls to live with family until marriage. But there's a huge difference between bright young person who is saving money, making friends, going out, perhaps working on a career and a person who is moping around at home with no life goals, not wanting to go out and doing anything for themselves.

Living with parents beyond 18 can help you to save a bit of money whilst in your early job until you're ready to buy your own place.

Too old is when you start getting into very very serious relationships (marriage, that person is over 24/7, children) at this time you really need your own space. Also there comes a point when you have no reason not to move out. At 25 it's starting to be a bit strange.

But also university changes things, if you study for 6 years, you may be part time living with your parents until 24. And then you find a job, so you may be living with parents for another 2 years. It all depends on your circumstance.

DianaWest · Accepted Answer

30. i don't understand people who waste their money on a crappy shoe box of an apartment that they share with 4 other people when they could be saving it to buy a house when they get married, save it for their future babies, or for a vacation, for retirement, etc. moving out when you are still on rocky ground with job/finances is idiotic for me personally. once i have a stable job, which i am hoping happens by 25, i want to still live with my parents for a few more years to save up as much money as possible. not to buy a shoebox apartment that smells like cat piss. anyways, i guess people love their "independence" so they can bang all night long with their next door neighbour. i don't particularly care though how others live their life or about their opinion on how i live mine.

Qdbrown · Accepted Answer

There is no ideal age. Just reasons why you probably shouldn't be living with your parents.

For guys, to maintain a gamer's addiction and or alcohol. Whenever a man is not facing the world, it's probably a bad idea.

For women, to just hang around waiting for the right person to show up, scared of the world. This is that classic find your tribe and pool place in the world.

Parents and family are hopefully there, not all that option, if one falls on bad times, bankrupt, sick or incapable to be on their own out of their control. Sometimes it makes more to be back home saving money and getting their life back together.

However, getting a life back together is not dating while living at home, unless that means getting ready to move back out. Nothing looks more pathetic than a grown man living at home while trying to date. That only works about college and down. After that, just sad...

abc3643 · Accepted Answer

There is no such age.
Frankly, you are not a loser to still live with parents. Most homes were multigenerational for many years. A multigenerational home is a home in which there are at least two different adult generations living in the home. When I was born, our home became 4 generations: Me, my parents, my father's parents, and my grandfather's mother.

This sort of thing was common and for a good reason: to save money and because there were no social safety nets way back when. Well, the last 40 years of conservative economic policies have led to a very bad situation involving income inequality such that, unless you are born wealthy, you are going to have a rougher time getting wealthy. So, living at home for as long as you can to save money and get a good start in life should not be considered embarrassing.

HawkPerception · Answer

Reading the comments here absolutely disgusts me. You're a loser if you don't move out and have your shit together by a certain age? Most answers I'm seeing are 25-30. I even saw one person say 20. This is why I hate most humans. Everyone has their own path in life and everyone goes a different pace on that path. No one really wants to live with their parents and have that societal label of "loser", but money and jobs is a stressful topic and some more than others have a hard time getting them. The more I live life, the less I care about opinions of people with low maturity levels like this. I live with my mom at 27 and still trying to figure my shit out. Shoot me for it.

Lauren-green · Answer

I don't particularly think you can put a standard on that. Everyone lives in different situations, and in some cultures people stay living at home with their parents longer than others as well. Plus everybody is in different situations, some still live at home to look after their parents / siblings. Some stya at their parents rather than renting, to save money for a home deposit etc etc.

I myself moved out of home at 18, however my older sister stayed until she was 22.

In my opinion, if you're over 25 and can afford your own place, it's time to let your parents have some alone time without their children still living with them. Extenuating circumstances excluded of course.

Katebfun · Answer

Past 25. But it also depends there's some cultures that the whole family lives together to save money and combine resources.

I have a cousin who's married with two kids. And his mom and Dad recently moved into their house to save money and help raise the kids. So it could be beneficial financially and if you get along with your parents that's even better. Don't let other people's opinions change your judgment. You can save a lot of money get your finances in order and buy a house and get a good decent job by living with your parents. Do what feels right to you.

BrokenPromises · Answer

I’m 28 next week and I moved back in with my dad last year. I had a break up and he was my safety net for walking away from my relationship. Due to the pandemic, it’s been difficult to move out etc.
I personally think there’s no shame in living with your parents at any age. They brought you up and sometimes their comfort gets you through pain and heartache.

MCheetah · Answer

Once you hit 30 and over. If you already have a job and are out of college, then I'd say 25 and over. It mostly depends on the situation though; as long as you aren't being a leech and a bum and as long as you're actually trying to save up money to move out.

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

With the way Californians and large investment firms are ass raping the housing market right now, there's no shame in living with your parents or in a shared house unless you put the shame on yourself. This is not the time to try to buy and it isn't the time to find a good rental. A lot of people are about to lose everything when the market recoils from the rampant overpricing and manipulation. If a bitch doesn't like that you live at home, she can go fuck herself with a razor-blade dildo. Be responsible for yourself and your finances, her failures to understand the reality of or value of money is not your burden to bear.

1Anon · Answer

It depends on your situation. I lived with my much older parents until I was 30/31 because I was getting my masters and PhD and I was trying to establish my legal career. Plus, my dad and I were looking after my mum. When my mum had a lucid day, she and my dad told me to go be with the man I loved and was dating. So, I moved out, moved across the world to go be with the guy who became my husband.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I think it depends on your family and your cultural background. I know a guy who is well into middle age and he lived away during college and the military, but he's lived at home ever since his late 20's. Probably a good thing since he is an only child and his parents needed his help.

Anonymous · Answer

The move out at 18 thing or in your early 20s is not really good advice anymore that comes from the older generations. The cost of living is high in places now and unless you hit your luck financially you will have to stay with a parent or someone in your 20s or until you generate enough income and savings to support yourself. Older generations still go based on how they lived but don't realize that the world is still changing and cost of things are higher than in their time when they were our age. I mean they may notice it but don't consider that when actually talking.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Never, really, it's all in your mind! Dad lived with his mother until she died, I was in my teens, at the time, and I lived with my mother `til she died 5 years ago. Then, my greedy, evl bitch ex-sisters had me kicked out of what SHOULD STILL be MY house and now, I'm here at what used to be grandma's house (on mom's side).

AdithyaR · Answer

Depends on the culture. Here in India, the idea of joint families is common and encouraged. So people often live with their parents all the time, even extended family at times.
Plus it makes it easier for me to provide for my parents once I start earning.

exitseven · Answer

It depends. Housing is very expensive in many parts of the country. Or maybe they are paying off student debt. I moved back in with my mother so I could save up for a down payment on a house. I was 25.

Apple1996 · Answer

Living with parents past 20 just seems like a embarrassment and I truly hope that my kids have their life together by the time they graduate high school so they ain't living with me anymore

Mofunfour20 · Answer

I think 16, thats when I left for boarding school. I hated living at home. The more comfortable you are living with parents the less inclined youd be to leave

jamesgoldman · Answer

These days with everything going backwards say 35

N. b. a crumbling wreck of a place here would need £100,000 to put down a deposit, pay the dues and fix up enough to be livable plus saddling yourself with another £200,000 in debt

muscularbumblebee · Answer

24-25 probably. At least In a big city where I live everyone is out around that age living with flatmates and if lucky alone

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

When you can afford to put the deposit down on a house.

pleasestopthis · Answer

I don't think it's shameful to live with parents unless the person is a lazy ass who doesn't help at all and stays all day watching TV.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

After 30 is too old in my opinion unless its a short term emergency or you’re taking care of them

msc545 · Answer

It depends on what you are doing. If you are a college student, you might have to do this for financial reasons. Other than this, if you are over 21 and working, you should be living on your own.

Anonymous · Answer

I live my parents because I am afraid to live alone. I tried twice and that wasn't good. One time a guy follows me to my house. That was a nightmare.

BubbaTech · Answer

NEVER to old, if you have a job. Pay your bills and help support the household.

Anonymous · Answer

My mom lives with her mom and she's like 50 so wouldn't really say there's a limit

Anonymous · Answer

not anymore  abraham literally lived with his family till his late 30s

MotorcycleMan · Answer

After you graduate from college or not long after.

IveGotNoName · Answer

Twenty-five

malwins · Answer

Never lmao

MrJMM · Answer

30 years old.

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