Would you live with your parents in your 20s?

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erandal · Accepted Answer

Sure. I didn't move out until I was 32.

Now apparently, according to one other person here that makes me a "complete f**king looser" but in my 20's I not only got to save money to take myself to university but I also got to see the world. I have been to every continent, got to party almost every summer in the Mediterranean, and drove a very nice car, and I put it all down to staying with my parents and not having to spend a small fortune on rent and other bills. Yes I did pay them housekeeping but it was a drop in the ocean compared to what it could have been.

It is also worth mentioning that in my upbringing family was a huge part of my life. I like my family, if you don't then I could see why getting out as quickly as possible would be preferable. if you aren't in a similar position then you could do worse than start dating a latin boy or girl and get to see that the grass is sometimes greener on the other side.

WhatTheHeckkkk · Accepted Answer

I am 20, and I still live with my parents. If I were to jump 5 years ahead, I would still say yes to this answer. Based on the economy and market for apartments and houses, I probably would prefer to live with my parents (if I did not have a partner). I would live with them to save up money to prepare to move out.

If my parents were abusive, I probably would not live with them. I noticed that people usually say “move out” in response to someone in their 20s presenting an issue that their parents are abusive and they still live with them. I can understand both sides. There may be a reason why a 20 something year old can’t move out, maybe it’s finances or not being stable. Then again, society and certain cultures expect their children in their 20s to move out and be independent, regardless of financial situation. They make the best of what they got, to get out of an abusive situation.

Weapon77 · Accepted Answer

Why not? Most people don't finish college until they are 21 or older, and they often have to attend a local university or college. Most live at home during that time and kove out when they graduate. In my case, I was doing that when COVID hit, so I had to stay with my parents an extra few months because no one was hiring or renting apartments where I live. I've been on my own a year now, but freaking gas prices are depressing. There's a big temptation to just live with my parents to save money until I find a wife 😂 Anyway, there's nothing wrong with it as long as you have a job, and your parents are okay with it. It can be tough in the real world to get by for some people.

LohrvsData · Accepted Answer

Yeah. I lived with my parents until I was 28. Looking back, I probably would've done things the same way because that decision helped me to make a financial plan where I could afford my own place and not really have to worry about money issues, although admittedly, with inflation going on and the price of essentials like food and gas going up, it's getting more difficult. I've had to pull a few rabbits out of my hat to keep everything running.

Living with your parents can be a major drag, but on the other hand, you can concentrate on getting your life together without the stress of the expenses that come with having your own place.

Anonymous · Answer

I haven’t been living with my parents for over a decade—so pretty much all of my 20’s. They were super controlling and to this day, try to micromanage everything with their unsolicited advice and seeming inability to respect boundaries. My mother would put me down and insult me when I didn’t meet her unrealistic expectations and my father turned me down when I needed him the most. In high school I contemplated suicide and had a plan for exactly how I was going to do it. My parents had no idea because they never checked up on me and have always been emotionally unavailable. I remember being beaten as a child before I even knew how to spell my name. I would only live with them as an absolute last resort.

lightbulb27 · Answer

I did but they respected my space and stuff. It worked quite well, although I had no social life then.

depends why they are invading my space and stuff. Good parents seeing a child go wrong will invade and should to a point. If my mother hand't invaded my sistere space she would have attempted suicide from depression. Instead she got help and survived long time.

That said, you need space to grow... independence.

EmmaMary · Answer

Although I had already left home to study, I actually officially "flew the nest" when I was twenty one and had purchased my own home.

Like my two older sisters, there was absolutely no way that I was ever going to be a lowlife parasite and burden to my parents.

TenderFantasy · Answer

I did. Mostly it was because I had low self-worth and just unfortunately couldn't get a good job that would pay enough so that I could move out. It didn't help that I lived and grew up in a rich, affluent community/city, but my parents/family were only middle class. I didn't do the college experience either (I meant the real one where you took on student loans, lived in dorms, joined a sorority, party and drank, etc.). I was a home body. I couldn't afford shit lol.

lilyanony1 · Answer

I desperately couldn't wait to get out the damn house... I got away shortly at 18 when I went to uni. But then I dropped out as it wasn't the course for me. I was so desperate to leave I wanted out and far away.
When I returned I stayed maybe 9months and then moved and I've lived alone for 11 years with no return.

godfatherfan · Answer

With the exception of the time I spent in the Air Force, I lived with my parents until I got married at 25.
I have 3 boys. My youngest two live with me (and / or their mom at any given time) at ages 22 and 24. My oldest just moved back in with me at age 27. He lived with me about a year and a half about 5 years ago also.

sgd509 · Answer

If staying where you are isn't an option for whatever reason, your budget doesn't permit you to move into other housing, you don't qualify for emergency or subsidized housing and your parent (s) are willing, in this economy, I'd say count your blessings and move in with the folks. Being unhoused puts your at significant danger for all sorts of things and increases the likelihood of being swept up, at least in the US, into the criminal justice system, which does NOT look sympathetically on the unhoused.

TransAm85 · Answer

I grew up w/a narcissistic mother. I moved in w/my Grandma when I was 21, that didn't work out, moved in w/a friend for a short time, and eventually settled living in the hood for a few years. I did w/e just to stay away from my mother. If I could go back, I wouldn't have been so rebellious, partying, and worried about boys. Despite my mother's irate tactics, I should've stayed, finished school, and just moved on that way.

AviatorTom · Answer

Sure, I did live with my parents in my 20s. After living in another city for several years, I was moving back to my hometown and I stayed with my parents for a few months until I found my own place. It was good. I helped fix some things in the house and home cooking is always nice.

Re your update. My parents have never been abusive or controlling. If they were, I would move out immediately.

Prof_Don · Answer

As long as the situation wasn't too intrusive or overbearing, then yes I would. Just understand that there is a level of submission and lack of freedom that occurs to living at home. Their house, their rules.

I moved back in with my parents after college, and overall the experience was smooth.

Anonymous · Answer

I had to ; Im not smart enough for college.
I had a cheap car but I even though I was accepted in a community college….
I didn’t have any money and my dad would be paying for all of it.

So I just dropped out and got a job. I plan on getting two job.
My dad was also abusive and intrusive. A complete demonic being.

I had no choice but to STAY
😞😞😞😞
Although being away from home and only going home to sleep helped a lot.

Anonymous · Answer

I wish I wouldn't have ever.
But I'll leave soon, they never let me have a part time job because it was shameful for the society and status but expect me to earn thousands as soon as after finishing college.
They are now blaming me for being jobless and I'll soon leave them. I TOLD THEM LET ME DO JOB, THEY SAY, NO GO FOR MASTERS. I KNOW THIS IS THEIR TRICK TO KEEP me unemployed and dependent on them forever. But I am going for a job now.

lovedejj_xo · Answer

So my mom still has issues with her and i separate myself from it and since I moved out we’ve been closer and I went to therapy. So I did my part. I recently moved back in Only to save for a house which is a huge adjustment but temporary and I can save more quicker. We discussed boundaries because I do pay her rent and what I won’t have happen is be completely controlled or yelled at I’ll move back out.

Sparkie460 · Answer

My wife, daughter and I moved into her parents house while our house was being built. Our landlord didn't pay the mortgage so the house went into foreclosure and we had 30 days to get out. We couldn't find a place to live so we moved in with my in-laws for a year

Blackcosmo · Answer

Just for college/university. I'd probably stick around to help with my disabled sister so my parents and older sister don't have to deal with it. Then maybe I'd take her with me and move somewhere nearby.

KingofCups · Answer

Honestly for most young people it's not really a matter of would you do it, it more a matter of can you afford not to. Especially with inflation now even working two jobs around 50hrs/week I can't afford a studio apartment. Plus when school starts again in the fall you have even less time to work. It's just the reality most people are in.

Emilyis · Answer

my sister is living with our parents because she is still in college and I wouldn't worry about it. Even when she gets out of college she may live at home a while to save for a house or car or something.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

I moved out when I was 18 but I don’t see anything wrong with still living or moving back in with your parents in your 20s. Most people in their 20s are struggling financially or they’re still in school so it’s understandable

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

For me personally I left pretty much as soon as I could 16 ish for others with house prices etc, it makes sense to live at home as long as possible,

laurieluvsit · Answer

I do, they have a very large house and told me and my sisters to stay as long as we want. I like it there and am still able to have a separate life so it is the best of all worlds.

Anonymous · Answer

I currently do at 30. Rent is absurd here averaging about 1100-1300 USD for a 1bed1bath apartment, and I cut all my mother's bills in half, allowed her to retire, get a new car, she can afford her expensive medications, and enjoy lots of lunch dates and activities with her friends.
Deciding between moving out or pursuing a career change now though.

SaartjieJane · Answer

Yes. It’s actually common back home. Here in New Zealand I find people tend to leave or get thrown out at 18 after high school🙃 I don’t like that

snowboarder720 · Answer

Yes, I did. I was a dead broke engineering student who couldn’t afford to feed myself, sleep deprived, and had no time to hold a solid job. Those were some dark days.

RobT312 · Answer

Not sure I’d have a problem with it, I guess I’d only do it if I had to. after leaving for college I never lived with them again and was fine with that!

Pinay_ako · Answer

If your parents are abusive and controlling, you should find ways to get out of there and live on your own… times are hard but sanity and peace are bliss

Someone80004 · Answer

Yes, nothing's wrong with it, as long as you contribute to the household, by doing the chores or paying some of the bills and they can respect your boundaries and privacy

Dinklex3 · Answer

I would.  I didn't move out officially until i was 24. Even in my 30's I'd love for my parents to live with me.

exitseven · Answer

I moved back in with my mother before I got married to save up for a house. It was a total horror show. My girlfriend did the same thing. I think it was worse for her.

Texasgal95 · Answer

I’m currently 27 and living at home at the moment I can get enough money to get my own place or until my boyfriends ready for me to move in with him

midnightmoon05 · Answer

I did I just know how to work with my parents through love and respect. do they have reasons to go through your stuff?

Apulu_Imback · Answer

Depends if I earn money by them. However I would prefer to live alone or with a roommate when I am maximum of around 23.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I lived with them `til they died and would STILL be there, as mom intended, if my ex-sisters hadn't forced me out 2 years ago so they could sell the house!!

AdithyaR · Answer

I am doing that rn. But my parents are abusive. And also I'm Indian and it's kind of a cultural thing for families to stay together. Nonetheless I'm gonna be moving out after my education.

Guardian45 · Answer

Would you live with your parents in your 20s? Yes, I left home when I was 30 and moved to Japan for 3 years for work.

If my parents had been abusive and controlling and invading my personal belongings, then I would have left MUCH SOONER!

Slartybartfast · Answer

I left three days before my 18th birthday and never returned.

USLegionary · Answer

If I had to. Its no real bug deal to me. Might come a time my parents have to live with me.

Faith18letsgo · Answer

Absolutely, America is dumb and underestimates the value of multigenerational housing.

DoyoutriponLove9898 · Answer

Yes I still live with parents. But they are not abusive if yours are then you need to get to safety.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

Did for a while until I saved enough to head out on my own.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

I moved out at 21, I'd been looking to leave for at least 2 years. I would do anything not to go back.

serious · Answer

I am still living with my parents but that is out of my choice.

menina · Answer

I'm 29 and I still live with my mother. Hopefully I'll be able to move next year.

_deeznuts · Answer

if i had no other option, but it wouldn't be first or second choice.

loveslongnails · Answer

I would have if I hadn't stayed in my college town. I'd have worked and save up a lot of money while contributing some for rent and food.

Hairylegs222 · Answer

I did, then bought my house and moved out. Very fortunate I have the parents that I have. Was able to save up a lot for a fat down payment.

Kittykay_45 · Answer

No I don’t think I can. I would go crazy. My parents would still try to tell me what to do and it would make me want to do it more.

legalboxers · Answer

I had to.. they were sick.. one died. the other.. is old. so I need to.. both are / were abusive - mostly my father (emotionally, mentally, psychologically, physically)

maximumpower · Answer

only if i absolutely had to. if you're over 18 and out of school (to include college) and still living with your folks, perhaps you should reassess your situation and future.

anton_dee · Answer

Why not? If I plan my life and career well, I know I'm responsible. What's the harm in staying with parents and kinda being a support to them along with saving rent money...

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I don't really have much choice in the matter, at the moment.

ImJustSomeGuyLol · Answer

Lmao I already do, many people do. I plan on moving out in a couple years tho.

Anonymous · Answer

Most people do because of how unreasonable a lot of the real estate is. It isn't easy to pay for a house. They up in their 20s and buy house.

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

Hell yeah. Tf is wrong with you. It's not like you can afford to get ur own place anyway. I doubt you make that type of money rn

baserunner611 · Answer

I semi do count to my mother she say half is at my apartment and others is her and dad garage. My old room is now my brother

Anonymous · Answer

No because I was Abused and If my Father ever laid his Hands on me again I will Put him in the Hospital 🏥

Subarugirl · Answer

My parents were abusive and controlling. I moved out at 19 years old

jengeorge26 · Answer

Most children live at home with their parents until they finish college.

skydragonx5 · Answer

A lot of people still do k know some 35-40 year olds who work in health care that live with Their parents by choice

Rollingstones84 · Answer

Yeah I already did that in the summers when I was going to school. Plus, shit is too expensive these days

bootieclapper9000 · Answer

yeah  with the way my life is  im sticking with my parents until I die  society is insane  I want nothing to do with them

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