I voted its fine, because I don't know what the circumstances are, and it's your life.
But it will complicate relationships and your independence.
I moved out when I was 18, right after the summer, after graduating, and moved to the city for college. Besides one year, I've been on my own since. Moving back for that one year made me realise that I prefer my own place and my own independence, because although I had a job, paid my way and was a grown adult, my parents still needed to be parents and it was still their house.
I know it's a pretty intimidating prospect to move out and do things on your own, but no matter how old you get, this never goes away until you take the leap. I was a bit unsure of things for the first week in the big city on my own and my room mate wasn't showing up for another couple of weeks. But I got out and explored the area, got to know my way around, and by the end of the first week, I was pretty much set into the new routine and it wasn't as difficult as I thought it would be.
Lastly, there's of course the issue of expense being on your own and how it's difficult to afford things on a low income wage, but that's what renting and having room mates is all about, so you can split the costs and help each other out.
I've had some crap room mates and I had decent ones over the years, but it's a learning process and it's temporary until you get some better pay coming in or get a boyfriend/girlfriend to move in.
It's all stepping stones and learning. When you live with your parents still, you've got that safety net and restrictions they put in place.
It's awkward to have parties or significant others over to do whatever you want, because you can't do whatever you want. And it's difficult for some potential partners to get involved in that environment because they know you can't do whatever you want. It's not a deal breaker for most, but it does hinder things.
If crap happens, where you end up in a dangerous situation or run out of money or something, that safety net of your parents is still there... Just something to consider.
It doesn't matter what other's think. Take advantage of the situation to get your shit together if you haven't already. Why concern yourself with other people's negative perceptions, it's wasted energy.
No! I'm 27, still at home. I live with my family (sis, mom and dad, plus my lovely animal companions.)
I'm completing my final 2 years of schooling and I was working part-time but with COVID I was laid off. :/ My dads in poor health, so I prefer to be home to help the rest of my family take care of him. He has a spinal injury, and since I'm still at home, I help out where and whenever I can! Schooling had turned to solely online now, so my last two years will be online only. Allowing me time to focus on my family. I'm hopeful to find another part-time job to help out with Uni costs, but it's hard at this time.
You will have the opportunity to move out when the time is right. Don't compare yourself, put pressure on yourself, or be so hard on yourself either. Do your thing, if you prefer to live at home and stay with your family, there's nothing wrong with that! I think, as the other comments have mentioned, so long as you contribute to your family and your home, and you're not just living there, rent-free, letting your folks buy you groceries, clean for you, do your laundry, etc.
Though I am at home, I buy my own groceries, make family dinners for everyone. I do my wash and include other items from the fam if they need it. I also help pay bills, and have my own phone plan. I clean, take care of the dogs, book appointments for my dad, get refills for my dads meds, etc. Helping out is important, not only for your family but for your own sense of self. :)
No. And it's nobody's personal business. Is only embarrassing if you find it to be embarrassing. What does your age, you being single, and you still living with your family have anything to do with us? What does that have anything to do with you? Nothing.
If you want to be single. You are free to be single. If you don't want to be single, then you need to find a partner. But you got to have the right reason to want one. if you want to move out of your parents house, then you have to save up enough money to do so. Sadly in this kind of economy is hard to even do that even if you are married. What matters is that if you are contributing to your parents house, while working to try to get your own life in order, then I am certain that nobody in their right mind is going to shame you or for you. The only ones who will are those who have their own insecurities and bitterness and they will try to project theirs onto you. I had plenty of people try to mock me and don't even know me. So don't let people try to dictate your life. Especially if you didn't ask for it.
I am 43 and I live alone and have been single for a long time. I get along well at work. But my relatives and friends are spread out across the country and word. Many I have not heard from in years. It does get lonely. I have thought about moving in with my mother ( she is over 70 and things get hard for her) . I have also thought about moving in with my sister too. Or perhaps up north where I have relatives. Being independent is nice but I think I have grown used to being single and alone not too mention that where I live it is a small town and it has a small town mindset. Most people are from the area and have a cliquish mentality. If you are not from the area it is hard to get to know people.
Also , at this time with all the student loan debt and the economic issues the country is going through many people have moved back in with parents or friends. I would say take the time to wise up. Find a job , save money , think about school , where you want to be and what you want to do.
Keep in mind that for most of human history people lived with their parents until they got married. This idea that you get the boot when you turn 18 is a novel concept.
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I lived with my parents until 20. It's alright if things are moving forward. It's less embarrassing for a female and a lot safer. If your working, going to church, and or going to college you can still meet people. If you're an isolated homebody then you are less likely to have enough exposure to find somebody. If at least working and getting out there, you're in an okay boat. Our society is less conducive to it, but Biblically people would stay with their parents until they got married and started their own household. I had to move out because the college I am finishing my degree at was too far away. Like it or hate it, but most marriages are established on the man getting a career and purchasing a house. If you meet someone and they care about you they'll be glad you are lonely and are safer. A lot of times women move out and feel lonely so they get involved with wretched people, who prey on them, so they won't feel lonely. If you feel like you aren't out enough try to get out more. If you feel you're exposed enough wait for the right person, try to be more conversational and ask questions.
No it's not, moving out is a big step and if u don't feel ready it may overwhelm u. So take a breath maybe a nice bath and relax about all this. My sister is in the exact same situation as u, i don't look down on her even if she's older.
About your single status, ask yourself "do i want a boy/girlfriend?" If the answer is no then don't feel pressured to be in a relationship.
People will always be faster or slower, better or worse then u but it doesn't matter what people can do. The only thing that matters is what u can do, then improve on that.
I truly hope u have a good day and do me a favor by smiling, it's nice to spread some love yk
Not even in the slightest. You're still young, and as long as you're working and not just taking advantage of your parents, its smart to save for your future as opposed to blowing all of your money before you get to a self sustaining point. My friend is 29 and living with his parents. He's not lazy, and actually in the process of obtaining his PHD. His parents want him to live with them until he gets married to save money for his future and his family. So no, I don't think its embarrassing at all.
Well it doesn't really matter if you're single or not as long as you are happy with yourself.
As for living with your parents, I think you are at the age where you should have an idea of what you want to do with your life. That may sound daunting, but let's be realistic here. You've had more than 5 years to choose a career path, go to school and find your own place. So if you still don't have any sort of plan, yes, I'm sorry, but it is concerning. Even if you went straight from high school to the workforce, you should still have enough money saved from not going to college. I'm not trying to be judgmental but I am being realistic.
There is a much greater purpose in life than moving out from your parent's home. As long as you have ambitions and are working towards it and contributing to the house whilst being close to your family members and being there for them, there is nothing weird about it.
I don’t find it embarrassing, but I am moving out to a flat of my own in June next year. If I could I’d rather stay at my parents and save for a mortgage but my relationship with my parents isn’t great and moving out is my only option.
That being said I do think if you’re 30 you shouldn’t be relying on your parents.
I am constantly being chased around by my horrible 'caring' family. My dad hits me, and trues to prevent me working and driving, and never wants me to leave.
I don't like them when they abuse me, but they don't get it. I can't say "don't treat me like that" cause... how could they not know? They treat people poorly and everyone disapears from them? That's their life. How could i say anything new to convince them?
They just don't get it. So i just endure them, like a punching bag, when I am near them and have to, and then escape and run away back to my life!
I find them unbearable but they don't understand that they are bad people and they have been told many times by many people. They just get offended and self pity.
If you are in this situation, leave. If they have manipulated you to encourage their terrible behaviour... leave.
Not embarrassing. I’m probably gonna live with my parents until they die (they are already old) because I wanna spend as much time as I can with them and give them any help that they need. I don’t care if anyone thinks it’s embarrassing.
It's fine. The laws where I live allow a child to remain on their parents health insurance plan until age 26. What this says to me, is that society doesn't expect us to be independent until age 26. If you are able to benefit from living at home, I would recommend it.
For me it wasn't much of an option. Although, I might be moving in with my younger brother and sister soon to help them get on their feet.
shor answer is "it shouldn't". but it comes down to you working out with that, it only matters to you, so you alone should decide how to feel about it. that said, society, friends and family may see that with bad eyes. you should not base yourself in their opinions ONLY, of course they don't know your life and/or circumstances and/or choices, remember, its easy to judge others based on what you expect for yourself..
It's hardly ideal, but not the end of the world. In fact, in much of the world, you wind up with multiple generations living under one roof. It's just how things go. Even here in the US, economics being what they are, it's often not practical to move out on your own right away. It's better to deal with the minor embarrassment of taking the time to do it right than to leap out and get yourself in a heaping pile of debt it'll take decades to pay off.
It really depends. Are you working and getting your finances in order or do you not have a plan at all? Staying home, saving and getting your finances in order is smart, not embarrassing. Staying home at 25 because you're being lazy is different. Cost of living is so high now so it is very common to still be with parents even up to age 30, but by then you should have things together.
Worst case scenario you can join the military as long as your credit and criminal history are not horrible. The military is not as bad as people make it seem. I did it and it saved my life.
With the way things are today, it's not bad. As long as you're working towards your goals, it's ok to live with them until you're economically stable. Don't worry about being single. There's no right or wrong age to find love. :)
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Run your own race. You didn't come here to race Jennifer. Most of the people telling you it's embarrassing probably are barely making rent while sleeping around with a million people. In 5 years you'll probably be past most of them. Don't EVER listen to average ass people.
To society it is. But I think you shouldn't let society rush you with their timeliness. In most traditional homes the woman stays with her family till she's married. And I don't see nothing wrong with that.
Nope, I'm 26, single and living with my parents. 100% of my salary goes directly to my savings to buy a house. Nothing embarrassing. Waste money on rent and taxes just to look 'independent'? No thanks.
As long as you're not just doing nothing at all with your life, it should be fine. School, or work, making progress on someday being able to move out, or helping support and keep the household in order. Gotta at least try to be responsible about it.
I'd say as a woman it's not as big a deal. I wouldn't tell you it's a bad thing to still be living with your parents, but I think you'd be best off living the independence life. I lived with my parents for a long time, thinking it was the best decision, but when I moved out and lived by myself I improved so many things about my life
Yup, it's embarrassing but join the club Finishing up my Master's degree and still with my parents... currently debt free though and that was the main purpose. Makes a number of other things more difficult though...
If your still in school it's fine, but as soon as that education pays off and you get a job you can live on its a good idea to get out on your own even if you share it with a roommate in the beginning.
I'm still living with my parents and younger siblings. I'm in a constant state of depression with thoughts of being a poor influence on them and a letdown to my parents for having failed twice at staying independent. Going on 30 in a matter of days, and the feeling gets heavier in every birthday.
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everyone has their own race. if you feel you're a little late, that's fine. as long as you won't stop and aim and work hard to finish it. take your time with life.
I don't think there is anything wrong with it. I myself am 26 and I still stay with my parents. But that's cos I'm still studying. But some people are much older than us and they still stay with there parents.
These days its al about economics and what you can afford. Do you work and help share expenses for the household? It may be a compromise, but don't sweat the small stuff.
If you lived around here you'd need a six figure income just to qualify to rent a small one-bedroom apartment. Just renting a room in a house can easily be $1500. In circumstances like this, it is common for singles to live with parents till 30.
Its expensive to pay rent and as long as your folks are cool with it stay home, but if it's harder to date while staying home and if you make enough money to pay rent, try moving out and seeing how that works.
It's not embarrassing... i dont know your circumstance... altho I feel You should at least have a job and enough income to be able to take care of yourself should you decide to move out.
Trust me my cousin is 29 and just got married life is not as easy or quick and simple as it was for our parents. Some boomers own 2 houses and here we are struggling to buy one.
I do, although my sister moved out. My 34 year d girlfriend lives with her parents even though her elder older sister moved out. My sister is only 18 months younger.
No it is not. Currently there is a lack of jobs available, student debt is high which prolongsmoving out. Enjoy it , I am 27 still single and living with my parents
@MissDawn7961 But she complains about being single which is absurd for a 25 year old female. Now for some scraggly washed up thing like you, I can imagine being single is the norm.
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