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No, it's fine. At least in California (and I know many other places), housing costs went way up after the recession started to ease, and few people can afford to live alone anymore. A friend of mine had been renting a 2-bedroom apartment (800 sq feet) for $2000/month, and they raised her rent to $2400/month, and then to $2600. She ended up moving into an "inlaw unit", which is basically a small studio apartment, as she couldn't afford that rent.
I just worked on a 2-car garage that was converted into an upscale studio apartment in Oakland - and not in the nice areas in the hills, but in the run-down (but quickly gentrifying) area near downtown. That studio is renting for $3000/month, and the guy who moved in feels fortunate to live there. There were over 30 applications for that space.
You went to college. It's almost a given you'll live with your parents for a while. You don't just graduate, get the top pay grade of your field and have all your loans paid off. It's not a turn off unless you have no desire to get out of that situation within the next 3-5 years
Not a deal breaker, but as a guy whose not looking to rush into anything serious quickly I can see it being kind of a big deterrent. I mean, your mom will probably know a lot of what happens of your dates, she'll know the night you first (and always) have sex, and you'll meet her mom anytime to go over to her place, even just to drop her off. even if she's a cooler mom, shell always be "more there" and that's a lot of pressure to add when you're still figuring out if you have chemistry/genuinely like each other, and not just measuring up to more than one person standard.
The guy I’m seeing is 36 and lives with his grandma and it’s not a dealbreaker for me. I actually have more respect for him because of it. He moved in with her when he split with his last girlfriend to help her out because she was on her own but did not want to move into a nursing home and needed help.
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It depends why you live with them. In your case, I don't see a problem with it at all
I personally wouldn't see it that way because I am one of those people. I understand there are plenty of reasons and in the end if I'm dating, I'm doing it for the girl, personality and looks, jokes and hobbies, interests and values.
The fact that someone lives with parents shouldn't have a negative impact on that person's image, but I am sure that a lot of shallow people do care.
I live in a big city where everyone wants to be, so everyone outside the city is forced to move in for good jobs. Bucharest Romania.
I was born here. I still live with parents and I'm in the range of 25-30 just to get an idea.
I do feel a girl that moved from outside the town and living in a rented apartment, would see it as a deal breaker. I actually am a bit worried about that and did recently think at this because of this girl I suddenly crushed on. "she might think I'm a low life, a loser".
But you have to look at it this way:
- renting is out of question as long as I have a place to stay in town.
-buying in a good place with upfront payment would cost me equal to about 80 months of work. That's the difference between my more than decent paycheck and the cost of an apartment.
There is the option of buying through loan, but why have an apartment to yourself when being single and not shoveling money from one side to the other?
Imagine that pay the mortgage, pay the utilities for an apartment all by myself. It would be a lot of fun to say the least.
I do however plan to get one, just so I can get this off my chest.
I doubt most guys would care in your situation. It's completely different if someone is 25 and still being taken care of by their parents. I read some opinions from the guys that said women would care of it were a guy. If he's doing it to save money, with the job he has and does his own laundry. Isn't living with his mom because of some kind of attachment issue , then I wouldn't care. He'd obviously move out and find a place with me when and if the relationship made in to that point.
The situation and reasons matter.
I think it depends on the situation, like for example financial reasons and you just need somewhere to live until you can support yourself entirely. Even in some cultures living with your parents during your adulthood is completely normal. In my general opinion, if the guy I’m interested in is still living with his parents I wouldn’t find it a deal breaker as long as he’s making a conscious effort to work and save up enough to move out, pays for his own shit and does his own chores/errands otherwise if he’s just piggybacking off his parents playing video games in the basement then yeah it’s a dealbreaker. Also if he’s 30+ then I’ll probs start to find it a little weird, I feel like that’s the age people should be well off on their own.
Yes and No both.
It's yes because, if you are being forced by your parents ( physically or emotionally/mentally) and you are not doing anything to stop that or to make them stop that by taking justice when you can do that, or if you have some compulsive reasons for staying with your parents even when you can easily move out. In these cases if can be a deal breaker
It's not a deal breaker if your relationship with your parents have always been full of love, affection, caring, understanding etc and you have always had the right to live your life by your rules throughout your life. In this case if you wish to live with your parents, it won't be a deal breaker at all.
In this case it would be "NO"
I wouldn't care. Not even if I didn't get along with your parents. Would still have the basic respect towards em anyway.
If I can throw a guestion back, what do people mean with that independency when talking about it, and I'm not judging. Just want to make sure I got an understanding of it's meaning.
I'm 26 going to be 27 in November and I'm still with my parents. I do have a boyfriend but for me personally I would feel like it's deal breaker and wouldn't want to date a guy til I got my own place if I was single. Thankful my boyfriend doesn't care but that's cause he's still living with his mother.
No dear, not at all. If you live with your parents doesn't mean you're dependent, it's your choice, where you like to live and enjoy. In India mostly children live with their parents even at 50. So it's all about your choice and comfort, boys might don't like it (though this isn't something so big) but right guys willl accept.
I think there is a bigger picture here. How much is a typical mortgage? Is Rent explosively high in your location?
Are you wanting to still live with your parents or are you financially just trying to start to put money away for a roof of your own.
In some instances it's easier to pay for bills when you have a significant other, it sounds to me like you just haven't found yours yet, but you want to.
Also, I guess you are talking about judgement, would you judge a potential love match if he was fully capable, working fulltime, looked nice, treated you well but just happened to live at home and eat Sunday dinners around the family table. Or would you think maybe he shares the same values I do. I WILL give this a chance!
It is seen as more of a dealbreaker I think from a woman's perspective if the GUY is living with his parents.
To me, if you're doing drugs - smoking pot and refuse to work... and you live at home, I don't want to date ya. If you have a decent job, room for promotion, love it, help your folks, and eventually plan on moving out, you're good - especially at 26.
I'd be thinking it was weird if you were 35 and you were successful and earning enough to be on your own and were stable, but insisted on being at home.
I'm 24, haven't finished any college or univerisity, still live with my parents and do not even have a consistent job currently. Relax. As long as you're making money and trying to save you're fine. It's best you stay at home and save until you're confident you can be comfortable living alone. Until then reap the benefits of disposable income.
I would not care as long as you don't need your parents permission to go out or stay at my place for the night. It would be also important to know whether you can live on your own or do parents do everything for you. Hopefully you wouldn't also mind moving in with me in relatively close future
No not at all. It's in my eyes really sweet and considerate of you to reside with your mom.
You shouldn't bother about guy's opinions on what you feel that you are supposed to do and is right. So no not a deal breaker at all. Your guy should be proud of you *-*
I hope not, I'm 23, still live with my parents, going on to do a masters, so when I finish that I'll be 24 without a good paying job (I'll still have a job, just not a good paying one) so I'll be in the same situation. In the current economy I don't think it's fair to just someone from living with their parents because getting on the housing market is increasingly difficult.
Guys have no fucks to give about this, only girls do. Girls won't date a guy that lives with his Mom, but many of them would date a guy that lives with his... wife.
I dont see it as a problem myself. I dont like living alone so i plan to skip the living alone part and directly move in with my future girl.
Moving now means more chores, less income, more worries given i first have to recover from my burnout and aside from the ability to have sex easier i would gain absolutely nothing.
I think a working person at age 25 should be looking to move out. Like if you moved back home for a year or two, whatever, but if you've been there since high school, that would be a huge red flag. Be independent ya know.
Yes, I would be worried (if you were a dude)
If I were a girl and you were a guy, then it would be.
But in your situation, unless there were extenuating circumstance, like your mom being seriously ill, she is living with you, or you live in Asia where that is expected, it would not be deal breaker, but it would suggest that you would be a throwaway girlfriend, not a LTR one.
No, it’s pretty common for people 25 or older to still live with their parents. If anything, it may be more acceptable for a 25 year old woman to live with her parents than a man of the same age.
Live life the way you want it.
Don't be dictated by others thoughts. Your still young enjoy your life with your parents. I guess they are best friends in your life, and they are happy each day they see you.
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