Young kids will jabber, as they are exploring the power of talk. Once they learn what it's all about and gain control over themselves, we become less tolerant of it.
Non-stop talking is more common with women than men. This pattern generally stems from one of three possibilities. Either they are afraid they aren't clear enough so don't stop after they've already said what they want to say, or they're uncomfortable with silence and feel a need to fill the void, or they're afraid if they give up the podium they'll be giving up control to the other side, and their wishes will be overlooked (think of a filibuster).
For the first option, feed back what you are hearing in your own words. That way, they know what you are hearing and won't feel a need to continue. Seeking clarification can also help in this situation. Ask for examples or how it can be applied in this situation or clarification of terminology.
For the second option, teach them the value of silence. Take them hiking in the forest with the goal of locating and identifying as much wildlife as possible. That teaches them the value of listening. After all, by having two ears and one mouth, isn't it appropriate for us to spend twice as much time listening as talking?
For the third option, address the other person's concerns rather than treat it as a debate where one has to win and the other lose. Show an interest and willingness to consider what is important to the other and share non-critical and supportive comments. It's not a competition to see who can talk over the other the most, but showing you care about the other person's thoughts and feelings.
Another tool I use when people start talking louder is to start whispering. When they can't hear me due to their volume, they tend to lower their volume.
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My mom does this. I just tune out. I know it's bad but I let her vent, then I check in every once in a while to see where she is at and address any questions. I don't have the heart to tell her to stop and I can't process or take in every thing she saids either. So I just found a way to balance it out...
Ugh, I have two people at work that are exactly like that: one of which I call "Karen" (yes, like the meme; trust me, she really is one).
Typically when I come across people like that, I ignore them or use selective listening- tune them out and only listen to what's relevant, assuming that's anything. Otherwise? I just nod and do my own thing. You can't talk over them because they'll try to outtalk you, or keep going.
In my case, when people like that are around me, I find ways to excuse myself, or to avoid coming off as rude, I put on my headphones. Even if I'm not listening to anything, I pretend like I cannot hear them. That's like the universal signal for, "I do not want to be bothered."
NOTHING I've done has ever worked on someone intent on talking your ear off. I was on a plane and the rando assigned next to me who was late for the flight who then proceeded to have a conversation with me even after I did the "I can't hear you, headphones" thing. I made no eye contact, headphones on, he still talked at me the entire flight. A cousin who was staying with me whom I met for the first time ever turned out to be a non-top talker to the point where I don't think she took an actual breath in 3 hours. I literally fell asleep after 3am when she was still talking, woke up, and she was STILL talking! Tell me how you shut these people up?!?
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Telemarketers, collection agencies, and those scumbags who call themselves Friends of the Court who try and drop a summary legal document on you without your permission pertaining to be someone else. Accidentally broke one of them once guy was like rallying about how he was going to spare me a lot of pain by not taking me into custody for some nonsense or something rather while trying to hand me a piece of paper I didn't take the paper but I did take his hand and wrench it into an unnatural position behind his back his face becoming merged with a brick wall that was behind him me nothing only too late that the guy was probably not intelligent enough to be held responsible for the words coming out of his mouth like maybe his man child or something something instead of the social soap law enforcement officer he was claiming to be. I suppose we've been helpful for him to know that I don't have any tolerance for law enforcement officers who say stupid things and maybe shouldn't have been pretending to be one or maybe should have said all the other stuff that came out of his mouth like to tell marketers and collection agencies that don't care that I'm not the sound you're so so who owes money for her student loan which isn't me or I'm not disclosed so who owes money for solar panels and for house Isaiah doesn't exist because he lives in an apartment. they got to get their words in and they don't want to hear anything about you not being the person to trying to contact is if they're getting paid by the word and it doesn't matter who's hearing the words as long as they get those words in and the more you try and explain to them that you're not this person is louder they yell as if they got to make sure everyone in the building there and hear those words so that they know that they're doing their job. If they have to do that then I guess the more power to them but they're still not getting that student loan or that insurance or the money for the solar panels or all the other stuff they have nothing to do with me or anything I've ever done in my life so I guess they're up ask creek without a popsicle stick.
this world we live in I guess you don't have to be the person they refer to you as being you don't even have to be the same sex or gender you just have to be on the receiving end of whatever nonsense phone call they're trying to make as long as they made that call and can verify they made that call and said the words and did the dance and I suppose it's all they need to do. Next guy that comes to my door with with attitude and threats might get some buckshot and rock salt from both barrels of n the rear end, it's the way my grandpa used to deal with guys like that, came to his door. Rock salt really hurts coming from both barrels.Say something super weird out of nowhere.
Works in real life, too. My friend will be telling me the same story she always tells me and when I get tired of it, say something weird like "IT'S ALL GUSHY" then leave. They won't mind coz they'll either be confused or start laughing.
i already licked peoples faces, at playdium, ran around and licked my brothers face, his two other friends, nick and thoms
and when i was in the back seat with nick beside me, i gave him a huge lick. he's a germa phob. so it was just priceless, my bros dad was not happy lols but i laghed all away home like a lunitic, and no one said a word lolsOptions change according to contex. I could:
1. Stop actively listening and focus on my thoughts while pretending to listen by saying cliché stuff I feel the other person wants to hear.
2. Make a excuse to stop the conversation and leave the room ASAP.
3. Just stand up and leave rudely without saying anything.
4. Tell the other person I'm not in the mood to talk.
5. Plug my headphones with some music or put some earplugs and enjoy perfect silence.I just walk away and lock myself in the room, or put on an ANC headphone in front of them to let them know that I don't want to listen to them anymore.
If they are smaller than me, I'll carry them and lock them in the bathroom and barricade it until they agree to stfu.I tend to respond in stages:
#1 - I become quiet; no response or reaction
#2 - I intensely fix my eyes on their eyes; but without expression
#3 - I interrupt with a question in between that's totally unrelated to the topic.
#4 - I get me a coffee - this may take a little longerLol i am that someone 😂 but iβve met 3 guys in life who out talked me. I think i just muted em and started dancing to music in the background. Dudes Haaaaave To interrupt me otherwise i won't realize im talking too much
Start tapping my watch, sigh loudly then start looking around. 😂 They Immediately shut up, because they think I'm too ignorant to talk to 😂
Normally, you could stuff something in their mouth. Food. I was thinking of food. Get your mind out of the gutter.
These days, you could tell them to put on their muzzle (mask of compliance) because they're spreading coronavirus. LOLIn person I try to make it look like I have somewhere I need to be. Checking the time, looking at the door, slowly shuffling away, etc. On the phone it's tougher. I try to wait for a break in their ranting to say I gotta go, or make up something about my food being almost done cooking. Unless they are ranting about something upsetting. Then I will, as politely as I can, interrupt them to say I don't want to talk about that
I've been in this situation wayy to many times :( If it's on the phone I say "My mom's calling me for dinner, I have to go" but if it's in person I say "I really have to go to the bathroom, I have a stomach ache" lmao
I can usually zone out and nod along, I have to watch out though because sometimes I can agree to things without realising 😂
I ignore them. Literally, just pretend they're not there anymore.
Here we go again with miss brains daughter who always have tmi to say! 🤣
Your daughter needs a man like to discipline her, see what happens when there too much rights? 😏
Here in the stone ages miss brains muffin, if a your daughter keeps talking and doesn't OBEY her mother, at this point the mother will tell her daughter: "you will see when i sue you to your father"...
When the man comes back home from work and his wife tells him about what happened, he will shout at his daughter and tell her: "get on your knees now and rise your arms up, right now"... the daughter will reply "SIR, YES SIR!" 😊Well since I don't have much of a filter anyway I will sometimes burst out and just flat out say "Shut Up". Sometimes I'll be thinking something and not actually mean to say it out loud, but I usually just say what everyone else is thinking. Or I'm just as shocked as everyone else by what comes outta my mouth lol.
More often then not that person is me. Most of my family & friends just give me a prod when I get that way. I'm not offended when someone lets me know it's time to tone things back.
Depends on who and where they are. If they are strangers, I will move away from them. If they are family or friends, I will ask them to stop. If they are colleagues I will tell them to shut up.
Ak if they ar nervous It maybe they hate awkward silence so they chat about anything and everything to avoid this
I have an aunt like that and i don't know why ... some people just can't stand any moments of silence. its like its there duty to fill any quite with there non stop talking.
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