Is it wrong if I let my 11 y old daughter take baths with her 7 year old brothers?

[Anonymous]

My daughter has been wanting to do this for quite a while but I am not sure if this would be appropriate?

[josephinelcajon]

Honest to god some of these comments are straight from the gutter! I do not see anything wrong with it at all! Yes to be honest she may want to see his penis. He is not going to care at all but might do some looking once they are in their. I grew up nudist and truly believe its much healthier both physically and mentally. All nudist kids would be absolutely board to death of the opposite sex body. They are both old enough if either was not comfortable would and could say no. My gut says she is a loving caring big sister. She might have heard from a friend or seen on TV bathing together is fun. They are also old enough not to drown. I say yes and give them time alone. Many benefits their bond will grow stronger and their love. Also it will be a learning experience she taking care of him is another learning step towards her distant future motherhood. They will also see each other bodies and is a good time to start the talk that European families and myself feel are in agreement should be frank open minded and from birth!

[Asker]

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[strateguy632]

to joseph your nudist experience would only be relevant to a family nudist all day. not worthy of "most helpful badge" unless the asker family was nudist all day but that was not exhibited in question.

[YAsQuen]

make ur kids nudist but have the talk between 7 and 10

[GingerGuy]

If none of them mind, I don't see an issue with it and agree with @josephinelcajon
I'm curious though why your daughter wants to? I'm not sure how many 11 yr old girls would make that request? But I'm also a nudist (didn't grow up one though) but I believe it's very healthy. It's unfortunate the world doesn't have the same view of it.

[tae_ie]

Just put some bathing suit on them and let them have a bath together, and also make sure to be there so they don’t start anything funny.

[Anonymous]

I would say if she doesn't have boobs or hair on her pussy yet it would be ok. 12 is probably too old.

[Nirajsinghindia]

So true I also stopped to give bath when my baby girl got pubic hair and growing breast

[strateguy632]

@Nirajsinghindia to nira, bath? my opinion is switch from bath to shower age 7 from then standing showers.

[coolbreeze]

Make sure they are not doing anything funny and weird if you decide to let them bath together.

[SquareWave]

There's nothing wrong with it until you turn into something wrong. As she gets older she'll start wanting her own privacy for baths/showers. Until either of them starting wanting privacy, it's fine. Don't shame/tell off your kids for doing something innocent.

If you make it a problem, they will only start wondering why, and maybe start resenting you for making a big deal out of something innocent. At worst, they'll have hangups and shame over their bodies.

Reminds me of a conversation I heard between a couple women about a baby boy that happened to find his penis. He was just lying there fidgeting, and happened to grab it. These women were wondering how to make him stop it. He's a friggin BABY that would grab anything in reach -- fingers, toes, toys, etc. And these disgusting women were trying to make him stop like he's some kind of pervert.

[DaveJord]

I would say, definitely not okay. I used to have a lot of work travel... so I gone a lot. I found out my ex-wife was taking showers together with my 16-year-old daughter. I was appalled.

I think my sister and took baths together, up until about the time she was 5 and I was 3. I only remember that because there were pictures. But once my sister got to age 5 it all stopped, because she was getting old enough that she started to notice the differences between us.

All you are doing at this point is familiarizing your daughter and son to the opposite sex anatomy... which as they get into their teenage years will spark more interest make them more curious and bolder. Some might see this a good thing, but I do not.

[SquareWave]

"my ex-wife was taking showers together with my 16-year-old daughter. I was appalled."

Oh, god forbid. If your daughter had an issue with it, she wouldn't have done it. Women are a bit different with privacy boundaries, and additionally, the chances of something inappropriate happening is much more rare than if it were men.

[DaveJord]

@SquareWave yeah I hear you, if a sixteen-year-old had an issue with it they would say something. But you don't really know the situation, she had been raised her entire life to think it was okay behind my back. It was a whole another level of manipulation going on there and codependency and I completely missed it for over a decade.

[DaveJord]

It ain't right bro, it's like Mommy Dearest bull shit

[PetLover24]

@DaveJord - what's your problem? They're both women. It's a bonding in many ways.

I am sure if it was your 16 year old son with say a stepmother you'd be slapping him on the back and saying fantastic boy, way to go, you're awesome wish I'd the balls to do that when I was a kid.

[strateguy632]

my opinion is a firm "no" even younger. i say separate baths from age 4 older. if not "nudist" all day then certainly not nudist mix in bath, so those many nudist replies are not relevant. i doubt two girls should share a bath after age 4? certainly not brother with sister and "even" if child asks and says wanted.

[strateguy632]

also my opinion switch from bath to shower age 7 and again each child alone.

[Kaneki05]

well the brothers are 7 so that's too young for them to think anything on weird lines. Then her at 11 she could still be immature and not see anything weird like that too. By the time she is in secondary school like 12. i don't think it would be very appropriate.

[strateguy632]

to kane, what generation are you? my preschool classmate boys age 4, had genital games. they wanted me to join but i was too shy.

[strateguy632]

to kane, also in the 90's i helped set up a birthday party, i noticed 3 kids age 4, behind a couch i told them to stop doing genital stuff and "taught" the girl not to let anyone insert any small plastic toys in her holes. even age 4 needs supervision due to having genital ideas.

[Anonymous]

It's risky. It shouldn't be a huge issue, and I wouldn't say its, per-say wrong; I personally would err on the side of keeping the bathing separate, but supporting her maybe helping you out (meaning not them all bathing together but her being there to assist you, maybe holding towels or whatever shouldn't be aproblem and might help increasing understandings).

[HeyMikie]

I'm a 64 year old man and I bathed with my older sisters and younger sister for most of my childhood. It was normal and natural in our family and with most of our friends and neighbors. We started bathing on our own somewhere around the age of 10 or 11. The real issue is: are you and your children comfortable with it?

[m33lad]

As long as they’re wearing bathing suits.
There is a reason why psychology say keep porn and naked away from especially boys.


But even though this is innocent in a world of everyone wearing clothes this would be appropriate.
You don’t them to start saying you won’t have this thing but I do and start touching each other’s privates and blah blah

[Anonymous]

I was touching myself at age 11 and I knew it was sexual so even if it is innocent on the part of the girl, which it probably is, it's probably not the best for her to be doing it, or the parents to be seeing her naked at that age (if they are). It would have freaked me out.

[KrisPW]

If all three of them are ok with it, I don't see a problem.

[DirtyPervXXX]

No. All kids want to see what the other genitals look like. And if she requested it that means she is horny & wants to wants to see, touch & suck their dicks. And the boys are loving it too! I still remember how horny I got when decided to sleep naked together & played with each other & fucked my cousin. I wa 13, sister was 10 & cousin was 11. I got head fron my sister for a few years before we got caught.

[strateguy]

my opinion is a firm "no" even younger. separate baths from age 4 older. if not "nudist" all day then certainly not nudist mix in bath. i doubt two girls should share a bath after age 4? certainly not brother with sister and "even" if child asks and says wanted.

[Homely]

Nothing wrong with it! Nudity is not sexual! I've been a nudist my whole life as well as my family. Growing up we bathed together and showered together, we done everything that someone with clothes on would do but we done it nude. It would be nothing to get a shower or bathe with one of siblings, my kids run me out of my tub 90% of the time.

[RobT312]

I remember bathing with my siblings but at a very young age before an awareness of body parts.
personally, I think ages 7 and 11 sound a little too old for bathing together

[andreasderjuengere]

I see nothing wrong with it as long as the kids themselves are (all of them) ok with it.
Problem being: two or more kids in one bath, and a good mood added... leaves the question of who's clearing up the bathroom later :D

[CoolGuy7532]

Well, she's asking to do it. I don't see why not. I think it's fine. Based on her being 11 and them being 7, I think it would actually be okay for another three years or so. Go for it!

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

If I can recall correctly, around 5th grade sex ed gets taught to kids. Having a kid fully aware of what the opposite sex is, and get naked with them in a confined space with younger oblivious kids isn't justifiable in my mind.

[Miristheiss]

That is getting a little old. I'd be thinking about stopping that and the 11 year old getting privacy.

[Surely]

She is probably just curious for whatever reason. Can't imagine that it would be harmful to either of them.
I would be more concerned about how a teacher or other "concerned" person might feel if they were told.

[Cute_potato01]

She's old enough to bath alone. Hopefully it won't be a problem for her