How do you know it’s time for a new set of friends?

[Walamagicc]

I feel like my friends are always ignoring me and they never really ask to hang out unless I initiate it first so I just see the point in me talking to them at this point. They’re lame and never want to do anything. They always say they are “too busy.” But they make time for other people. I just am tired of feeling like an option. The only friend I have is my sister but we can’t always hang out all the time because of our work schedule but I want friends that WANT to hang out with me. I’m tired of reaching out and either getting annoyed or getting a bs excuses. I want someone to want to see me.

[Anonymous]

They constantly put you down and treat you like shit. They don’t initiate with you, but do it for other people. They make self conscious about your hobbies. They’re stuck in the past. They’re burnouts, heavy drinkers and drug users in their mid 20’s. They have no ambition. They’re assholes. You don’t have much in common anymore. They talk shit about you behind your back. They mess you over. They constantly flake on you.

Can you answer mine?

Is it good if a guy is 30, attractive, tall, fit, single, picky about his girls, had 1 girlfriend, and interviews for high paying jobs?

[exitseven]

I think it is a part of growing up. You are changing and they are staying the same. Try to make new friends. I know it is hard but you are young and it is easier when you are young.

[Walamagicc]

I think so as well. My “friends” never want to do anything except go to work and do their homework. I’m not in school but I do have a job but I have a lot of free time on my hands but I just am starting to think that maybe the people that are my “friends” are just really lame and boring. I don’t even see the point of reaching out anymore.

[exitseven]

Try and cultivate new interests and meet new people. Sitting at home isn't going to get the job done. Make your life something that YOU want it to be. Don't just follow what your friends are doing.

[Walamagicc]

Well I recently joined the gym with my sister so maybe I can make some work out buddies? I’m just thinking of hobbies to come up with in general because it’s like fuck these people that are my “friends”. They have the same routine every day. I think I just outgrown them like u said.

[exitseven]

Good to hear. Don't be afraid to make guy friends either. You never know how things are going to turn out.

[Walamagicc]

Thanks for answering!

[exitseven]

you are welcome. 😊😊😊

[exitseven]

Thank you for the MHO

[Anonymous]

They don't invite you to things, make you feel like a second choice, put you down, or sometimes you can just feel it or that you some how grown out of them. You're "friends" except your sister of course seem like assholes. I'd say now is the time for new friends. I was in a similar situation as you my senior year of high school, I realized that my "friends" since freshmen year weren't really my friends. It hurts but I realized that true friends got your back and ask you to do things.

[queenish_]

I've been in your shoes before but it's definitely time to get some new friends because you can't force them to want to be your friend. Be friends with someone who wants to be your friend just as much as you. They're probably just not the right friends for you or they were just seasonal and that's okay, there are lots of people who would be genuinely interested in you and wished they lived in your house even though you all may get on each other's nerves sometimes🙂

[Walamagicc]

I think so as well. I mean, these people don’t necessarily ALWAYS ignore me but it’s hard to set up almost anything with them. One of them never really answers me and today I called her around 12pm just to simply catch up and I was going to come pick her up to go get snow cones. She didn’t even call me back. She Snapchatted me back and tbh, I am just kinda like nonchalant and I don’t even care enough to see what she says because I already know she’s going to say some lame ass excuse as to why she can’t hang out.

The other girl doesn’t live in my city anymore but she still works at the same job as me. She usually answers right away when I reach out but today, I saw she was active on Facebook and I FaceTime her like for the 3rd time and she didn’t answer but she texted me back and asked what was up and she said she was at work… ok? But how hard is it to just send that. Why did she go on Facebook when she saw I called her but didn’t say anything? I’m actually considering using apps to make friends but I feel like that is kind of weird …. Don’t really know what to do and I’m getting lonely always by myself…

[queenish_]

Well in order to make friends you can start being a friend to others and the right ones will come along but don't force relationships and be desperate because one day you'll get the right friend at the right time just be patient.

In my opinion, nothing is wrong or weird about making friends online so if you see someone shares the same interests as you I say go for it.

It's also okay to be alone. You should get comfortable with having fun by yourself and not feel lonely as often so when that true friend comes around you don't get needy and clingy and push them away.

[Walamagicc]

I try not to be clingy like I really give my “friends” space but what app would you recommend would be a good start for making friends?

[Walamagicc]

Oh and should I open their texts or just leave it alone?

[queenish_]

I'm not sure of any apps tbh expect the usual Instagram, Facebook, Tiktok or maybe gag🤷🏾‍♀️

The mature thing to do would be to first tell them how you really feel and see if anything changes that's if you haven't already. Other than that respectfully end the friendship eg. I enjoyed spending my time with you and thank you for the joy you brought into my life but I think its time for us to go our separate ways and make new friends.

[Walamagicc]

I don't know, I guess my best bet is to be a more social person. I already have a gym membership with my sister and maybe I can meet some cool work out chicks at the gym or I can find a hobby to do. I don’t think explaining my “friends” their actions is really going to make much of a difference and I’m not really a confrontation person unless it’s absolutely necessary. I think I’m just going to go ghost on them and do my own thing. Today I changed my number so it will make dropping them even easier lol.

[queenish_]

Yeah that's a good idea

[Anonymous]

When you feel super drained after you guys hang out. When you always feel on edge around them. When you literally dread talking to them and you’re only talking out of habit. When there are a lot of awkward silences when you guys talk. When you start wishing you had other friends to hang out with. When you guys have nothing in common anymore

[serious]

Self analysis and past experience should be good enough to know whether one should make new set of friends or not

[serious]

@TonyaKeks

First of all I am Asexual and secondly, I never want to date in my life. Hence No. Have a nice day.

[abc3643]

Now is the time. I understand. I went through the same thing a bit in 1999.

[cheapshotbob]

when everyone acts like those guys on that tv show friends, those kind of friends are toxic if you think about it lol

[FlutteringFeelings]

The moment we have to question someone’s position in our lives.

[sheikalana]

When it turns into a toxic environment instead of a friendly environment.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Unless you want a guy who pretends he wants to be your friend and then fucking you later, I don’t think there’s much hope.

[JamieLoves]

When they want to rule you/ your life , want you to do stupid or illegal things or stab you in the back.

[Anonymous]

then go make new friends and sit down and talk to your current ones about how you're feeling

[bunnyjain10]

Hello wanna be my onlije friend i have no one tbh 😭

[msc545]

When your present friends are doing crime, using drugs, or treating you badly.

[princeofromance]

When you find they are talking about you behind your back and trying to steal your man.

[rapfan107]

When they stress you out and get the worse out of you

[lycanthrope3]

if your path feels wrong, time to change, make friends on your new path

[Jmmmfi4]

You and I have the exact same issue

[Walamagicc]

Like what is going on with people? I think it’s really strange how like these same exact people will see me hanging out with someone else or just having fun and then all of sudden they wanna hang out. It’s like really annoying. Especially when they’re like “I’m busy, I have work.” Okay but there’s not a person that works 24 hrs a day, at this point, I’m just dropping these people cuz they are boring and lame af anyways

[Iron_Man]

When they become toxic