Unfortunately, there are culturally promoted patterns that are passed down from generation to generation. Each culture has its own traditions, and they may differ from other cultures. It is very hard to buck a system that we've been indoctrinated with since we were born. In the Hispanic communities, males (of any age) are treated with blind respect, whereas females are there to do all the work. Actions of a male is often excused, whereas the same actions of a female is criticized. Men can have affairs (after all, men will be men), whereas women are ostracized if they have an affair.
You won't be able to change the whole system, but you can change things in the family you choose to create and nurture. You can promote equality rather than superiority and subservience. You can promote mutual respect. You're not going to change your mother, but to keep going back and expect different results will never be in your best interest. You're at an age where you can stand on your own two feet. Focus on what is within your control rather than expect others to change for you. Choose a partner who has the same belief system, and create a life the two of you respect and appreciate.
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The youngest is always mommy's favorite. It's the sane with my family. I'm treated very poorly and my little sister is the golden little angel (she really isn't)
It’s an unfortunate double standard. My husband’s sister was favored over him. And her daughter is favored over my sons. It’s sad. 😕
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I think Males tend to be close to their Mother's and there is often a Mother and Daughter clashing that often happens and no offense your Mother is toxic
and I don't know what is wrong with her , I hope someday she finds herselfMy mother treated me with hatred also because I am a boy. My oldest sister got everything she wanted new clothes I had my clothes bought from the goodwill. I know how you feel. Sorry you are having to go through this.
Next time she does that tell her no speak English and she starts speaking in Spanish say no no no no no no I only speak in love and smile
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