It seems he noticed your absent regards for him once a year but doesn’t recognize that he was absent for thousands of days doing what other fathers were, those fathers are then thanked on Father’s Day. He doesn’t really need you on Father’s Day, but you needed him for years when he wasn’t there. How can the absence of a few words once a year compare to the absence of a father for years? It doesn’t even compare.
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Maybe you should "forget" to call him and then give a "oh sorry, I got busy and forgot" next time you talk to him.
I can't relate, fortunately. My folks have been together for ages.
My mom was never in my life. She’s tried recently to meet my kids but will not get clean. I never wish the bitch a happy Mother’s Day but I do wish my dad and aunt one because they raised me
My dad was a wonderful dad, but I wouldn't call an useless deadbeat dad at all. Tell him he's not a father.
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The problem for him is that when a child is an adult, at some point the dad's responsibilities diminish to almost zero. So what can he do to make up for all of the years when he should have been there for you? All he can do is show interest in your life more often during the year, I guess. It's going to be a drop in the bucket compared to what a good dad would've done for you between age 6 and say 25. There's no way he can make it all up.
That said, if he makes a genuine effort & not the fake stuff he's doing now, I'd cut him a lot of slack. Probably not to the point of having him at every holiday meal.. ha ha. But I would feel bad if he was in the hospital and check on him, kind of thing.
I'd have a conversation with him and spell all of this out. I'd make it clear that if he goes a year without contacting me again, don't expect me to pick up the phone/text a week before Father's day because I have a life of my own and I fill it with people who matter to me and give a crap about me.
Users love to say, 'blood is thicker than water'. The truth is that blood is created when someone treats you like family consistently. When they don't whatever blood there was turns into water.relationship really a mess. up to you if you want to try and get it to a good place or don't care anymore.
I think yes, but depends on how I feel at that time.
rather than wishing this or that, how about sit down and talk about what the hell happened, how he really feels and what want rest of life to be like... then do that?My boyfriend's dad is shit. He didn't wish his father happy father's day. As deserved.
I wouldn't. He wasn't there when you needed it, when he promised it. He doesn't deserve your time and attention.
I feel similar about my own father. He doesn’t known the second thing about me doesn’t show interest in my life. He’s just not that great of a dad.
I might if he was making an effort, but it doesn't sound like your father is.
Don't stress about it. Just do what you feel is right for you.
I'll tell you this- I've never contacted my biological on Father's Day.
I think that would be like singing “happy birthday” to a stranger
What father? Mofo was never there!
Father's day is for fathers
Nah, I don’t want a temporary father.
Nah, I wouldn't
Hell nah he don’t deserve it.
I suppose so
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