Which of these is the main reason why you last had to ghost someone who was talking to you?

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I mean when you last had to ghost someone what was the reason? And im talking about someone you’ve been speaking with for a little while at least.

also could have been this week or years ago when you last had to do this.

im sure everyone knows what ghosting means but jic: when you drop all contact from a person with no reason given to them whatsoever. You just disappear from them and you also ignore attempts they do to speak with you again. You might’ve even blocked them entirely.

Which of these is the main reason why you last had to ghost someone who was talking to you?

mk200195 · Accepted Answer

As much as we don’t like to admit it, I’d like to think that we’ve intentionally or unintentionally ghosted somebody at least once over the courses of our lives. My experience with ghosting happened several years ago when I was still in school. Being a fairly average teenager, the need to have an online presence was a necessity more than most things. I met a lot of new and interesting people online, many of whom I still have good relationships with and will regularly communicate with. However, maintaining an online presence often means you get a lot of unwanted attention from all corners of the world. I found this out after joining a social media app designed to talk to people from other countries. A lot of the messages I received were from lonely Thai girls who had an abnormal fascination in fair indian men. One of these girls was particularly obsessed with me, frequently trying to ask me uncomfortable questions about ‘’our future together’’. I’d wake up in the middle of the night to her messaging me, supposedly crying because I hadn’t responded to her messages despite being asleep. She got jealous when I posted pictures of myself with female friends and did her best to control me into only talking to her (bless) and regularly and rather uncomfortably complemented my physical features in a rather desperate way.

I don’t really know why I carried on talking to her. I think it was maybe because I felt sorry for her, but also somewhat humored her because of her behavior which I saw as rather pathetic. After a while, after it was evident that this girl had completely fallen in love with me, I didn’t really see our conversations going anywhere and I simply did not have time to talk to her every day all day, as I was in the process of applying for university and completing my exams. I don’t really know why I talked to her for so long. I do feel a little bit guilty for playing with her somewhat easy heart, but I didn’t like the way she thought she could just pick up a guy that easily and an instant attraction would be made. It is for this reason that I don’t believe in love at first sight. I don’t date girls who make judgments and act primarily on your physical appearance alone. I’d much rather be in contact with stable and independent people who I know can support me as well as themselves.

rjroy3 · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't really say Ghosted since I wasn't ignoring them. But we both just sort of mutually stopped talking to eachother lol. But I did initiate the not talking anymore.

Most common reasons were 1. They pushed for a type of relationship I didn't want or 2. They were not investing enough.

The start of any type of getting to know you is essentially laying out the ground work for what your relationship will look like. So it's on you to set a precedent that you're good with.

How much or little you text/call. How often you see eachother. Types of conversations you get into. How often you hangout with eachothers friends/family. How often you go to parties/go out. Things like that.

Usually a girl will be pushing for more time and more exclusive commitment early on and I veer away from that as a general rule in the beginning. But had a girl who was getting mad and near argumentative that I took a few hours to text back or me telling her what I'M doing this weekend for plans rather than trying to setup plans and invite her.

That shit annoyed me. We weren't together and she was already suffocating me so I stopped hitting her up. I did respond when she texted but kept it very light and non-committal. She eventually stopped hitting me up.

The other scenario is a girl who expects you to do all the work. Won't message you unless you message her first to start the conversation. Won't buy you a drink or offer to cover anything for you. Won't offer to get the uber. Just expects you to pick her up and drop her off.

Personally the way I do things avoids problems with girls like that from the start but every now and then one gets through. Girl pretty much outright said, "if a guy stops texting me I stop coding". I just said straight up. If I have to be the one to start the conversation every time for us to talk then I'll sat goodbye to you here, because I only deal with girls who give af.

Then we stopped talking lol. That's the type of woman who will grow old as a single woman and get upset when guys stop hitting her up and start to do less and less for her as time goes by. It's a very crude way to put it but I heard a guy say it well.

"Girls like that in a few short years will be begging for a dick to suck "

courtney06 · Accepted Answer

They seemed more interested in talking about themselves and topics I have no interest in. Rarely asked me how I was doing and what I’m up to even though I asked them. It was really exhausting because I felt like I had to do most of the work to keep the conversation going. I just don’t have the patience anymore.

Eelephant · Accepted Answer

Sometimes I do it unintentionally not because of anything they did, just because I'm an introvert and don't really like people much in general so I forget to respond. If I do it intentionally which is rare then it's because they've become too uncomfortably sexual or overstepped our boundaries.

Anonymous · Answer

You are welcome to ghost someone if:

- they threaten you
- they blatantly insult you
- they try to gaslight you after you point out something they did wrong
- they message something inappropriately sexual AFTER you tell them to stop OR they do something egregiously over the top (send you a nude pic with zero context).

*As for ladies who ghost guys who make sexual comments. More often than not the guy is trying to be flirty here and wants avoid being boring. He’s walking a tight rope.

I can tell you most guys will immediate stop messaging anything sexual and apologize if you say something. More often than not he’s trying to avoid being boring and is walking a tight rope on that.

But more and more of you hit the eject button quick if he makes one honest mistake. You should really try to communicate better on that.

Anyway any other reason to ghost someone is just selfish and rude. It only takes 10 seconds to say you rather not communicate anymore.

Bee-Hatch · Answer

They were a pure anti vaxxer and wouldn't stop sending conspiracy theories, alternative facts and other bullshit. They seemed obsessed about the topic ahead of any other subject. It was when they compared the vaccination programme to the Holocaust I was to the point they stop contacting me and stopped all contact.

tatianamay · Answer

A, B and D. I get bored easily, but I do not ghost them. I just reply a little late, like an hour is two late when I’m free, and I have ghosted guys who got so sexual like demanded nudes and stuff{a dude bombarded my phone with his dick pics (they were unsolicited by the way)} and I told him to stop sending, but he kept on did and asked me to send bug I refused to, and blocked his needy ass. And there was this dude who was clingy af, he was possessive too and I hated it.

Oh, and other than this, I’m the one who’s always getting ghosted 🙃🥲

zeitgeist057 · Answer

They were a scam artist. Contacted me and we chatted all night for 4-5 hours straight. Traded pictures, she wanted my phone number to text and email "for another way to contact you.".

I got a little suspicious so I did an image search on the photos she sent and found out they belong to someone with a different name, and also someone else had been phished by someone using these same photos.

So I blocked and then the next day some guy calls and texts me from another number, saying he's the girl's supervisor in the army and she's acting moody and not participating in the exercises and will I please call her.

JoeyRock · Answer

A loooot of the A option. But also a bit of people who dump their worries on me, and while I am glad to serve as a venting medium, they always circled back to it when the topic was different. And then it goes back to something sexual because they feel desperate and think that's the only way to relieve their depression.

I really wish I could help but I'm no good at that, and as soon as they start being intimate and sending stuff I defnitively did not ask for, I'm out.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Well, I've ghosted an Aunt after my Uncle passed due to she always laughed over problems I had going on within my household.. I've ghosted my Sister, Niece for simply I felt my Sister took advantage of me when we all went out for dinner and I had to give her $20.00 for gas plus pay for all of our meals which came to $44.00... I didn't mind paying for everyone's meal but $5.00 for gas would be sufficient so things happen in families and it's sad

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

A B and D are all reasons I’ve had to stop talking to people. But I try never to ghost anyone. I always try and tell them why I’m not gonna talk to them anymore. If they persist I’m more likely to block them than ghost them.

PaynefulPleasures · Answer

I don't ghost I just tell you & then politely tell you off 😂

Ez-Bri-Z · Answer

It has always been because they got way too sexual. I dont mind flirting and sexual questions, but when they start trying to pressure their way into my marriage or asking to have sex with my wife then they crossed a line.

Alyssa11 · Answer

It’s the guy I gave my number to. He was persistent. So I ghosted him.

MzAsh · Answer

I’ve never been someone who ghosts. If someone was deemed worthy enough to be in my life in any capacity to begin with, I will give them a common courtesy of communicating properly. I’ve gone MIA for a temporary period of time but that was usually about me preserving and managing my own time and energy.
I’ve ignored plenty of guys who come on to me, but I don’t really count them as people I ghost because they weren’t really in my life to begin with.

hannahjo022 · Answer

I recently ghosted a guy who tried to get with me several times and always told them I was interested. They would constantly text me every SINGLE DAY! When they would text me and I would not reply, they would call me multiple times within a hour. I would tell that I was not interested and they said weird things to me that made me upset. I stopped all contact and hope they got a hit since I have not heard from them for 2 weeks.

neeeeeeeko · Answer

Conversations became boring. "Hey how are you. That's good, wyd" like every time we talk and that's pretty much the whole thing, nothing else after.

ArztSchlachthof · Answer

Boredom, mainly. If you are so shallow I can't have a conversation with you, you'd probably not understand my mindset anyway.

Other than that, I usually don't ghost people. I am rather straightforward - if I see that your behaviour and ideas are "despised" by me, you know it. If you are boring or "laconic", I'll tell you right away as well. In a mindful way, of course. Probably with a joke attached to it, but it has to be strict and ultimate.

LonelyDeer · Answer

The only reason I typically ghost is due to thinking they're fake or a scammer. Normally I give people notice if I'm blocking them or don't want to continue the conversation. However, I have, with exception, ghosted people who respond once every other week or month.

Midnight_Kiss · Answer

I've never ghosted anyone, I always say something, on the other hand I seem to be a ghostable person considering how easy people find it to go ghost on me

exitseven · Answer

I haven't used social media enough to ghost anyone. I probably would not do it anyway. I have blocked a couple of people however. Mostly for being rude to some of our female members.

menina · Answer

Voted C. It was all perfect in the beginning but then it turned into a nightmare, so I had to ghost and block him. It was the best decision I've ever made.

Anonymous · Answer

My aunt trashed talked my dead dad. She's not a blood relative to him. She wasn't totally lying and smearing his character. I told her if she did it again I was done with her. She did. She tried contacting me for a year. Then tried a fake apology where she wouldn't even say exactly what she was apologizing for. F her.

pleasestopthis · Answer

Both B and E at the same time. I regret it now because it was very cowardly of me, I should have been upfront about the situation.
I thought we were just hanging out like old acquaintances but then he starts talking about "dating" and I just freaked out

crazy8000 · Answer

The ghosting says it self what kind of person they are.

It's amusing how they doesn't want to take responsibility and blame others for it.
The funny thing is when they do it is that they paint themselves as a person with narcissistic attitude.

AlongCameCindy · Answer

For me its either they're boring or too sexual, i don't like either from people i don't know well.
Usually when i ghost its because i find them uninteresting, but i also get ghosted, i will put this though... i only ever do this to people i've not met or connected with, i've never done it to a friend or someone i've known a long time i feel like people who do that are assholes and lack empathy.

electromagnetic · Answer

Wasting my time because they couldn’t decide what they wanted in life.

SynthKobra · Answer

Girl literally had THREE phones and kept taking calls from friends and family members. The level of disrespect was expert level. She then wanted to hang out again but that was it.

Wiredone · Answer

I'm a straight forward type of guy. I just tell them I'm done talking to them and I say why.

Willoughby23 · Answer

Voted d. She never liked talking about sex then I saw on her Facebook that she was a virgin waiting for marriage. All we did was small talk on Snapchat about boring stuff that happened to us in our everyday life. Got sick of it real quick, and I dont even want to get married. Also I don’t believe in waiting until marriage to have sex. I would want to know if we are sexually compatible before we tie the knot….. duh

EssenceOfLight · Answer

Sometimes there is nothing more to say. I wouldn't call it ghosting, it's just lack of any motivation to talk with specific person.

Anonymous · Answer

Would you consider blocking someone the same as ghosting?

Kdizzle85 · Answer

I don’t believe in ghosting. Sounds immature and denying responsibility on your part. Aren’t you man enough to be honest?

TwoowT · Answer

They got too inappropriately sexual and it made me uncomfortable. A for for me! Guys are annoying sometimes, SMH🙎🏻‍♀️

worldscolide · Answer

I never ghost. Ghosting shows you're a worthless coward who is not capible of respecting anyone but th selves, and are thus unworthy of respect.

Guanfei · Answer

I never ghost. Last person I had to push away was just talking to me whenever she needed an advice or opinion, and would leave me on read right away without even a word

Azura_88 · Answer

They weren't genuine.

fonduegirl · Answer

He was playing psychopath to lure me.

poneglyphs · Answer

I never ghost anyone, it is always me that is being ghosted :(

Prideful · Answer

I don't remember ghosting anyone, I rarely talk to anyone in fact. I have no reason to ghost and if the other talks too much (never happenned) I guess there is a reason behind.

Babygirlsweetheart1 · Answer

I think a mix of different beliefs, and mostly though it was that he was creepy

Joshua0213 · Answer

I've never ghosted anyone but have been ghosted several times

Anonymous · Answer

I’ve only ghosted one girl in my life so far, and it was for the stupidest reason.  I still can’t get over it today. I was such a fucking moron.

Chthou95 · Answer

I don't ghost. Im straight up and ill give them my reason

red_knight · Answer

She got a bullshit attitude and started acting like gaf was her father's.. 😂 I blocked her dumbass

Éhmîë · Answer

👻👻not ghosted sb before

pink_and_inlove · Answer

Option A

karaspara · Answer

Options A B C D and E

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