I don’t want her to steal my bsf?

[Anonymous]

My bsf is Tim and he lives in Germany, while I live in India. I met this girl on quick add yesterday and we bonded over girl talk. Yep, weird af, but anyway, she asked me if I had any best friends and I told her about Tim, and she asked me if I could introduce her to him so that all 3 of us could be friends, like a group yk? But I’m not sure about that. I told Tim and he isn’t online yet lol, but I’m kinda hesitant. What if the girl causes a rift between us? I only have 2 bsfs and I don’t want anyone to cause a rift in our friendship. I sound like a bitch, but I’m truly scared. Do you think I’m just being paranoid?

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Update: But if you think she's nice I'd like to meet her I guess. Lol, you don't have to worry about that you'd still be my bestie you know ❤️

This is what Tim sent me. I said I didn’t want to introduce him to someone I don’t trust yet, I took your advice guys! Thank you, love y’all so much :D

[Anonymous]

no way. You just met and she's wanting to meet people in your life... don't trust it. And don't let her bs you about not trusting her or whatever. That's like the control freaks in relationships that say "if you love me, you'll give me your password" for whatever. You don't HAVE to give anyone access to your personal private life to "prove" you care about them. It could be legit and her honestly just trying to meet people, but there's zero reason for you to be that open and trusting at this point.

[Asker]

Yeah, you’re right. Thank you for your opinion! And I was reluctant too, I do not want her to meet my bsf. She told me that she had just broken up with her boyfriend because his best friend didn’t like her

[Asker]

I do not want my best friend to ignore me, or yk, you never know, so I’ll never introduce them, thank you :D

[Opinion Owner]

no prob. happy to help. :D and if there's nothing weird going on, she should be understanding about it and respect your feelings too.

[ChrisMaster69]

No, do not do it a few reasons.

Yes you do run the real risk of her supplanting you.

there is also the fact you would be introducing a mad axe murderer to your friend…

[Asker]

lol thats true, thank you, I will not introduce him to her

[fonduegirl]

This one

[fonduegirl]

Your friend being friends with your other friend?

Gee, that never ends well. I've had people fight over me. Even so, in the end it highlights you negatively if you don't pick a side.

Bad move, honey.

[Asker]

Yeah, I’ve read it in books lol, that’s why I was a little hesitant to introduce them. I don’t know much about her but she seems really nice and Tim is amazing and he’s my best friend, I don’t want to risk mh friendship with him

[Asker]

I haven’t introduced them yet haha

[fonduegirl]

Introduce her to some other friend.

How about Chris? He's understanding and you guys seem close from the replies I've read.

[Asker]

Lol yeah, he’s a good friend of mine, but I didn’t meet her on here

[fonduegirl]

My bad then.

[fonduegirl]

But seriously though, she sounds like a parasite.

[Asker]

Lol, but the question I asked today… I asked because of her. She told me that her parents abuse her

[Asker]

And I didn’t know what to say

[fonduegirl]

You should advice her to seek professional help. There's not much you can do about her family.

[Asker]

Yeah, I did. I told her to get therapy, but I don’t know. She didn’t say anything. I felt really bad about that and I don't know, whenever something like this happens I feel terrible for them and it affects my whole mood and disrupts the stuff I’m doing

[fonduegirl]

You don't have to feel guilty or helpless about the matter.

Because honestly, you ain't no professional. We have counselors for this shit. Ask her to use it.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I think you should let them know your just wanting things to be friends and that is all you don't want any friendship to break up, hey it's best to let them know instead of being left in the dark about things

[Asker]

But what if she thinks I’m being a bitch?

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@tatianamay I know well you could always play things cool to you see how it goes

[Asker]

Okayy, I’ll do that, thank you :D

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@tatianamay You're welcome :)

[doopayo]

Don’t do the gc, I’ve heard a lot of scary stories where some pick mee girl steals a girls man or flirts with him on a gc

[Asker]

okayyy, but I don't really have to introduce each other right?

[doopayo]

Yeah, you definitely don’t have to. Since you just met her you don’t really know how she 100% is as a person so it’s good to keep your guard up to avoid being hurt in the future

[Asker]

Okayy, so do i tell him that he asked if all 3 of us could be friends or do i keep it from him?

[Wise4myage]

This is your insecurities talking, and what you are experiencing happens to practically every friendship. So its something you have to accept. So the best advice is to try your best to remain friends, but at the same time, strive to make new friends.

[Asker]

lol yeah, I don't have much friends and I don't know, she seems like a nice person tho

[Asker]

we vibe very well

[Wise4myage]

That's a good sign. But make an effort to make some new friends too.

[Asker]

yeah, okay, i will, thank you for your opinion, i really appreciate it :)

[Wise4myage]

You're welcome and good luck.

[SamFromFL]

You just met her. No need to share friends until you get to know her and she earns some trust. You are right to protect your friendship and if she gives you grief then you know her intentions are not pure.

[Asker]

Yeah, you’re right, thank you :D

[UnknownGagsUser]

People online can cause many problem , how long have you known this girl? I am not sure its good to introduce her if you ain't know her that well.

[Asker]

Yeah, I haven’t introduced her yet lol. I don’t want to tbh

[UnknownGagsUser]

Then just telling her that he doesn't want to lol

[Asker]

Lol, okayy, she won’t take it in a bad way right?

[UnknownGagsUser]

Or maybe find a better and believable way to lie her 😂😂😂

[magicclown]

sorry what does bsf mean? im slow lol.

well it is a risk yeah but if the guy is mature enough he'll still remain your friend

ps can you dm me?

[Asker]

It means best friend lol

[magicclown]

ah ok. im a friend of yours. can you dm me? just a hi. i can't dm you because im level 1

[magicclown]

my real name starts with a D lol

[magicclown]

yeah i get it i wouldn't trust level 1's either. well ill talk to you soon tho

[Asker]

lololol, okayy, i think i know who you are lol

[Tstrbrainer]

Well, if she's an adult, you can introduce her to me. Problem solved and she'll never ask anyone to introduce her to someone else 🤣

[Asker]

lmaooo noooo, she's 17 haha

[Tstrbrainer]

Oh perhaps after a few years then 😂

[VirajGoklani]

You can introduce her to him! Look, if you just like to be a good friend, then what is the problem if he flirt with her? 😀

[Asker]

we're just friends, but what if she badmouths about me or something or what if she causes a rift in our friendship or what of both of them become best friends and im left alone? im kind of scared about that. And yes, im also insecure lol

[VirajGoklani]

Haha.. As per my opinion, boys do not leave any girl, they will flirt with both but never settle for one if he is getting two... Sometimes semicircle can be enjoyable too. You 3 can have similar fun. Don't be insecure at all!

[Asker]

Lol, no, we’re just friends lol. We flirt, but it’s not like the flirting with ulterior motives. It’s just harmless flirting lolll,

[VirajGoklani]

Yes, i am saying that only... Enjoy in every manner! It would happened between 3 people! Who knows you also start loving that.

[karaspara]

I think it's more you are worrying but ultimately talk to Tim about it he might put you at ease and you can decide together

[es20490446e]

Tatiana, who would want to change you for another girl? :P

[Sambelfast198526]

Nothing wrong with chatting.

[Hotboy_booblover]

Parallel world... reminds me of matrix

[anylolone]

You guys even jealous of friends?