Is it ok for parents to go through their kids personal stuff? (Page 2)

Question

My mom will go threw my journal and sketchbook when I’m not looking, I hate it. Those are supposed to be my personal things and she just goes threw it and ruins it.  If I have anything in them that she doesn’t like than she rips the pages out or ruins my art/writing by writing all over it. Recently she went threw my sketchbook and got mad because of something I drew. This isn’t the first time she’s went threw my stuff without asking and I don’t like it.  I can’t even lock my door to prevent it because my room doesn’t have one  She says because I’m a kid I have no right to privacy?

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

First off, it’s “through.” Second, what are you drawing? Do you have a good relationship with your parents?

Ad_Quid_Orator · Answer

Not that I'm going to argue that her reaction was justified but what did you draw that made her do that?

DWornock · Answer

Perhaps parents should have that right. But if you believe she is excessive, ask your father to intercede.

ThatNoUVAtYourEyes · Answer

Probably not, but my foster parents did and with abuse attached. Then again, they were both transgender and hugely abusive/pain addicts for fun/their idea of pleasure

FireFox001 · Answer

Sorry to say, kid, but your mom is an asshole, who is projecting things onto you. Here is the thing: just stop using paper based stuff for a while. See if that gives her a reminder.

Fuentes · Answer

Kids these says are different but my mom or dad never went through my stuff so i most likely would not unless there was sign or an issue something was wrong

FairEnough · Answer

Simple answer no. They will get trust issues that way.

RealMarek · Answer

This is why I created a code to write with when I was your age.

Anonymous · Answer

Parents should not be invading their kids privacy unless there is a legitimate risk to their safety. I’m sorry you’re going through that babe.

EnglishEuropean · Answer

It's morally wrong but they are your parents so their house their rules. I can relate though, my Dad was an asshole.

Glasgow55 · Answer

Absolutely not. How would they feel if you went through (not "threw") their stuff. It's totally not acceptable.

Juxtapose · Answer

Let your parents catch you masturbating a few times. That made them start knocking when I was a kid xD

Jamie05rhs · Answer

No, it's not okay. Tell her that you have a very long memory, and if she doesn't stop it then you will put her in a nursing home.

Jackblue · Answer

Your mom is a tyrant, unfortunately I don't believe you have any legal recourse. How does your dad feel about what she is doing?

msc545 · Answer

You have every right to privacy. Have a friend keep your things or keep them in your school locker if you have one.

Amur8711 · Answer

They should only do that if they have a good reason to know if something is off with you. But if everything is normal then they shouldn't be doing that

Rangers · Answer

Absolutely not, personal items are not to be disrespected by anyone

TacosRAwesome · Answer

No it is not cool or ok. One of the reasons why I moved out a number of times.

River1234 · Answer

I don't think so.  it was not so wise for her to do that. 🤔

OddBeMe · Answer

Unfort their house their rules. But if you don’t want to drive a wedge with your kids, give them privacy.

Hillary86 · Answer

I hate two things like that one Journal be for my parent when they snoop the 2nd one went in my locker lock and key. I kept key on me at all times.

2ndTryatThis · Answer

As annoying and devastating as it can be, she is your mom. I’ve been there and I know how embarrassing it can be. Sorry you’re goin through this.

Ryfyle · Answer

@doopayo Would you rather have parents that didn't give a fuck or were to busy in their own careers to care?

cloud9vortex1234 · Answer

I don't see the point of why she's doing what she's doing by what you're describing. Is your father in your life?

007kingifrit · Answer

yes you are under 18. you own nothing. just like a socialist likes right?

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds like to me your mom is invading your privacy and does not respect your boundaries as a teen.

Nazgol · Answer

Why not put it in a safe or safe box something she can't easily access

SalvatoreCordileone · Answer

Yes, you let Google see everything you do. So whats the difference

Steven8000 · Answer

Of course not. Only if there is high suspicion of drugs or something. Other than that then no

MountAverage · Answer

No, unless they have a legitimate reason to be concerned.

grega239 · Answer

It suck but Until you're 18 and a legal adult, yes they can

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Depends the age. After a certain point it becomes inappropriate.

Youdumbeotch · Answer

You live in their house with their possessions so yes.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

I can definitely see what shaped your personality here

nickaboy · Answer

No, a good parent talks to their kid if they suspect something.

Anonymous · Answer

It's not a great way for a parent to develop trust with their kids, so I'd say no--it isn't okay.

Anonymous · Answer

your mom's sick in the head and a massive control freak. mine is like that to. wait to you turn 18 then get the hell out of that nutjob toxic house

Sami28 · Answer

I can understand in keeping an eye out on our kids but textbooks and dairies are just over the top

Queenzee22 · Answer

Nope I call it intruding

karaspara · Answer

Depends why to be honest

pleasestopthis · Answer

No, she shouldn't do that.

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

Until you’re 18, you have no rights.

pink_and_inlove · Answer

Nah it’s not it’s nosy as hell

Caramelpie · Answer

Yes, as long as you don’t have anything to hide

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah if you have nothing to hide then do t worry.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

No! That’s terrible.

Lilliana_Hex · Answer

I think it's a blatant breach of trust.

Larvonite · Answer

Its not ok for parents to be a helicopter

Anonymous · Answer

Yep, if they are underage.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

NO!!!

Babygirl_S · Answer

No way.

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes sure

JessieBellll · Answer

Not at all

Sketti2021 · Answer

Yes...

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

No, that’s not right

Slim57 · Answer

Absolutely

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