When you move back home, you are re-relegated to "child" status by your parents. And you are being disruptive by coming home at 2 in the morning. It is THEIR house and you're parking yourself there until you get back on your feet.
I think it's reasonable that you have a conversation with your parents about your ahem, advanced age and your need to be free to come home by, at the latest, 2 am. And STICK TO THAT as being respectful of your parents' needs to know you're safe and of their far earlier bedtime hours. You don't want them worrying about you, which they will because you are in their home.
The stuff about getting married and the early home hours will cease once you get off your butt and move out and live on your own. You realize, don't you, that you can't have it both ways.
You can't have the freedom and peace you want living at home with your parents. If you want adult freedom, get out of your parents' house and live on your own. It'll hurt your pocketbook, but free your soul and your lifestyle.
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While it’s nice that your parents welcomed you back home after the difficult time you had with your ex, I really think your parents need to respect the fact that you’re an adult woman and still very young, and if you want to enjoy nights out with your friends, that’s really your right and decision to do so. Coming in at 1-2am isn’t actually that late either, and if you’re not making too much noise then I really don’t see the problem. Sounds like your parents need to chill out a bit. Try explaining to them that at 24, and with all that you’ve been through, you really need your friends in your life right now and to just have a bit of fun. Dating, relationships and marriage can come later if you choose that.
Unfortunately it their house, their rules. Maybe it is because they are older, and don't want to be woken up in the middle of the night. MYbe they have work in the morning. Maybe your parents worry about you, and make sure you come home at night, that they are waiting up to hear the door. When you lived on your own, they didn't have to worry about it as much. To them your still their child. And I would say that if you do stay out over night you should probably text then to let them know. It is about piece of mind as a parent. Since you are getting back to your old self, maybe it is time to move back out. Good luck. Hope it gives you some insight.
I mean it is their home, their rules. But they are exaggerating with these odd rules. You are a adult and can make your own decisions. Lucky I never had that problem with my parents. The only thing is I paid for their tv and gave money each month to help them out with some bills. Yes my parents wanted me to get married and have kids. But they never pushed it on me. Usually religious people are the worst. I only moved out at 33 when I was ready to buy my own place. And my parents didn't want (not ready) me to leave lol.
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For one, their house, their rules but for two, not only should they be grateful you're coming home safe, but pushing marriage on you is where its wrong! Ask them how you're supposed to meet a husband if you aren't putting yourself out there on the market. Sarcastically of course, you dont go out looking for husbands, true love will find YOU. So your only left options are to move out amd get your own place OR be direct with them and explain how you feel.
No, it’s not wrong. You’re in their house, so it’s their ruled. If they don’t want you coming home in the middle of the night then you can’t. It makes sense that they don’t want to be woken up and bothered in the middle of the nights. If you don’t like it then you’re free to move out.
Wrong? No. Their place and there rules EVEN if you pay some form of rent. You may not like it but that is the way it is.
to be honest, I'd be mad too if I was woken up at 1 am or 2 am in the morning.
It's their home. If you don't like the rules, pack up your stuff and leave.
I would say change the title and write " Am i wrong here "?
If you don't want to live by someone else's rules then don't live with them.
Yes, but their house, their rules. So you need to think about moving out.
Their house, their rules. You don't like it, move out.
Their house, their rules.
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