I’ll take the spanking for $200 please. Lol it was quick and to the point. Get spanked and i know not to fck up again. Sometimes my mom would send me outside to play when i got in trouble. I literally begged to be put in timeout. 😭 I didn't want to go outside where the bugs and animals and wind was. Like how could you do this til little ole meee? 🥺 But Had i gotten grounded, I’d lose my phone or something. Now that folks, is some real pain in the azz haha. 🤣 I’ll unlikely spank my kids but it will certainly be a last resort if the sit down discussions dont work. And if i do ever ground the kid, I’m not gonna take the tv. Thats just savage. 😈 I’d also never send them to bed without dinner. Thats just crazy. But i’d take their cell phone and the video games cause thats the reeeaal punishment lol. 😎 #FeelFreeToList#FaceTheConsequences
I’d rather be grounded (aka can’t go anywhere, no phone, etc)
I’d rather get a quick spanking (aka an actual spanking not a bloody beatdown)
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Dang yall… read… i specifically said IF YOU COULD CHOOSE. I also said spanked with hand and not slapped/punched/beaten with a belt etc lol. Lets not make this harder than it is. But most gave good simple answers. Thank you
Would you have rather gotten grounded or spanked by your parents?
My dad never spanked me, although when my mom got angry she would often say "Just wait 'til your daddy gets home." That actually kind of scared me because I thought my dad was big and strong, but mainly because I couldn't face his disappointment and disapproval.
One time when I was little, my mom told him to give me a spanking. He actually had me bend over his knee, but then he couldn't bring himself to hit me. Instead, he asked if I was sorry and if I would ever do it (whatever it was) again.
The thing is, my mom was a housewife. She was there all the time when my dad was at work. So she was the one who had to deal with our (my sister and my) shit all day. She had what we called "the red paddle". You know those toys that have a rubber ball attached to the center of a paddle with a rubber band? You hit the ball, it flies out then bounces back, and you hit it with the paddle over and over.
She had a paddle from one of those. And she would spank our asses when we made her really mad.
Usually, though, all I had to see was the look on her face to know that she had just about had enough. Oh, did she have "the look"!
I don't remember ever getting grounded. I got sent to me room, but not grounded for any period of time. And there weren't any phones or devices to take away.
I'd rather get a spanking than grounding. Spanking is like a quick wake up call. I consider grounding a public humiliation and would resent that crap out of that. With my personality, grounding would have made me angry and more rebellious.
Yea spanking is definitely a quick wakeup call but lol i love when parents can't bring themselves to spank the kid. It means we won! Puppy dog eyes really work haha
Maybe grounded although my favorite form of rehabilitation/discipline was doing things like running laps or push-ups or chores like washing the car. I feel like those types of punishments didn't just cause me to suffer but they helped me become stronger and more disciplined.
I went to a private school in Japan where they used this style of punishment. I really liked it because if I misbehaved, I'd have to run laps or do things like clean the classroom but then the teachers would pat me on the head and let me rejoin my classmates and I felt kind of proud for completing my punishment. Helped grow some muscles and a sense of discipline.
I also like the idea if I had a child of giving them additional homework to do like a teacher that goes beyond what they receive from school with the goal that this gives them an advantage in school. This way they're getting something positive out of the experience even if they don't enjoy it much.
I think if we approach it right, it can be more helpful to instill a sense of pride and discipline in the child for being good rather than fear of being bad. At least the fear of being bad didn't work well on me since I was an adrenaline junkie type and addicted to risks and thrills. What worked better to motivate me to put on my good behavior was a sense of pride in being good.
My father also used this style like making me wash our car when I misbehaved. With my mother though, she did the package deal of spanking and grounding. Her punishments kind of backfired and just made me angry at her and want to defy her even more, especially since she sometimes punished me for doing little more wrong than being an energetic and playful kid while catching her in a bad mood. I don't think I got anything out of her spankings except this sense that adults can be very violent and cruel and unfair.
Hm. I was only ever spanked once in my life. We weren't allowed to go inside our friends houses and we did one time. And that was literally 1 quick swat on the butt on our way back to the house. My sister and I freaked out and bawled our eyes out because that was our first time, lmfao. Other than that and when our mom hit us with belt when we were fighting I wasn't spanked. I was never grounded either. I was sent to my room after a huge argument sometimes, but I've never been grounded or have had things taken from me. If my mom sent me outside with all the bugs and shit I'd be bawling too, lmao. Ehh.. I hate pain so I think I'd rather be grounded. I may change my mind.
I never got grounded, I think being grounded is pointless , but I definitely grew up getting my ass kicked when I did stupid shit , which I feel straightened my ass out for the most part for understanding not to do stupid shit anymore , Nowadays if you beat your kid you are at high risk of being arrested for abuse , which I feel is bullshit and why a lot of these kids today have no respect for their parents or anything cuz they walk around knowing nothing is going to stop them , there is no guidance what so ever , My 16 year old has been completely out of control lately and putting me through hell with his stupidity and his actions , A few times I snapped and opened a can of whoop ass on him for being way out of line but it was like I had to hold back some cuz I have the thought of being arrested sitting in the back of my head , and it’s not like I want to hit my kid cuz I hate getting to that point , but that’s the only way I learned not to do stupid shit anymore, you can try to talk to someone until your blue in the face for them to understand but if they aren’t on the same page as you are it goes in 1 ear out the other , So the only threat I give my son is I just tell him to keep doing what he is doing cuz you’re only my responsibility until you are 18 , the second you turn 18 Good luck to you cuz you will not be living under my roof if you don’t straighten your shit out , you won’t be my problem anymore you will be the laws problem , I love you and care about you and hope you start to make the right decisions but if you choose not to then I wish the best for you
Neither, that's cruel and unwanted punishment, being serious here, parents are to teach their kids the ways of this world, kids are new here so yes they will make mistakes that passes most parents of and to whip them for doing something you don't like is wrong they don't know they are going wrong off you don't teach them, know people who feels that you show em once and they do it again spank that ass, I never spanked my kids cause Everytime I triedi just couldn't word wuss out just take them for ice creme and day just pretend you got a good ass whipping ok, and we would start laughing and hip on a long drive and talk, had problems out of them as they grew during their teens used up say you guys ok mean I don't smell any weed on you or caught you trying to sneak in our out what's up got a secret tunnel hidden somewhere, girlfriend they just started laughing but really good kids they were miss them being around but it's no need to speak your child if you just remember they are new here teach them talk with them be sorry if their lives as they grow, not their best friend they have those what they need is parents being parents, best times of my life was with my kids and they grew 0
Many a wooden spoon broken on my ass (prob why I’m not big on it for fun) in my time. I never really did anything to deserve it thinking back.. Impression trying to be made to prevent worse probably. Quicker is better though. I would rather have been outside with my buddies.
@Guido Agree with your reasoning. I’ve been in martial arts for years. If you compare them to boards we break in studio it’s the safest bet because they break too.
Honestly? Grounded, there wasn't really any point to grounding me though, did have much in the way of friends and I didn't have electronics until I got a job and bought them myself, all I ever did was lock myself in my room and read anyway. Spanking hurt for an hour or two afterwards and there was a could of times my mom tossed me in the shower and turned the cold water on full blast when I got in trouble. So yeah, just give me the grounding it was useless anyway.
I'd rather be grounded, not because I fear physical pain, but simply because the evidence shows spanking and other forms of physical punishment to children causes issues in adulthood.
"... negative effects of spanking on children's social-emotional development, self-regulation, and cognitive development, but new research, published this month, shows that spanking alters children's brain response in ways similar to severe maltreatment and increases perception of threats." - (article linked below from Harvard)
Grounding never really worked for me, I'd be told I was grounded and as a rebellious teenager I'd say "Good luck with that" as I walked out the door and left.
Granted there was no cell phones to turn off my plan or anything like that at the time.
I did get spanked up to about 8 and then it had no effect, and turned into grounding... my parents took some classes that talked about how spanking doesn't really work around that time to do timeout and grounding, which also didn't work.
I just come and go as I wanted, even if they called my friends parents and said I wasn't allowed to come over, I just went to a field with a bunch of rusting farm equipment junk in it on the family farm and made a little place to sleep under it, out of the weather and warm if it was cold... make them worry to death about me.
Yeah I was a little turd as a teenager. As I planned this secretly in advance over several weeks or months so no one would notice.
Yeah, I've never understood how grounding really works if they are going to leave. If you try to physically restrain a child, chances are someone or they themselves could report a parents for child abuse these days.
If you put a lock on their room to lock them in, rather than lock out... someone would also call the state and say that is child abuse, a friend of the child or something.
Well my mum used to hit us but it wasn’t just once on the bum or something, she would chase us around with a bamboo stick and then hit us for a good 15-20 minutes so we’d get whacked about 15 times each and then she’d stop but we’d be scared and in pain for the next few days and then it’d happen again. Thing is that we weren’t even naughty kids so I can’t really remember what the beatings were for.
Realistically neither eventhough I did grown up with both, but I probably just choose the ass whooping again like you said it is quick and straight to point even though it might hurt for a few minutes. I sometimes tend to forget how boring getting grounded is, I couldn't do anything or go anywhere other than lame ass school so yes I rather receive another spanking at most.
Plus with a spanking it doesn't mean anything, I would just see it as a quick slap actually majority of the time it doesn't feel like a punishment just get spank and you still keep your stuff, while being grounded I would lose so many privileges plus no video game or my phone I probably die of boredom.
First of all! the 1974 Jack and the beanstalk is te best version of all times (your B option). Second! I got my ass whopped and grounded at all times :P and i never had a phone until 2005 at age of 20 (bought my own). I rather none of them, it's a bad technique to ''learn a lesson'' . What would i do if i had kids? Probably take the phones a way and go out for a walk and talk
I would take a spanking over what i got.. I once accidentally slammed my door, Negative pressure, my window was open.. My mom chose to beat me until i blacked out. I woke up in the ICU with multiple broken bones, barely alive. mom told them i fell out of a tree..
me too. A few years later, When i was 11, my mother told my social worker that my grandfather was a child molester, and i was removed, When i refused to live with my mother, i was placed in foster care. I have not spoken to my mother since i was 16, I have a small life insurance policy on her, under 50k, just enough to cover funeral and burial, which she does not know about and thankfully i didn't need her consent for. Beyond that she doesn't even know that im married.
My mom ( late) did not care what she had in her hand either her flip flops or anything she would spank the hell out of me and she did not care but It taught a lesson well I guess until the next time back then no time out
@DizzyDesii If I was Blessed with a child, I would never spank the child but give it all my love, I'm so glad I never inherited my dad and late mom's issues
I got hit with both at the same time as a kid until they shifted from spanking as I got older. Then they just grounded me and took away the things I loved to use the most.
I’d rather they have cared enough to ground me. Or had my mom not turn a blind eye when her never ending stream of boyfriends paid too much attention to me.
Getting grounded would have been Heaven and a spanking was just a warm up or foreplay.
I never got either. And my parents definitely would have, I just was a really well behaved kid. I never did anything bad enough to earn more than a disappointed look or maybe getting yelled at.
I never got grounded, only spanked. It was scary at times to anticipate the spanking when I messed up lol, but I’m glad I was still able to hang out with my friends and watch TV after. So I prefer the spanking.
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