Lmao my mom knew grounding was a waste. To tell a kid you can't have dinner is just neglectful. To take away the tv, is just pointless, especially in a household where everyone does so. I understand taking away video games though... but to take away my phone? Like come on. That happened only once 🤣 if i pay the bill, its not getting taken. And even if you take my cell phone, i still called everyone off the housephone while you were at work haha. A spanking was the quickest solution... get it over with and go on about your day. I’d prob just lecture my kids and give em the occasional smack against the back of the head, but grounding em just ain't happening. #FeelFreeToList#CrimeAndPunishment
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I was about five years old when one day, my dad decided I needed a spanking (I have no idea what it was about). He flung me over his knee and whacked me, and I found it painful and humiliating. That's exactly the point, of course, but I wasn't thinking that way at the time. I remembered what mom had said when my brother had hit me the other day, and decided that dad needed to hear the same thing. "NO!" I shouted at him "Use your words!" and I slammed my tiny fist into the side of his knee. Well, he wasn't going to take that from me, so he reared back and spanked me again. And I wasn't going to take that from anyone, so I again shouted "NO! Use your words!" and hit back.
We probably only went back and forth three or four times, but it felt like a lot longer. I doubt I was doing more than stinging him, but his blows actually hurt. Finally he realized I wasn't going to back down, and either he'd give up or he'd kill me. (I'm the youngest child, and he's the oldest; I don't think he'd ever understood the Code Of The Little Brother- which states that you never let a stronger person get away with abusing you, because if they think you won't try to stop them, you'll never be rid of the pain- before). He let me go, and gave me a very strange look, one that years later, I came to realize was a sort of abashed admiration. I won some real respect from him that day, and it pissed him off, and he was angry that it pissed him off.
He was never the sort to lose a tool without getting another, though, and from then on, though he abandoned spanking, he took advantage of his medical training and punished us by making us look through the big book of tropical diseases. Some of those things would make you wish for a simple spanking.
No joke, when I was no more than 5 years old, I can remember my mother telling my younger brother and me, "If you kids get thrown in jail you can expect to stay there because I won't be bailing you out. Because if you are in jail it means that you deserve to be. When a police officer tells you to do something you say, 'Yes, sir" and you do it!"
Beyond wondering how I would end up as the first second grader incarcerated on Riker's Island, the truth is that mom was not shy about spankings or groundings. Respect for authority and the rules was the order of the day. Though contrary to what it might sound, she was not excessive and tended to tailor the punishment to the offender.
Thus, one time, my younger brother received a spanking. His reply? "That didn't hurt." To wit, mother realized that it was more torture to confine my brother to his room. For my older brother, to simply say "I'm so disappointed in you" was enough to induce to tears and pleadings for mercy. For me, spankings did the job.
Ironically, mother was more inclined to punishments. Dad was more inclined to reasoning and discussion. Suffice to add, mother is Italian, father is of French and German descent. My father reasoning in the Hegelian tradition. Mother tending to assume that you get more cooperation with a kind word and a gun than with just a kind word.
Of course, to some degree I jest. Mother could be very motherly and was the one more likely to stay up in the middle of the night when we were sick. (I still remember waking up in the middle of the night one time to find her sitting in my room and reading a book by flashlight.)
However, overall, mother had little tolerance for back talk and misbehavior. She use to say to my brothers and me, I expect to raise - AND I WILL HAVE - three young gentleman.
My parents solved the conflicts with Speach. Explain things, putting some intelligence in my head was the way to go. Spanking and grounding just causes the kid to create resistance and of course feelings of fury. I’m glad I was raised by people with manners and common sense 😍✌🏾✌🏾 #luckychild
Ok now, I stole in the store and got caught, so after the whole thing was discussed by the judge they assign me 30h of community service. My mum was so mad at me because she never gave me reason to go steal, my dad always gave me money but that was me and my friends being cheeky, my mum grounded my on Friday but that same Friday there was a party. I didn’t even have to do much she saw me sitting in misery, she let me go to the party 😂😂✌🏾✌🏾 I understand I don’t steal anymore but she forgave me and we laught about trust stuff occasionally 🤪🤷🏾♀️ I got the best parents.
I got the occasional slap across the ass and that's when I knew I did really wrong. If I was acting outside the boundaries given then I'd get things taken off of me. Like one time when I was 12/13 I was watching TV at night so dad took the extention cable away for two weeks, which meant I couldn't use any electricals in my room, I knew if I did anything else the ds and gba would be gone and phone would be gone. I'd have the Nokia and I hated the Nokia. But honestly I was rarely naughty didn't see the point, I had everything I wanted when I was good and I didn't get the things I want when I was bad so I knew I had to be good.
I got beat because my dad was a drunk and could just start hitting me for no reason at all, most of the times i was beaten while trying to protect mom from being beaten but i was like 4 years old so we both got beaten. In my country it's illegal to hit or spank a child so i looked up on google what countries allow it and not so fun fact: Most states in USA allows for teachers to spank children to the age of 18 😱 That's creepy! Say a 53 year old math teacher male spanks a 14 year old girl allowed by the law in most American states that's just beyond me how parents accept this or if they even know their states law? --> Spanking until 12th grade is allowed in Alabama, Arkansas, Arizona, Colorado, Florida, Georgia, Idaho, Indiana, Kansas, Kentucky, Louisiana, Missouri, Mississippi, North Carolina, Oklahoma, South Carolina, Tennessee, Texas, and Wyoming. Although corporal punishment by parents tends to take the form of spanking a child’s buttocks with an open hand (Zolotor, Theodore, Chang, Berkoff, & Runyan, 2008), in schools, a teacher or administrator typically administers corporal punishment by using a large wooden board or “paddle” to strike the buttocks of a child. A typical state definition of school corporal punishment is the one offered in the Texas Education Code, which specifies permissible corporal punishment as, “…the deliberate infliction of physical pain by hitting, paddling, spanking, slapping, or any other physical force used as a means of discipline.” https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5766273/
Im so sorry you got abused. And yea my school here in the UsA countryside used to paddle us. Im in MS. But only countryside schools do that. The city schools didn't touch us.
Thank you 💚 Yeah where i live (Sweden) they don't allow school discipline at all but i was still hit my countryside school that town had like 8000 peoples so it's really smal. I'm sorry you got paddle is that something that sticks to you until this day or was it just the norm?
I got my butt whipped. One time when my stepdad actually took the belt too far. He did tell me to find his tools, because since I'm the oldest, (this happened when I was 5 or 6), he blamed me for replacing his tools when I never knew what tools looked like, nor have I seen them. He told me to go look for them and that I wouldn't sleep until I found them. My mom later told me that I could go to sleep. She was off work and she came home at 12am. I was still up and my siblings were too. When I slept, the stepdad came in the room and spanked me, causing me to jump up in pain. He could've literally gave me a heart attack with that surprise belt to my butt.
I did get my phone taken away from me. It was a waste because they gave me my phone back by the end of the day. Yes, I was bored. Music was the only thing I listened to and use on a phone.
No. I didn't know what tools look like. I know I haven't messed with his tools, because after my mom told him that she had put his tools up in a higher place, I knew.
Basically, he just blamed me since I'm the oldest.
Having gone through physical abuse, spaking wasn't in my parents books in terms of discipline. It was generally being grounded (school/work/homework), having privileges taken away (cell phone taken, the door of my room taken (that was a questionable one considering I grew up with mostly guys at home), and a gruelling lecture about questionable choices or behavior, followed by being given responsibilities to "develop character" - like doing the groceries and preparing dinner.
I was generally the more tamed child in comparison to my other two brothers, but I'd say I had it the hardest being the girl and the youngest.
We got both.. I grew up in the 70's/80's where spanking your children wasn't looked at as child abuse... So you got spanked and grounded.. And not that stand in the corner grounded.. The no supper grounded, the grounded for a week grounded... I once apologized to a boy I wasn't really sorry about what happened, but I was starving and my whole family but me was eating dinner, and only way I was getting dinner was if apologized, so I did but made mistake of telling boy I wasn't "really" sorry, just hungry and he told on me so still got grounded for a week, but least got dinner first 🤣🤣
Oh i got grounded, i got my ass whopped so good you could steak an egg on it. I got smacked on my whole body so many times, boomeranged shoes and slippers , a stick, a hard wooden ruler. I have great parents! Don't get me wrong but i was a bad boy too, a trouble maker and where we are from hitting is a part of our culture , we got smacked so hard by our parents but if you compare me to today's kids, they are spoiled AAAFFFFFF and they can get a way with almost anything. I have no trauma from all the whopping i got, i haven't hit a person since 2005 and am very friendly.
Try to tell my parent that lol. All the whopping had ''purpose'' my parents explained. In Iraq ! you have no where to turn to if you have abusive parents, even a partner. But! I am a gentleman , always been and will always be.
I got all of the above but it was mainly screaming and hitting. Sometime the hitting was so strong I would fall and hit my head on stuff. I think my mother hit me so strongly because I always "I didn't felt anything", "you hit me so much I completely numb to it now" "smacking me is pointless since I don't feel anything" And I was always say it in a pretentious tone XD 1 or 2 time they said no dessert to me but they quickly stopped because I was going into the fridge by himself and eat it in front of them.
I was smacked and I'm grateful for it. Without a tough punishment, the kids won't know any better. Though that was only like eight times in my life, so I knew it was a real, real punishment and i really screwed up. As a baby if I screamed or threw a tantrum in public they would get close and just give me a little pinch. I'd start up again, and they'd pinch a second time. Then i would realise that i didn't want a third pinch and i shut up. All the other times I was either disallowed from tv or i wasn't able to leave my room for a select amount a time. And I grew into a kid who knew right from wrong.
I got the odd smack across the leg as a kid (between ages 3-6 maybe?) but my dad stopped doing that, I think he grew out of seeing it as necessary, he's said more recently that he regrets having resorted to it in the past, but honestly it sent a clear message and it's not like me or my brother got traumatised over it. You learn your lesson and you move the fuck on.
It was actually more common for us to get grounded, or banned from TV/ videogames. This was still the 90s so banning phone use was pretty redundant, I don't think I even got a phone til around age 9 or 10, and that was a hand-me-down nokia 3310. I see 2 year olds now with the latest iphone, and I just wanna smack the thing out their hands lol. Those kids ain't got no hope, especially the ones who sit on their ipad when out at a nice restaurant, like do parents not teach kids basic manners anymore?
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It is kinda of a sad story. I was beating for the most ridiculous things. At the time my mom had marriage problems out of no where she would barged into my room and out of no where punch me right after she got into an argument with my dad. My mom would say that my siblings and I ruin her body image and try to run over on my siblings and I that was when one of the neighbors saw the whole incident and we ended up living with my aunt she was more of a nutritionist loving mother figure better then my mom.
I remember but would like to forget, dad only did spank once that was he believed her lie. And to this day still does not know everything. But as far as mine, all they had to know was daddy's upset with me and would rather any of the above happen for me to be upset.
I didn't get hit that much even though I was unbearable, on the contrary I was quite spoiled I'd say. On the rare occasions when I'd gotten a (Well deserved) beating from my mom when she exploded Her favourite weapon was the "chancla" or her esteemed hand.
Luckily my parents never laid hand on me or my brothers in any way. We have been lectured, we've had time outs, I've been sent to bed without food, they have yelled at us, but I've never been grounded🤔 I do have to say that we behaved pretty decent most of the time, so large punishments weren't needed honestly
I mainly got spanked. Sometimes my mom took away my phone, but by that point I was big enough that I wasn't letting her spank me anymore, so I just found my phone wherever she had it hidden in her room and took it back. Grounding never worked, honestly they'd just refuse to drive me if they didn't want me to go out. With my future kids, I'll never spank them, just explain what went wrong to them and make them fix the problem, or take a break.
yeah I'm white, but us kids used to stuff our pants before a spanking until we realized we were practically as big as my mom and couldn't very well be forced to lay over her knee or on the bed for a spanking if we didn't want to.
I got slapped upside the head once in a blue moon, and mostly got lectured.
I was mostly afraid of my mom, she never hit us, she just had this little hold on our souls lol
Dont get me wrong! My sisters and I love our mom, would die for her! But, all she had to do was give us "the stare" and it was enough to get up to behave. You could almost feel it!
But I appericare it, because it kept me out of trouble.
No grounding no spank. I would get beat with a belt I have a son if I seen him doibg something he shouldn't be. All inwouldvdo is say spttttt first finger motion come here and ha would say hey check it out explain why we dont that mostbofbthebtime was with a friend and I would finish and so ok tonhave fun be respectful of other people's property
I was grounded maybe once or twice. My main form of punishment for misbehavior was standing with my nose on a door or wall for a certain amount of time. It certainly gave you time to think about what you did. After my parents would talk to me about what I did wrong.
I got lectured but probably could have benefited from a grounding at least, probably an ass-kicking. When I was 15 I bought illegal fireworks and set them off in the back of my parents' property. Started a brush fire that could have gotten out of control except neighbors showed up to help put it out. I was told to light fireworks only on the driveway.
Momma didn't fuck around with us being a bunch a little bad asses.
My mom was single and had her hands full with us kid. Our dad was one of those disappearing and reappearing dads. He was a drunk and his home was the bar.
So momma did what she had to do whatever she could to keep us inline
My dad spanked us sometimes as punishment, and grounding us was always part of that, but he found an interesting way to make it sting: He would make us stand in a corner, facing the corner, for hours. That ended up being far worse than any spanking or grounding- it was just the worst thing in the world. But we learned not to break rules.
My mom lectured me and spanked me up until I was eleven. Now I am just hit with words and long, long lectures and insults. I don't think that I was ever grounded before, but I have always been a pretty good child, so I didn't have to be punished a lot, but my younger sisters have😂😂 And let me tell you... they had it worse than I did.
They didn't spank me. I was the type of kid that would punch anyone that hit me lol
I got grounded occasionally , but they always gave in and let me out .. I have older brothers and I listened to them more than I did my parents lol They were soft on me really. I've out an okay person though , despite the lack of discipline as a kid lol
My moms favorite ones were to take away video games or the computer. We didn't have any TV anyway so that wasn't an option. She worked from home so it was really easy to check on us. Mostly she would just forbid me from playing with my friends tho, which I absolutely hated because we were about 10 kids who played together daily. I had to watch them from the window lol.
Both. I got spanked when I was young. Grounded more often. For every minute that I was late getting home, I was grounded that many days.
Once time when I was like 9, I accidentally broke a credit card machine at Walmart by jamming a quarter down the slot. My mom made me run home. She followed right behind me in the car but told me it would be worse if she beat me home. She stayed behind me the whole time and I ran like hell.
My parents have not hit me or grounded me even once cause they never felt the need to. My parents have my the freedom to make a lot of choices, including career and educational path, choice of personal beliefs and choice of hobbies. They've let me make my own decisions and till now I haven't made anything that bad. I have been scolded once in a while but I haven't done anything extreme. Besides that, they're really chilled out people.
Yeah, most of my friends think my parents spoiled me but they don't think so since I've never caused problems or gotten into trouble or misuse the freedome I've been given 😁
I remember my mom trying to spank me a couple times when I was little, but I ran away from her. 😂 My parents never really grounded us. We would get a scolding and my dad would threaten to take our bedroom doors away. My sister got her door taken away a few times. Lmao
They used to back us in a corner so we couldnt run. But at the same time, it started to make me laugh. Taking the bedroom door away, thats nuts. My ex crushes mom did that because she didn't want her white son dating a black girl
My parents are literal sadists and did actually come up with many way to make me suffer and bring me to tears - including neglecting me and starvation. THAT is domination/dominance!
Nothing beats living alone in independence and having lots of money.
Beatings regularly even if i didn't do anything wrong Tourcher included thing worse then Guantanamo bay prison if i was thought to be lying Extremely sleep deprivation 5am work outs every morning before morning chores Worked like a rented mule tell midnight at the earliest after school was over and boy you better not have been caught sleeping in class
Oh my god, whenever I was growing up (it can vary from 4+ age), my mom would grab this HUGEEEE bamboo stick I’d use for my karate classes and SMACK me with it. Normally, she’s use chopsticks, but it was horrendous.
They were the type to take my video game away. I got slapped a few times. Also got flogged on rare occasions (with a belt or a stick/cane). But only because I did something really bad.
Grounding wouldn't have worked. I was an introvert.
Yes to both of those, never felt hard done by or abused. I thoroughly deserved what I got. I also believe that it shaped me to who I am today, would I do the same to my kids, maybe but would never be the go to method.
My father would only have to talk to me. And I learned my lesson. He only beat the shit out of me like, once. That was because I beata the shit out of a girl who hit me with a stack of books. So, I beat the living shit out of her. And he beat the shit out of me. I was in middle school. Like 6th grade or something. But, I never hit another female since.
I got grounded grounded. My dad tried to spank me once and I hit him back like the garbage child I was. My kids though if they’re bad they get stuff taken because they’re lucky enough to have every electric device one could hope for 🤷♀️
I never got grounded even once. But I got spanked with belts, wooden spoons, hairbrushes, etc. And when I got older, I’d just catch a fresh one to the back of the head, and if we were real serious, mom dukes had the backhand on deck lmao.
And yeah, she kept me guessing as to what weapon of choice was coming. She was born in the 1930s, so she just came up in a different time, she was really more age appropriate to almost be my grandmother. My friends’ parents were all like 15 years younger, so they weren’t catching kitchen utensils to the buttcheeks😂
My mum is a single parent and had a different man every other weekend so she wasn't a good parent. I was always getting into trouble and she would grab my hair and walk me into the house or bedroom and ground me. I just got into more trouble.
Never got grounded. But years afterward, I kind of felt bad for my dad. He would get home from work tired and my mom would spout out what I had done to deserve to be punished. I'm sure he didn't appreciate that his brief interaction with his kids was to be the bad guy...
I chose option b because damn, my mother has especially slapped me but she has not spanked me or grounded me.. I am thankful for that.. she use to push me out of the bed to ask me to go play!!
Both spanking and grounding kind. They followed the principle spare the stick spoil the child. I used to get slapped more often but now I'm happy that I'm somewhat a better person which I may not have been, had my parents not punished me as a child. I'm grateful to them, a bit angry but still happy.
IF i were to spank and thats a big IF, it would be to the butt with my hand. I won't do weapons nor faceslapping. I see nothing wrong with a pop upside the back of the head though
Yeah.. Cable cords are even used by best frnds on the birthdays. To greet thier best friends in the name of wishings.. Its all abusive. Love is very abusive. I still hate my dad for it. But he never remembers beating me. 😂😂... Strange.
Grounding was worse, as I had nothing to do those days in my room, no TV no gaming console, not even PC...
I feel old...
In my days I only got phone at 17, when earned money for it and it was only able text and call, no net or apps... And price for using it was sky high...
In early 2000 that was hardly available in my country, especially for teenagers and there was no need for it as maybe 30% of my friends had it anyway and barely had any minutes to use it anyway...
I never got punished in any form except once and I just got my allowance not handed to me for two weeks... but I still got it three weeks later... yea my parents went too easy on me...
I have never been grounded. I have had many time-outs in my day though. If I was being really bad my parents would count to three and if I wasn't in or going to my room for a time out by three I got spanked.
I got lectured and only spanked if I was really out of line (which wasn't often, and was never very hard). I was never grounded because I never really went anywhere, lol.
My dad used to spoil us.. My mom was hitler.. She didn't just ground or spank.. She used verbal abuse and physical attack.. One time she broke my nose in 7th grade. Than took me to hospital to get stitches..
I'm black, so yeah, I got spanked and smacked the most (not that I consider it a negative or anything; parents these days are too soft and weak).Option G for me.
every single motherfucking day. Even for the stupidest thing. I didn't chew my food right, didn't tie my shoe right, didn't write so "they could read my fucking handwriting". didn't throw the trash right...
My childhood was great and I got spanked every time I was a brat. Kids these days, we can't touch a finger on them even if they are the devil's spawn. That's why we are having more and more jerks as adults
I didn't get either. I wasn't a big troublemaker though and if I did make trouble my parents didn't know about it. I did get some lectures but it wasn't really a big deal.
VERY unpredictable and inconsistent! Sometimes I got a solid slap across the face from my mom, and other times just a stern scolding from my dad. A few times a belt or hand beating.
it was the 70's parents were not as soft as they are now , most kids your age dont really understand how lucky they have it compared to back then. you were raised with yes maam and yes sir , and boys loved women and women were bare feet and pregnant. i ignore that last one myself but the parents were the white picked fence kind o family but i never had a white picked fence it was more of a steel link cage type of fence that was about 5 feet tall XD
Oh yeah my dad was very strict on a lot of things unlike today if I had kids I would not be able to use the belt like my dad did on me cuz that's what I got
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