People who explain things/themselves even when not asked, why do you do it?

[anon1903]

I've had classic authoratarian parenting I received as a child to thank for this shit.

[TheorionMage]

How many times, have YOU had someone tell you "Oh! I didn't KNOW THAT is what you meant! Or... were talking about!" ?

GENUINE communication is deeply-rooted in commonality of MUTUAL experience. Short of FIRSTHAND experience, THAT requires what in 'debate' is called the "definition of terms".

Look in ANY dictionary and you'll find most EVERY word holds a multiplicity of interpreted meanings whose choice is "use in context"; ... a 'pun' is when IN CONTEXT the word has multiple meanings one of which is usually risque'. Those more well-read are the only ones who set aside their hypocrisy and 'GET' the humor.

In DEPTH discussions, or in CRITICAL application... while not specifically asked, it is better to be tediously-boring /redundant than to 'ASSUME" your listener understands, (We KNOW what 'assume' is. Making an 'ass' of 'u' and 'me) And accidentally "talk over their heads" Einstein himself quipped: "If you can't explain something such that a fourth grader can comprehend it, YOU really don't understand what you're trying to explain."

Many times I'm compelled to 'blow off' a glib curious social inquiry than to spend 20 minutes to TRY to plumb my Inquirer's life-experiences & suspension-of-disbelief to find commonality of life experience to HALF A FUGGIN CENTURY of paranormal FIRSTHAND practice and... anecdotally "It's sorta like when you..."

There's a trite rude maxim:
"Its mind over matter. I don't mind cause YOUR understanding doesn't matter."

Personally, I'd rather endure the explanation as a 'courtesy', in hopes I might gain some fresh insight into the person, ... their perspective or the issue. :)

[Sonorous]

If I ever give any unsolicited explanations, it's usually because I believe there is possibly vital information the other party isn't aware of. And I consider it "vital" when the information could have some major good or bad consequences if ignored or considered.

It's usually information involved with our basic evolutionary needs:
https://changingminds.org/explanations/needs/evolutionary_needs.htm

But of course, sometimes it just feels good to explain something & have someone else determine if there's anything they find important within it. Especially since most information is merely interesting & doesn't usually have a lot of relevance to our quality of life.

[tatianamay]

I do not do that lmao, maybe to just show off their knowledge?

I did not have the authoritarian parenting, I had authoritative parenting. I feel like children tend to be more happy if parents follow the latter than the former. BUT to each their own 🤷‍♀️

[tatianamay]

Thanks for the MHO🥰

[DizzyDesii]

Im a talker and love to hear myself talk

[molonski2]

I see nothing wrong with the criteria , otherwise you are simply creating a particular scenario without a reason backed arguments , its always good to express reasoning , rather than simply making a statement as if you are stating a fact.
There are few topics that are ever that simple.

[anon1903]

Thank you.

[ohshee]

I think I do it all the time for what reason I don't know I'm very detailed and everything that I do. Just like with you when you write your stories the reason why so good is because it's the way it's worded and details. That will actually put the reader in that place at that moment and without detail explaining you would not get that can you get otherwise

[Interstate]

A lot of people do it because they are one of the people who care about what others think. They aren't content with only assuming what goes through other's minds, so they explain as a way of controlling what others think of them.

[anon1903]

This can be it. This must be why one of my friends hot annoyed by this habit. Thanks for explaining!

[Interstate]

👍👍👍 😉

[Adam1978]

It's a way to spread their knowledge and understanding and for you to absorb or reject it. It's a social bounding. You can take the free advice or ignore it. Either way no damage done. People who withhold knowledge on other hand can cause a lot of unecissary mistakes and trial and error from the other less knowledgeable person. If you don't agree you can start a conversation and perhaps you both improve your views as a result of that. It's a way to grow as a person.

[OlderAndWiser]

For some people, it is a means of trying to be helpful and for others, it is a means of exerting control.

[anon1903]

Can you give examples for both so I learn to differentiate between them?

[OlderAndWiser]

I don't think that examples will differentiate the two different motivations. I think you need to see such behavior as a potential sign of either and look for other behaviors which would suggest that one is more likely than the other.

[anon1903]

Got it

[ChiPaPa]

I have a difficult time knowing social cues, both verbal and nonverbal.

[anon1903]

Me too, pal

[Medhat-M]

Some people are just obsessed with details.. I'm very similar and when you got anxiety too.. It can be very annoying

[scooogy]

Assuming you see yourself here, I have a similar reason. My father often started to scream quite soon as soon as he felt like he needed someone to explain unusual things to him.

[hhhffg7889]

Sometimes insecurity that my mind thinks so differently I may have come across oddly. Sometimes because their facial expression and lack of response indicates I didn't explain myself well enough yet.

[shortster]

I like to share information.

[roy_ricky09]

I believe every Indian parent is like that

[anon1903]

Not really but most of them, probably

[roy_ricky09]

Desi parents are tricky... You probably wouldn't know

[anon1903]

I'm an Indian xD

[roy_ricky09]

Oh... Okay good

[anon1903]

I know a few parents here in neighborhood and as relatives that are committed to lenient parenting.

[roy_ricky09]

See it depends on the kids as well, if kids obey then parents don't need to authoritive... But yea, kids easily get influenced 😂😂😂
I'm Punjabi so you can imagine, I don't have to say much 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[anon1903]

Not so much, most parents take cues from friends ahem ahem *society* and relatives ahem ahem *their own parents*... So if they were brought up by a narrow-minded family, they'd train you the same way (most likely).

[roy_ricky09]

Also where you live matters a lot

[Gwenhwyfar]

I try not to do that

[Jouth]

Cause no one else gets it

[Wise4myage]

They like to brag?

[anon1903]

Shaddap 😁😂😂

[Fuentes]

I dont do this