Am I an asshole for getting the covid vaccine behind my parents' back?

[Anonymous]

Preface to say I am 26 and I think I can make my own medical decisions, but I still live under my parents' roof for the most part.

Long story short, my parents are extremely anti covid vaxx (due to there not being enough long term data on the safety of the mRNA shots) so they spent the last year trying to convince me not to get it. My dad went as far as to say he will end his life or kick me out if I get the vaccine. I agreed because I was afraid of causing any division in my family, but not because I had the same opinion as them. So I continued masking and avoiding crowded places while my brother partied at bars with his friends. He inevitably ended up catching covid and spreading it to the rest of the family. While they have all thankfully recovered, they still can't taste or smell very well.

During this timeframe, I escaped to my boyfriend's place to avoid getting exposed to covid. I also took the opportunity to get my first covid vaccine while being away from my parents. Now that they want me to move back home, I'm terrified of what they might to if they found out I got the vaccine. After telling my sister about my secret, I feel extremely guilty for it and regret my decision. Am I in the wrong for doing what I did and should I tell my parents?

[menina]

You're in a difficult situation. I don't think you're an asshole or a coward for doing it. You're an healthy adult who is able to make your own decisions. Your parents are not responsible for your body, you are.
I know that they love you and they want the best for you but you're free to make your own choices. I guess the only way they can find out is if your sister tells them or if you accidentally tell them. Otherwise I don't see how they could learn that you got your shot.
I totally understand why you're afraid of telling them, your dad has a very strong opinion on vaccines, so if I were you, I would be afraid too.
You shouldn't feel guilty, you just did what you thought was the best for your health and I see nothing wrong with your decision. I think you shouldn't tell them.

My sister is the opposite, she doesn't want to get the vaccine since she's afraid of her body reaction and also because there's not enough information about them. I'm going out with her and we're going to pretend that she was vaccinated. So I guess you're not the only one in this situation.
Hope it all works for the best.

[SecretsofKB]

No! You are absolutely not in the wrong!

You are an adult that can make their own decisions. It truly sounds like you made the right choice!

Is there any way you can get out from living with your parents? I strongly recommend you do that.

[Anonymous]

Oh brother (rolling eyes)... your parents if they were mature, should respect whatever you decide. Not only don't they do that, but your dad even tries to manipulate you by threatening to end his life! REALLY? You did want you want. They aren't part of that decision (and shouldn't be). As far as what to do now? Nothing. And if they happen to find out you've had it, just say "yep, so what? My choice and you should respect it, just as I do yours", then had your dad a rope and say "go to town" lol. Sorry, but that would make me really angry. Trying to manipulate that way. Really immature of them.

[NewgodX]

I will keep it short
1) you are now a little safe from corona coz I have got both shots and doing okish
2) how good are you in keeping secrets?
If thr answer to that Quesrion is very good then know this not everything is meant to be shared with everyone

[unknownforever]

Firstly, you are not an asshole. You are doing what feel rights for you. You are a grown adult. If your parents want the threaten you with suicide, that is on them. They should stop treating you like a kid and respect your wishes. Whether you want to tell them, is up to you. But just know that what you did wasn't wrong. You did what felt right for you. If they want to cause issues because of that, then stay away from them. And I'm really sorry that you are feeling stressed and overwhelmed about it. But don't ever think you are an asshole :)

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Politics aside, your parents sound toxic AF. Threatening to kill themselves over your own decision to get vaccinated? Like, that's so fucking manipulative and slimy. Best I'd say is move out, because that sort of influence they have over you can't be healthy.

[LiamSawyer]

The science behind the mRNA vaccine has been around since the polio epedemic, so there has been decades of testing and scientific understanding involved. The only way to protect yourself and others close to you, especially children is to get fully vaccinated.

[Nightroads]

Its up you you if you want it or not. It shouldn't be up to anyone else. I applaud you for doing what you think is right. Just be careful, you can still catch and transmit it to your family, if you were exposed, protocol dictates you should get tested before possibly transmitting from your move.

[sophiejo]

You did what is right for you fuck what they think tbh, it's your body your choice, I don't think you're an asshole at all I think they are for being ignorant

[FilmGuy93]

You shouldn't have told your sister. Don't tell your parents. Don't move back in with your parents, if you don't have to. You're an adult. You can make decisions for yourself and your parents don't need to know.

[Anonymous]

get all the shots u made the right choice id not tell them if possible cause its not like they will take the shot too and it would only cause u hell from them.

[OfDeath]

You did the right thing for broader society. Vaccination lowers the risk of this virus spreading. Your parents are morons, no offence.

[Nachowedgie]

It doesn't though, you're just as likely to catch and spread the virus regardless of your state of vaccination

[Nachowedgie]

And this isn't conspiracy theory shit either, we've been told this from the very beginning

[OfDeath]

@Nachowedgie fuuuuck, I forgot to turn off replies and now I have to deal with the hoards or idiots.

[OfDeath]

*Of.

[Nachowedgie]

Like who? Our government, WHO, the CDC and the companies who make and distibute have informed us of this since the "vaccines" were released. If anyone's the idiot here it's you

[OfDeath]

@Nachowedgie You don't know what you're talking about. Vaccination has been shown to reduce the risk of spreading the virus. This is just a fact. Data from research teams at universities like Oxford, Yale, Harvard etc have all shown that if someone has been vaccinated but still contracts the virus, they are contagious for a shorter duration of time. It's around a 50% difference but the risk of dying from the virus after being vaccinated is exponentially reduced.
But there is no point in telling you that because you've already chosen a side. The side of moronic inaction.

[exitseven]

You did what you thought was the right thing for you. Keep it to yourself. Why look for trouble,

[Razp_Sorbet]

Your parents don't get to decide what you do with your body. You did the right thing

[dudeinohio]

you are an adult and can make ALL your own decisions.

[888theGreat]

If you want cervical cancer later , it is your choice

[Nachowedgie]

I certainly wouldn't accept you back after you'd gotten it

[Anonymous]

Yeah you pissed away their hard work you could die from this thing

[Mgpretty23]

Not at all. You did the right thing.

[Wise4myage]

No, you were smarter than your parents.

[Anonymous]

You're not wrong at all. It's your life