My boyfriend spends too much time with his best friend.

[sara2]

Is it normal that he spends more time with his best friend than me? Why is that

[diabloknk]

He's probably known his best friend far longer than he's known you. There's a good chance that he considers that relationship more important than the one he has with you, and is budgeting his time accordingly.

Whether or not it's normal depends on how long he's been with you. If it's been a few years since you guys started dating, something is probably wrong. If it's been less than 6 months, then it's totally normal.

I'd air your concerns to your boyfriend if I were you. Just be careful, don't make it sound like you're trying to get between him and his friends, or make an ultimatum that he has to choose between you and his best friend. Odds are, he'll choose his friend.

[Shaun]

He's going to spend the most time with the person whose company he enjoys the most.

[ZenQueen]

plan some interesting things to do with him. Not shopping or things you like to do but things he likes or you both enjoy, go to a museum or bike ride, it could be that he is bored hanging out with you, don't take it personal just change things up to keep him interested.

[Shaun]

Plus she needs to lose the underlying competitive feelings she has toward his friend.

[Gigilista]

I feel you. This is weird. And it. s even worse when his best friend has a girlfriend and she. s always around. It. s like a trio that you. re excluded from. What. s up with that?

[gissell]

Well, his best friend probably means more...but, take advantage and spend time with your friends! Nothing sucks more than a boy/girlfriend who is smothering.

[Anonymous]

yes guys need their friends. but make sure he knows you want to spend time with him

[ilyurbella]

Maybe because it's his best friend? And depending on how long you've been together may explain why he so calls "spends too much time." Maybe he just wants to have fun and enjoy his friend(s).

[SnackG]

How long have you two been dating?