How to deal with your parents fighting all the time?

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AllieAnswersThings · Accepted Answer

I grew up in a household like this and I hated it. There was always a fight and sometimes I was dragged into it, always against my will. Aside from finding some way to stage an intervention with a therapist, you can always try to find ways to keep one or the other of them occupied and separated. Way too many kids and young adults experience this type of toxic environment, and it isn't fair to them. Just do well in school and learn how not to act by observing them - then head off to college or another option when you're 18 (like I did). Also, if you truly ever feel like you're in danger or your mother or father might do something extreme - call the police. If you plan to call the police or have an outside party get involved, be sure to have a fallback plan so that you won't experience their wrath going forward.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I grew up in a house where they argued every day and night, it is so bloody horrible but my only advice for you unfortunately is to do what I done until I was old enough to leave, i used to take my brothers and sisters into my room lock my door and push something up against the door then turn your TV on loud put something funny and loud on the TV. I'm so sorry you've got to deal with this it is truly horrible

ohshee · Accepted Answer

This is a hard call because it can be seen as you're being disrespected or rude but at the same time if they know exactly who you are they know that you love them and genuinely care

You can always say thank you thank you thank you for the both of you teaching me how to act when I get a boyfriend or when I get married now I know exactly what to do when I'm angry at the world so I just take it out of my spouse

Or you can say how long did the doctor say you guys are going to act like this thank you five years old again

Or you can say don't you think it would be better if you compromised or if you talked about it instead of yelled and screamed and put each other down

Are you can say this is love if this is love why don't you guys go get married

Moose304 · Accepted Answer

My parents like all married couples had their disagreements. Just the normal things that people do. I don't ever remember either parent getting so angry they left the home. They are no longer alive and not a day goes by I don't miss them. This type of fighting when it happens I advise you to go out for a walk, see about paying a friend or relative a visit. Then there are the situations where the dynamics are flipped. By this I mean they fight all the time! This is a VERY toxic situation. I see you are 24. If you are still living at home I would recommend if you can to leave. If you are already gone, then make it clear you can't be in the same place as both of them. If this is causing intrusive thoughts I recommend getting into therapy!

humpbackjack · Answer

You’re 24 why do you have to deal with it just go home or if you live with them when they start just get in your car and go somewhere or move out you could also try talking to them about it cause I’m sure they don’t want to upset you of course I’d wait until they’re calm and try and catch them by yourself and don’t let it turn into a spouse bashing contest just get your thoughts together and have a grown up conversation and be ready to keep it on the subject hopefully you can get them both to agree to keep it behind closed doors and no yelling me personally I don’t like to yell and definitely don’t believe in arguing in front of my kids I’m not saying it’s never happened but I can guarantee it rarely happened we playfully talk shit with each other but we aren’t fighting and it usually is followed with a slap on the ass or a kiss I grew up in a volatile house and didn’t like it so I didn’t want my kids to go through it

chriscdi · Answer

My family are in very deep spiritually, they believe that the devil uses negative influences to manipulate people to cause chaos and destruction in people's lives so I just simply have to tell them that the devil is influencing them with negative energy and they actually calm down and the family ends up talking it through, we just don't let the devil win, if your family is spiritual perhaps you can persuade them by speaking some sense into them in a way they will truly understand and nothing hits stronger than what they believe.

Shubham614 · Answer

Sorry if u feel offended but ur parents have not reached a mark of maturity they will regret later about it.
Tbh u can't do anything between them
peace will beinitiated between them only if they develop mutual respect 4 each other
U dont need to deal about it just focus on creating ur own future ,
Or
U can avoid them both and show symbolically that if they keep fighting then they will loose you , and any parents will turn water after they realised it , they may not resolve things Amoung themselves but 4 happiness of urs they will not fight , if they dont fight then gradually understanding develops and everything will be fine.
All the best 😊😇

cloudnymo · Answer

I would suggest u let them be during their argument but afterwards when u have a time with either of your parents during a happy moment u should tell them how u feel that u never want them to get divorced or fight that they're the only one you've got. Sometimes when parents can't comfort their selves then thats where the children comes in cus they are the ones closest to their heart

Bricealan · Answer

My Bro and I were too young to do anything when my dad was violent with our mother.
My father was a real son-of-a-bitch, and had we been older, I would have knocked the shit out of him for some of the stuff he did.
As an adult, he was afraid of me but sad to say, I was not in a position to help her when it was really bad.

They argued until she died.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

My parents used to argue a lot mainly cause my dad was not a happy man
I miss my mother and I blame stress causing her Sarcoma cancer but my
dad will never be a happy person all I can tell you to do is stay away from
toxic parents when I see you I see myself when I was in school

bolverk · Answer

There is little you can do at the time, with the exception of leaving the room and getting as far away as you can in the home, or leave the house altogether and let them get on with it, and approach them later individually letting them know how much their arguing/fighting is upsetting you.

donnny2367764 · Answer

Super sad situation. I feel real sad for your situation, the best advice I can give you is for you to focus your energy on positive things and make the most of what you can value and learn from. Your parents relationship is not your fault. Tune out with school work or other interests

anon171999 · Answer

I just went back to my home. I don't want to be around that. There's not a valid reason to be yelling and fighting with your partner.

My parents noticed and texted me an apology. It never happened again. They got divorced 2 years after that.

MelonSoda · Answer

Coming from a home like this, I really think it's immature for the parents to put the child through this shit. Just go in your room, shut the door, and plug in some headphones or earbuds on your device and listen to music or watch a funny video.

InYourHead · Answer

My mom passed away when i was younger but whenever people start yelling at home, i just go fall on my bed and fall asleep

jshm2 · Answer

Join in?

Joking aside. Sometimes it's not as bad as it sounds, and it just makes their makeup sex after more intense.

But if they're getting physical then it's a different thing and you need to speak to your grandparents.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

I left home, was easier. saying anything just moved the attention to yourself. sorry for you, it’s really sucks

shoujogal · Answer

If you can't take it use a headset or earphone and listen loud with music best Worship, Christian, or Even Love Songs if It's your most favorite genre like me! <3 :)

Lucki7626 · Answer

Honestly there’s not much you can do until you’re in a position to leave. What I did was distract myself, spend time out of the house and sometimes I would try and say something to get them to stop but this honestly didn’t always work in my favor. It sucks.

Heartache0405 · Answer

My parents usually had their arguments at the dinner table. Which made it really awkward. Now that they’ve been divorced for years, we barely have family lunch or dinner.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Sell tickets ringside.

NathanDavis · Answer

I did play a lot of loud music during my earlier teen years... lol used to keep it louder than their arguing

MCheetah · Answer

I never had a father, but I fought with my mother all the time (sometimes physically). It wasn't pleasant.

Pyrofox · Answer

If its a small house just go out for a short walk and ask one of them to call you when the fights over with

hahahmm · Answer

All you can do is tune it out. Don't get involved in their drama if they try and ask you to. And move out asap.

Adam1978 · Answer

Your best solution is move out. When all the kids are out they will divorce, and you don't have to deal with their fights again.

Sonorous · Answer

I believe it would be contingent on the manner in which they argue.

marion524 · Answer

You don't manage them, how do you want to manage some things like that? lock yourself in your room and put on headphones with loud music

slatyb · Answer

You are 24. Why do you have to deal with it? Don't get involved.

Anonymous · Answer

That’s really cute 🥰 . You live mommy & daddy still. Let them take care of you as long you can because you’ll miss them.

Wiredone · Answer

Thankfully my parents rarely fought. When they did I just went in my room and turned the music volume up

Staximus · Answer

Move out of their house. Tell them to get marriage counseling or a divorce, because what they are doing is obviously not working

collie22 · Answer

there was nothing i could do when my Mom was still here. i would leave the house go to the park or go to my friends house

Jouth · Answer

It really really hurts to see:(  I'm sorry you have to deal with that. I think the only thing to do is to walk away so you don't have to witness it.

Better_off_here · Answer

it is their problem to deal with and most likely it is a good idea for them to separate too. you do not blame yourself for what they do and how they act too.

Anzhus · Answer

Personally what I did was I found myself a hobby. And made this negative energy positive

Subarugirl · Answer

You stay out of it. It's not you place to get involved so don't.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Sit them both down and have a talk or just meditate

princeofromance · Answer

You need to stay out of their problems. Try to get out of the house sweetheart. If you need to talk, I am always available.

EaterPeter · Answer

Try recruiting help for you first then one or both of them. Pay attention to yours and others safety too.

nawtee_me · Answer

It is hard to see your parents fight at any time. I am sorry that you see this happening. Is the argument always over the same thing?

boobliker · Answer

go out for a long walk to places they can't go in a car...

zagor · Answer

Don't choose sides. Try to deflect their attacks on each other.

Anonymous · Answer

Leave. If they want to be childish that’s their problem.

Sabretooth · Answer

I hope you get constructive advise. these are matters where I'd isolate myself but that won't solve it. maybe talk to em.

whosnumber1 · Answer

dish it right back to them tell them to get their shit together

MJtheCoach · Answer

Wear 64 masks on top of each other! That should solve everything.

Guanfei · Answer

Do like me: don't care. Just do your stuff and don't get involved, that's not your problem.

Super-Sam · Answer

I can feel and understand. Same issue with my family 😔

Anonymous · Answer

Unfortunately that is just what happens when a man and woman no longer have meaningful sex that can leas to pregnancy. They start fighting and then break up. How you can deal with it is by leaving them alone

AkshiJanjua · Answer

Unfortunately can't do much , same with my parents sometimes but they still together don't know how

Anonymous · Answer

Force them to makeout with each other. Call that problem solved

sheikalana · Answer

I don't. That's none of my business.

exitseven · Answer

I used to go outside when they would argue.

Jayleenxo · Answer

I’d just walk to a different room

Anonymous · Answer

Use fear. The ghost of regret cures all fights.

jahaims · Answer

Doesn't affect me any

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Compared to living with my brother, that’s harmony

emperor90 · Answer

I just listen to music

jimmy2 · Answer

Do what i do. Leave i left at 17

Anonymous · Answer

:) you can’t.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Leave.

BillyBalls · Answer

Move out

LegendaryIcon · Answer

they dont?

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