Do we control how others see us?

[Anonymous]

Like when a stranger take a dislike toward you or judges you upon their first glimpse at you. Whether it's a gut instinct or a habitual tendency of judging others.

I am a great believer that good looking people have looks advantage and are more approachable by others due to attractiveness.

Though, Sometimes people have discomfort within themselves, even the first instant when they capture a good or bad looking person. The reaction is still judgmental and negative.

One side of the argument is that we are who we are and how we look is out of our control. The other side is that we contribute to that without realising. Which would you agree with?

[Anonymous]

No. You have influence. That is all you have. At the end of they day people will judge you according to their own parameters. That's why I tell people only worry about what your loved ones think of you. They're the only ones who know you well enough to give you a fair assessment.

[Asker]

Good feedback

[Static_In_The_Attic]

In a way we do however in a way we don’t & some people see what they want to see & that is something only they can change if they have the heart to do so.

[Oigit]

We can and I have been using the ability to do so for years. In general I do make myself look unapproachable and mean to a degree. Be it the shirts I wear to embracing the fact that I look like Rasputin's twin brother. Also I very much tend to blank look on my face most of the time on purpose. I do this because it cuts down on the number of people I will have to interact with, make small chat with helps increase the quality of people I interact with. Because people that are willing to get to know a person before passing judgement are the kind of people that are worth interacting with. So the people who will look at me and negatively judge me will hardly ever approach me.

They are also the ones that become really surprised to see me helping a elderly person to their care when I see them leaving the grocery store. Yet if the same person where to get to know me before passing judgement they would learn that my man and unapproachable backside is quick to offer people help in general.

[Anonymous]

Both have an influence. You cannot just neglect how you objectively look, especially not with modern 'modifiers' like flawless make-up, surgeries and fillers, which can severely change your appearance. But only an influence how others really perceive it you can't control, it comes down to the individual and their preferences and ingrown experience, which influence the unconscious judgments humans naturally do. Plus their and your own current state of mind, and maybe even hormon levels. Like women are statistically significant more attractive near ovulation xD
But I'd advice someone to stick to what you prefer and think looks good, then you are more likely to attract like minded, and also just feel good about yourself :)

[Ericastevens]

You don’t control how others see you, but you can teach them how to treat you by setting boundaries.
Anyway, I’m sure you have had this happen…someone who kept telling you how amazing you are and it felt like they were seeing someone else- or someone who tells you how horrible you are and misinterprets everything you say and you don’t recognize the person they see either. And then there are people who see you exactly as you see you, exactly as you are and they still love you. Those are the best relationship. The people who see you as amazing are scary because that is a high expectation to live up to, and those who see you as worse than you are are depressing to be around.

[andreasderjuengere]

Visual impression is somewhat relevant - agreed.
But I think that ''subconscious'' perception guides us a lot more: smell, posture, body language, and such.
We cannot control that;
but some more... basic ( :D ) ... people can sometimes be manipulated; just think of what wearing a necktie or a uniform does to them - heh heh.

[dustybiker]

Yes. At least I do. I've always found comfort sliding under the radar though. I’ve had people tell me (in person) I’m not what they first assumed me to be.

[AncientWisdom]

That depends I think most people don’t realize they have that ability. We are viewed most likely as we see ourselves. Just my opinion. What we present is what folks see.

[AdithyaR]

We can maybe change a few aspects of how people perceive us but we can't control it.
You could an absolute angel and someone will still find you arrogant, you could the most notorious serial killer and someone might find you hot.

[SpiderManFan2002]

We can influence how others see us with our actions and words, but we can’t control other peoples’ perceptions of us.

[purplepoppy]

How we choose to dress reflects the type of person we are. Yes we can fake it but 90% of the time we don't.

[Joker_]

Yeah, for example I could strip naked in public ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎

[Citizenkirk]

We can influence how others see us through our appearance and actions.

[BungusHighFivePizza]

second 1. people outta shape can get in shape. people with bad fashion sense can improve. people who are shy can overcum their fearz

[Asker]

Can you control how stranger feels about your face from the first look?

[BungusHighFivePizza]

yeah sumwhat. like someone who has very miserable face will make diff impression from someone who looks cheerful

[Asker]

I see. Sometime that is hard to control in cases like having a resting bitch face

[BungusHighFivePizza]

i dont claim its ez but first step 2wards improvement is 2 realize we have sum control. bad and resentful artists blame audiences and judges if they get booed off the stage. the ones with potential work on improving their skillz

[BungusHighFivePizza]

sum people def have it easier, sum harder. but never found nebody who has no room 2 improve

[genericname85]

well those alphabet community idiots are trying that. but of course the answer is no.

[Babygirl_S]

No we can't control how they perceive us. It depends on their own beliefs.

[FreyaRed]

Yes. Girls learn basics of this art before we start to walk

[BaldAvenger]

We have no control over anything mind you NOTHING, except our own reaction.

[dragoblack]

To a point, yes. It's why many people say "always try to make a great first impression"

[OddBeMe]

Study human behavior. Yes attractiveness is everything per se. But even an ugly guy can have “attractive” qualities insofar that he’s thought of as attractive.

[Jintendo18]

Sure, how do you think public relations professionals make a living?

[Nazgol]

Nope, we don't & can't

[jahaims]

Control no, influence yes

[AvaOneLasTime]

This site, controls what we (can) see.

[bean2k21]

the question has such an obvious answer

[RawIronhide]

At least up to 50%

[wowzao23]

Howw?

[wowzao23]

i dont know

[Anonymous]

you shall be hated by all men for my names sake

[InferiorElegy]

No we don't.

[JohnK123]

Yeah ofc