How should I advise my 20 year old sister to wear modest dress without annoying her?

[Anonymous]

[SkyCastle90]

90% of what women do is to attract men, even if we're not going to sleep with him, we like to be noticed. Brothers, fathers, etc will just have to accept that fact with Sisters, daughters, etc.

Why? Men don't notice our modest personality from across the room; nothing wrong with that, it's just how attraction works.

[Nades]

No it’s just what’s wrong with men and women. Men being stupid is what causes this stupidity and a growth of narcissism in women. It’s plan human psychology

[Asad1ONE1]

I'm surprised by your answer. Many women don't even admit why they dress that way. I've heard questions like "why do men think we dress for them"?, complain about objectification, etc.

[SkyCastle90]

@Asad1ONE1

It's an unpopular opinion. Too many times in my younger years I would see women wear very tight clothes that show off their butt, breast, etc and then get upset when men notice. Then I would ask, "Well... isn't that what you wanted, why get mad?" The responses I get can range from angry, to "You should dress better," passive aggressive attacks, etc. But the most ridiculous answer I would get is, "I wear them because they're comfortable, not for attention." I never believe that. Women's clothes aren't made for comfort. I don't enjoy having minimum pocket space or no pockets at all, the tightness/form fitting, the sheerness, small, etc. It's not practical. Comfortable clothes are well made, which will keep you protected and warm. I know if I fell in some of the clothes I have, it'll tear immediately and if it's just a little cold outside with a breeze, it'll go right through my clothes because it's form-fitting and light. It's so noticeable I get upset when I shop for my fiancé and the men's clothes feel real, like it's a real shirt and not some sheer piece of shit. Of course there are well-made women's clothes that aren't meant to show off your assets, but you got to go to expensive name brand stores that cater to that style.

This is probably one of the reasons why don't have many female friends, I can't vide with the hypocrisy. If I want to dress in tight uncomfortable clothes to be notice, I'll be honest about it; just understand that touching me (or any woman) without permission is a crime, but you're free to look and compliment.

[Asad1ONE1]

Yea some women scare me. The creep-shaming, male-villifying, manipulation, hypocrisy, dishonesty and deceitfulness are getting out of hand these days, especially on social media. The double standards and harmful narratives don't help matters much. Long story. I know too much. But overall there are good and bad people of both genders. Just generally bad differently though. I hope most women are like you. Besides, I'm all for dressing modestly. Morals and chastity are lost today.

[Asad1ONE1]

I'm all for women dressing simple and not too revealing. She doesn't have to dress for whatever she thinks guys want (that's why such women might get upset — societal pressure). Like I mentioned earlier, thanks to harmful narratives. Different guys want different things. Same with girls. They can dress however they feel is comfortable. Doesn't have to be revealing. Shirtless guys are also a problem.

[angell222]

@Asad1ONE1 its cus a lot of us DONT dress for men, i wear whatever the fuck i want, if that means cozy pajamas one day and hot outfit the next it is purely to feel comfy and enjoy how i look. mind blowing, to someone with a pea sized brain im sure

[SkyCastle90]

@asad1one1

See. Best example here in angel's comment. Passive aggressive and ready to insult someone.

Weird thing is, if a person puts a lot of effort into their apperance, why get upset if another person likes it or notice? Of course touching/stalking/insults are unacceptable, but not not every guy is like that yet they treat every man like a creep probably based on past experiences; we shouldn't make every man responsible for a few bad apples.

[angell222]

who said we treat every guy like a creep? and who said the attention is negative to us? it doesn't matter if people comment or notice, my point is that that is not the purpose behind dressing a certain way and my clothes are super comfy even my booty shorts so i guess it also depends on body shape and how nice of clothes you can afford

[SkyCastle90]

@angell222

If you read my 2nd comment response, you'll understand. If you never receive negative attention ever, great! If you wear clothes for only you and to flaunt to yourself while in public (?), then I guess you're the 10%? Is that what you wanted, to be the 10%. Congratulations.

From, "mind blowing, to someone with a pea sized brain I'm sure."
And now
"Depends on body shape and how nice the clothes you can afford."

Why are you so passive aggressive? I guess this could be an immaturity issue but damn this shit is so common.

[Asad1ONE1]

Goes both ways. Certain men and women may or may not dress for the opposite sex depending on the time and situation. Also, this: both men and women are physically attracted to one another equally, but it's usually the women that tell lies or half-lies for some reason. Bad experiences and societal pressure I guess.

[Asker]

@Asad1ONE1 very balanced view. Thanks.

[Sophia2795]

Buy her one that you think SHE would like. Simple. Hopefully she likes it.

[Sophia2795]

Everyone in the comments is giving you such a hard time, it’s not that deep, I can see your protective but just don’t be douche about it, educate her on what guys see in women & let her decide what to do with that information from there…let her know you just care about her & want to give her advice, you aren’t trying to control her. & don’t control her, she’ll fight back harder. Nothing wrong with siblings caring about their siblings people

[Asker]

Great suggestion. Thanks.

[Asker]

I value your comment and advice. Let
me acknowledge you are the only one came up
with very balanced view and suggestion. Thanks.

[BirdieBeep]

What's the context? Are you inviting her to an event with a particular dress code? In that case, just mention the dress code or have it noted on the invitation.

Or are you trying to tell her how to dress and not dress on a daily basis? Then stop. There is no tactful way to tell someone they're not dressing modestly enough without annoying them - because it's none of your business. Besides, you having opinions such as your sister not dressing modestly enough can imply you look at her in a sexual way. So I suggest you perish the thought for your sake and hers.

[pixie215]

ask her to see what she is choosing to wear and then try to make other choices if its not modest enough

[Asker]

Thanks. Should I tell her what guys commented?

[supercutebutt]

Tell her you think her body looks especially bangable and that as her brother, you never thought it possible to get so incredibly rock hard just by looking at her. She'll cover up right away. :) And if that somehow doesn't work, pull out your engorged tool and pleasure yourself while staring at her while she saunters around the room in her inappropriate outfit.

[CrazyGirl2]

You DON’T! What your sister wears is absolutely NONE of your business! It literally could not be any LESS of your business! If you don’t like what your sister wears, may I suggest that you simply NEVER borrow any of her clothes! What your sister wears on her body, quite literally couldn’t be any less relevant to you or your life. You are 18-24 that’s an adult, so stop worrying about what your sister wears and focus on yourself, and your own self improvement.

[siennasjo]

I mean if she's wearing some skimpy bodycon thing, sure... but she can wear something strapless or to the knee.. she doesn't have to look like the girls in this picture.. that a little too modest if your'e asking someone to dress a certain way.

[Gwenhwyfar]

You shouldn’t. None of your business how she dresses. It probably turns you on looking at her and the guilt makes you react negatively.

[Asker]

It's one reason for my disturbance besides the other one that sometimes my friends talk about her.

[Asker]

It's only one aspect. What about the comments of guys I hear?

[Gwenhwyfar]

Still none of your business. Maybe she likes the attention.

[Asker]

I am inclined to agree that she needs attention or admiration.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Let her be 😊. Everyone needs attention sometimes.

[Asker]

Makes sense. Thanks.

[Gwenhwyfar]

You’re welcome 😊

[TheFlak38]

you can't do that. women always follow whatever is trendy and socially acceptable. If the toxic subculture tells her to dress like a whore then that's exactly what she'll do and there is nothing you can do about it.

[Anonymous]

Maybe by telling her wearing classic and modest dresses like Lady D who’s known to wear modest and yet such classic dresses looks extremely attractive and powerful… !
But who knows maybe she wears good dresses seeing like your a guy you might be wrong lol
She is 20 years old too she can explore

[ohshee]

Tell her you love her. And you will always be there for her. And then you let her live her life

[ChrisMaster69]

You don’t.
you open the door walk out and keep walking
its her life not yours,

if she wants you to wear a pink dress, will you?

[bones_20]

You don’t because what she wears is really none of your business. She is her own person.

[Asker]

I get disturbed when hear comments of guys.

[bones_20]

Like I said ^

[Kaneki05]

Like most sane of the people here said, Just Don't.

[lovedejj_xo]

You don’t. Mind your business…. I wear what I want my brother doesn’t bother me

[Asad1ONE1]

As long as she doesn't complain about objectification, then no you won't likely change her mind. It's still wrong to dress immodestly though. Sadly, many women do. 😢

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Grow up. Aston being obsessed with your sister and how she dresses. It’s none of your business.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Stop*

[Subarugirl]

Easy, you shouldn't. Instead advise men who objectify women to not do that.

[Asad1ONE1]

Certain women "objectify" themselves. Also, not every woman complains. Men and women (mainly women) should dress modestly.

[Asker]

@Asad1ONE1
Really a balanced approach.

[Asad1ONE1]

Meaning?

[Anonymous]

tell her when she's wearing that, or ask her to be more religious by helping her

[laurieluvsit]

No leave her be to dress as she wants to.

Why should you be telling her how to dress?

[AkshiJanjua]

No, dressing modestly wouldn't stop guys objectifying her

[Minahh]

Well first of all let her wear what empowers her not you

[EmmaMary]

That's very simple to answer... You fuck off and keep your nose out of her business.

[Asad1ONE1]

And vice versa

[Cherry234]

Don't do it. Let her wear what she wants. It's her life and she's a young lady.

[Midnight_Kiss]

She's an adult, you have absolutely no say in how she dresses, so keep you suggestions to yourself.

[Anonymous]

I would try “hi sis, I’m going to be kind of a jackass and try to tell you, an adult woman, how you should dress. Can you kick me really hard in the nuts so I don’t do that again?”

[AsheSky]

Emphasize on how classy and pretty Kate Middleton looks

[SenseiSeptred]

Tell her that a good amount of what is considered modest in different countries can have quite the sex appeal. Look at kimonos as an example.

[dustybiker]

It’s her life she’s living. Let her.

[angell222]

dont advise her. she is an adult, and if she wanted to, she would. mind your own business

[DangItBobby]

You don’t get to decide, she’s her own individual. Sorry man

[BaldAvenger]

I think she'll be annoyed no matter how you put it.

[Pohjolan]

?
Is she like wearing micro bikinis for casual wear?

[Tstrbrainer]

You don't. It's her choice and she'll do whatever she wants

[michael1469]

Run around the house with a thong that has an elephant truck covering your junk.

[Anonymous]

Let her see you commenting negatively on slutty women and treat them poorly.

[Anonymous]

Yes tell your sister to cover up because the way she dresses sexually arouses you.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

This.

[XXblack88]

She 20 she can wear whatever she wants.

[Anonymous]

Take pictures and show to her future husbands and kids

[Wise4myage]

Why is that a concern of yours?

[Asker]

Hearing guys comments get me disturbed.

[Wise4myage]

Then ask to hear from girls only.

[angell222]

too bad. stop creeping on your own sister

[TacosRAwesome]

She's 20. She'll grow out of it in a few years.

[lrina]

there is no way to do that lol

[SnakeBoop]

not. your. business.

[Asker]

Should it not be my concern if guys comment on her?

[SnakeBoop]

nope, unless comments are "id love to rape her" kind of deal.

[Asker]

Comforting comment. Thanks

[Lowiu]

Its simple, don't

[jahaims]

It's weird you care what your adult sister wears.

[Ninania]

Don't.

[Abdulwahh]

Yes you should advise her

[skyeee_]

dude she's 20, give her the freedom man

[annabananna]

I would advice you to go seek therapy.

[Agape93]

You dont

[GMANN56]

Here is some advice. Mind your own business.

[SecretGardenBlood65]

describe the world of men

[Blonde401]

Mind your business.

[jimmy2]

Why are you asking then

[bodiesands]

Don't.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

You don't.

[DatGuy_Shawnaay]

Lmao don't.

[In_Trance]

You don't