Are you aware of the ways that you self-sabotage?

[Kha0tiic_xo]

Do you notice if you self sabotage? If so what made you come to realize it? And are you changing it?

[CaptainOverthink]

Yes, very aware.
.. I mistrust my own instincts and intuition about what people mean when they use excess bodylanguage. I was wrong once and that one time I got canceled for it (for words, interest and acting a bit obsessive). Making a mistake and feeling ashamed for it is enough to learn, we don't need to be stigmatized and followed around to be punished.

Since then I have massive problems believing that people show interest, are inviting me to show interest or if they say one thing and mean something else.

So when they do and I see it I become self-aware about my assumptions, start denying the possability and act as if they are talking about something else. And I see them get frustrated.. I can read between the lines in all other curcumstances so I know I am capable.
Also very capable of being wrong.

The way forward have been to accept that:
- What has been said and exagurated is not the whole truth but mob-mentality.
- That ONE event doesn't prove much, I am allowed to try again.
- Accepting that this is a huge part of being a guy; swimming up-stream, no support, it's all on me, fall to get up, strength come from living through hardships, learn as you go, think long-term and numb out fear & shame.
- People seeing you as a threat is Okay and mostly necessary. The importance lies in having a capital for violence but never use it.
- Accepting who I am and where my genes come from. But understand what is cemented and what is practiced. We're all dealt a hand but who you are is how you play it.
- Accept your past, own your actions (responsability), decide the furure.
- Set a goal or pick a direction, just keep moving.
- Balance is everything.

[Guy13]

The BIGGEST problem is SELF. Me, myself, and I “self-being” representing both the sun and god simultaneously. SELF-CENTERED, Self-image, delf-awareness, self-concept, self-safety, self-identity, self-absorbed, SELF-RELIANT, self-made, self-esteem, Self-Actualized. 🤮
-Blame it on the Enlightenment and mostly Kierkegaard and Freud, Jung, and Rogers🤢

[whereismyjohnny]

I often self-sabotage, but I'm trying to change it. I often joke about how I am my own worst enemy, but it's true 😅 I guess I realised when people close to me often started telling me to stop doubting myself, and how I should believe more in myself, but I also had some ''enlighten'' that made me realise I should start thinking more positive in general and believe in myself, and stop with being my own biggest obstacle.

[Kkstarzz96]

Most of the time it's my instincts not trusting something or finding more cons than pros. Usually when I ignore it, I absolutely regret it and could've been better off had I listened to myself. So actually it's not really me sabotaging me it's like going out there and taking a hit instead of saying how I really feel in uncomfortable situations.

[LemonsAsks]

Yes i have a problem with trying new locations and things, I've taken steps. I realized my mom child me too much growing up. I need disconnect. So im moving to Colorado soon. I smile fondly torward to the abyss of possibilities.

Self sabotage is tricky tho i kinda just realized it one day.

[lightbulb27]

Yes. By seeing the patterns in my life and behavior especially with intimacy.


I’ve had some success but took long time. Look into the sub conscious mind and how to rework it… how to heal wounds in the heart.


The behaviors are trauma conditioning…training in childhood

[dustybiker]

Oh, yes always have. And it stands out. In my mind it’s justified.

[Agape93]

Oh i know, I just don't care. Once I sink my teeth in, I'm not letting go.

[deniz345]

Oh i know, I just don't care. Once I sink my teeth in, I'm not letting go. ))

[Agape93]

Why are you copying me?

[AdithyaR]

Yep I always know. Can't seem to stop if, especially when it comes to relationships and being social.

[Anonymous]

I know my problems and at this point of my life I already know the solutions, but it's not easy to just change. I'm trying hard.

[exitseven]

I have tried to find ways that I do this. I think I dress like a slob on purpose.

[chulo1992]

I have noticed that I have done that SO MANY TIMES in relationships or potential relationships. My mouth would get me in trouble everytime

[AydenHazor]

I'm aware of summer if the ways, and I'm working on them. Summer I've realized in my own and some with the help of friends

[DaddyDiablo]

Not until I do it or something truthfully even then I'm very oblivious to it so I don't know

[MrJMM]

I'm very self-aware and I do know when I’m self-sabotaging.

[shanom]

Kind of, I do self sabotage, but it's well deserved

[Wise4myage]

Yes, I notice that If I am paying attention.

[DiegoO]

I am. The environment I live in doesn't help much.

[ihatemylife123]

yes but how do i stop?

[Nagatoro]

Yes, it's been happening to me since I was 12..

[CuriousMufuxka]

Aware and no fucks given.

[HeartFullOfGlue]

I've been noticing them more

[msc545]

I am quite aware of it.

[Iron_Man]

I don’t do it

[Rendomlikua]

Yess