My parents have divorced before and it’s making me nervous about marriage, how to overcome this?

[Anonymous]

My parents have both been married, divorced, all of that multiple times. I feel like I’ve always had a broken home some coming or going or being replaced. It’s to the point that I’ve recognized it hindered some of my relationships where I would shut down to avoid Any type of conflict and eventually we’d break up. I have been in a long term relationship now and I see myself settling down with him and having kids etc. we’ve talked about marriage which I’ve been very open that I want to But seeing what my parents put me through I don’t want that to happen. So I told him I don't know. He has asked me questions before Scott proposing and stuff and I get nervous.

Please be nice with your comments.

[20yearsolder]

You control your own destiny, it doesn't make a rat's ass difference what your parents did. My parents divorced, I've been with the same woman for 35 plus years. My parents divorced when I was 12, all of my children are grown and out of the home. If I go by your theory, I should have divorced like 11 years ago. Only you can know how much love you have in your heart for someone, marriage is hard work. Both of you have to put in the effort. As long as the both of you are willing to do that then you will stay together