I wouldn't get mad at them I'd probably let them know that I'd love them either way because I would and in the end if that's what they want then I'll go with it I'll bite but I would be skeptical at first at the least.
I'd let my kid know that I love them and that I would like them to take their time on making any decisions preferably like a year or so and if nothing changes then go for it full send but that they should take their time at first because things like this are important and life-changing and you might never get back what you lose.
Then of course you got to comfort them because this is an important time in their life and how you comfort them obviously depends on the person your talking to so I can't give a definitive answer on what I would do
Then after that you go about your life and probably have a few more conversations here and there about it obviously you want to try not to be a little too pushy because that could ruin your relationship or make them uncomfortable you want them to know and feel like they have the choice in the matter and that you're going to love them obviously and if you have an opinion one way or the other for example I'm more against being trans than for it but again it would be my kid I can't not support them if this is what they want so I'll support them either way cuz that's my kid and I will love them I will love them for being my kid and I will love them because I would have been with them their whole life and I've watched them grown and I can't just burn down that bridge
I think transgender people have a mental illness. The answer is therapy not medical mutilation and Shame on these doctors and surgeons performing the surgeries. There’s a high number who get it done and are still unhappy and may even be/still be suicidal, so that right there shows you the problem goes deeper. I’m not here for harassing them or putting them down. They have a serious mental problem and deserve serious help with it. I feel sorry for them. I would get my kid help and still love them. I would struggle with a kid who acted liked/dressed like the opposite gender but I could deal with it, but this nonsense of saying you’re a different gender than they are would not fly. In my house we’re gonna have common sense, what’s in your pants is our indicator of what you are, not how you feel. I hope we could help them and do our part and be there for them, but they may also see me as transphobic for my opinions and me refusing to call them by their preferred pronoun. If that day comes, I’ll either bite my tongue to keep my kid around or feel the way I feel and make it clear and if that’s the end of our relationship, then that’s the end of our relationship, I’m not sure on that part yet.
What you fail to see is that NOT everyone one is born CLEARLY one sex. Some of these (intersexed) babies are surgically modified by doctors who presume the child's sex. (Last I heard, this occurred every 1 in 100 live births). So "what's in your pants" may play NO PART AT ALL in determining gender identity. In addition, you have to consider genetic identity and brain chemistry. Mother Nature tries, but she DOESN'T ALWAYS get it right!
I be happy for them. May take a minute but I'd really wanna know why. No judgement... just give me a good reason why. I set the boundaries of what you can or can't do if they still a kid. But I'll support you the best i can. <3
I would not say I'd be happy for them... there isn't any good reason I can think up. Other then the fact they are so insecure about who they really are, that want to pretend to be something they technically aren't and never truly will be. Its just sad to me, and don't think we are doing them any favors by pretending that society will or should respect thier choices.
I'd ask them what they meant, and we'd have a long talk (probably several, actually) about it. I don't have all the answers, and don't know what the right thing to do in every situation is, but I've heard enough horror stories of kids being pushed into transitioning with social media tales of "this will magically solve all your problems" and "the reasoning you're feeling alienated and socially anxious is because you're trans" (as opposed to "because you're a teenager" or "because many elements of human society, in a word, suck") to have encouraged my theoretical children to be leery of easy answers. Wearing a dress and makeup and asking to be called "she" (or the female equivalent) isn't likely to do any real damage (beyond the social, anyway); major surgical interventions are another story.
I don't know if I'd pull it off, but I'd definitely be the kind of person who AIMS to have his think "I need to call Dad!" rather than "Dad's gonna kill me!" when they get in trouble.
Oh, well. Some people are like that. If it's something they REALLY want and can't live another day without, I'd set them on the path to get it. The first thing they'd have to do is spend a few months to a couple years with a sociologist/psychologist that will evaluate their claim to decide with them that it IS what they need and not just something they want NOW but might change their mind, later. If they so deem it, they''ll give them "the note" that will allow a Dr. of their choosing to do the sex change on them. At that point, it's all down to having the money to pay the Dr..
Pffft, Let them be themselves, maybe it's a phase, or maybe it's not~ Growing up is all about finding oneself and trying everything, who cares?
I'd be supportive and caring no matter what. It ain't that hard.
Besides, gender roles and sexual orientation are totally just societal constructs, individuals are all too often somewhere between the hard and fast lines of labels.
That's another reason I'm glad I don't have kids in this generation. I remember RuPaul and Dennis Rodman was a little strange.. I went to school w/2 gay guys, but gay was just that. Gay. We associated that w/Tommy Hilfiger and GAP. Today it's all over the place.
I'd think they was stupid cos there's no such thing as mental gender... mental gender is a social construct, and both female and male can feel male or female at times... There's been weeks where I've felt girlie, but that doesn't mean I am a girl... You only are what you are born as.. so it doesn't matter what you feel like you are... It's what you actually are...
For exampleI could feel like a frog... but am I a frog? No I'm human, same for genders... if you're a boy your a boy... Not a girl in a boys body... It doesn't work like that
I would never get mad at my child for this. Coz it's their basic right to choose. It's their choice. If my child would come up with such thing then I would be glad enough to support them. After all there's nothing wrong in these things. I think parents should be supportive of their children if they aren't doing anything wrong instead of imposing their choices/mindset/way of thinking/decisions.
I would tell them that they can not and should not expect others to accept them in the same way they accept themselves. And that I will always love them, but I fell in love with the person they were born as and I came to know, and will never agree with or love the person they grow into as much as the person I know in my heart they really are.
I would not allow my kid to transition before 18. Period.
I won’t do anything or feel anything. It’s their life. I’ll support and love them just like I did before. No difference. Why would I be happy? Or why would I be sad? If that’s who my kid is, then I will accept him/her and give them all the love.
I would support them no matter what but I’d probably think I f*cked something up.
Why else wouldn’t they feel comfortable in their own skin?
Don’t get me wrong, I have learned a lot about genetics, evolution, psychology and even though I support LGBTQ rights, I feel like having my own child turn into transgender means I failed to raise a child who could compete successfully in the survival race.
Wouldn't be a concern for me, that's how they feel about themselves and they can do what they wish regarding it. However I am not paying for transitioning, despite what a user before claimed was essentially mandatory or otherwise obligatory for me to do. That's not a moral issue, that's a financial issue.
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A lot of people don’t like my opinion on this but I feel like exploring your sexuality should be saved for being an adult, it’s just like the maturity level at 16 isn’t there to be in a serious relationship, I would send them to therapy or counseling tho to talk about their feelings more openly with someone because I may have trouble understanding and that could help me as well, I wouldn’t want them to feel rejected.
talk to them. See why they feel like that and how long they have felt like that I would not say they are being silly , you will grow out of it. They may well do that, but you are there to help. It takes a lot of guts to say to your parents that you are in the wrong gender. The ridicule that you can get is unmeasurable..
I would love them regardless but I would ask them to wait at least 2-3 years with this and I would ask them to watch the growing number of videos on how people regretted having the transition and wanted their gender back. But if my kid would act like the idiots on tiktok and YouTube, I would distance myself.
My daughter came at me with this at agev11... she is now 18. At first I was like... so what you're telling me is you want a penis? And that made her mad... she went through a lot of different things over the years following... I've always told her though that none of that even matters... that it shouldn't be a worry for anybody because I felt like that was really an adult decision to be made when she was an adult. I love her NO MATTER what because she is my child.
I would be disappointed. God intended marriage to be between one woman and one man. Everything being done now is of choice. Would I still love him/her of course.
Tell they if that is what they want to do it is fine, but on their own time and pay for it themself. As long as they are living with me it ain't gonna happen and they couldn't afford it until they are at least 18 - no, make that 25.
i'd hate myself for being a bad mother and try to convince the child one last time to not become trans, and if all my effort is in vain i'm definitely kicking them out.
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