What’s your procedure when you learn a ‘friend’ of yours has been talking smack about you behind your back?

[Still-alive]

Just drop the from my life. I dont need that shit

Confront the friend and get them to Try to make it up to you. But if they cross you again drop them

Get revenge on them in some form

Other (say what youd do)

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+1 y

Had it happen a few times long time ago

[CrazyGirl2]

Well im not exactly the HR dept. at a corporation, so I don’t have policy & procedure manuals for every conceivable situation. But if I learned that a friend was speaking less than kindly behind my back, I suppose I would talk to them privately, if they deny it, I’d speak with them again, but this time bring at least two witnesses. If they still deny it… I guess I would reluctantly end the friendship. At least until they came to me apologized and promised to correct the record. It’s never happened to me thus far. I HAVE had friends who misunderstood something the thought I said, but that was soon cleared up, and we had a good cry about it. Yes, we’re still friends.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Confront them. But they ain't gotta make shit up to me. I just wanna see if they'll be honest.

[NathanDavis]

I never had friends doing this before so is not like have a protocol... lol

but there's been people who know me and I know them, that have said things about me behind my back and when this happened I really didn't care because it's just words they said and even stuff they made up for whatever reason... and when I learned it from a third person, this third person didn't believe it, others didn't believe it... people who actually know me will not doubt me, they will first doubt the person talking shit about me

so as long as that does not change, I don't really care or worry about what some people have to say behind my back

but in the case that an actual friend of mine starts to doing this... well, I would take them to a neurologist because that's just something they would never do, so chances are that they hit their head and are acting up, or some parasyte went up their brains, gotta check that out for sure sure

[NathanDavis]

oh, and in the case they're running their mouths with criticism or dislike... I care even less lol

everyone is entitled to their opinion, and whatever they could think or say about me... I just don't care really, I've been myself for way too long to be bothered by the ~not favorable~ perception of some people

the only one thing that would make me reach to this person talking behind my back is... if they had said that I said or did something that they really didn't like or hurt them, affected them or whatever

in that case I would reach to clarify whatever I did and they feel affected by

[lrina]

i'd probably either have taken minor revenge but nothing serious (i wouldn't do anything like, leak serious secrets because that's just a douche move) or if we weren't that close then i'd just drop them.

[SaoirseS]

File it away mentally for potential use at a later time. 😈

[TransAm85]

I ask them wtf is wrong? Then they usually lie about the whole thing and then we still talk, but things aren't the same.

[menina]

I just cut them off. I don't need fakeness in my life.

[Sour-rose]

I don't give second chances but if we're on good terms... ONE MORE TIME, ASHOLLLLLL

[AndrésC64]

I'd have to drop them. I don't think that I could ever trust them again.

[llorando]

Confront the friend and get them to Try to make it up to you. But if they cross you again drop them.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Just drop them from my life as friends and move on with life

[cerbipye]

usually I'm not 'friend' with people who do that

[Alyssa_11]

Scream at her lol

[Dinosaursandanime65]

I vote A