I have this reallly big problem with jealousy, Can anyone help?

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Okay so, I have been struggling with my self esteem for as long as I can remember. Lately I’ve also been feeling very jealous of my brother.. Whenever we go out all my friends ask me ,, Is he single?’’ ,, Can you tell him about me?” etc. When it comes to me though, I never get asked out, I basically get no attention from boys, so I think its pretty fair to say that im the ugly sibling… My brother is also very smart. He flew out of country to a very prestigious university. Meanwhile im struggling with my academics which aren’t even remotely on the same level as my brother’s… I can’t help but to ask myself all the time ,, Why not me?” ,, Why can’t I be smart and pretty?” It’s killing me. I also don’t wanna envy my brother so much because he is soo kind and good for me , he helps me with everything… I really don’t know what to do I’m really depressed…

caring__1 · Accepted Answer

Jealousy has nothing to do with other people we're focusing on. It's merely a statement about ourselves, saying we feel inadequate to offer what we feel the other wants or you'd like to offer, or feel inadequate to acquire what another has acquired. I don't care how much you focus on others, your self-esteem will never grow until you identify what you'd like to accomplish personally and then choose a path to make it happen. Compare yourself with your own previous accomplishments rather than the accomplishments of others. It's easier to stay on course when you're realistic.

Find your own niche. You can develop an interest or talent, or you can find an organization that supports an interest or cause you believe in. Volunteer or take on a responsible position that allows people to see you in action rather than just how you look. Your value and accomplishments will be based on your actions, not the actions of others.

Nidal_AA · Accepted Answer

Jealousy is normal its a part of all of us... And there will always be someone better than you to be jelous of...
Only thing you can do is improve yourself... Study harder and work on yourself to become successful...
Also not getting asked out dosent necesserily mean your the ugly sibling

boggboss · Answer

Need to learn to stop comparing yourself yo him he could be depressed if he did the same as u and compared himself to others that where better looking or smarter