How important it is to keep in touch via text when you can't be face to face with a person?

[random_girl95]

I am of the opinion that texting is both bad and good. At some point it's fake as you don't understand in reality how the person you are texting with is feeling, but I think it's a good way of not losing contact with people that matter to you in real life. However I understood that people tend to behave different via text than they do in real life. So what is the point in texting after all if it supposedly was made for you to be closer to your people but at the same time it's making you distant and unreal?

[HighlyVolatile]

I always found text so dry that way. A phone call would at least be better for me, and a video chats way better. I don't know if I'm really cut out for an LDR. I tried before and never made that work even when I wanted to really badly (ex broke up with me).

Sometimes I wonder if playing online games might spice things up. I don't mean like some massive multiple online video game that requires tons of investment unless you're both into it but just like online checkers, chess, poker, little friendly games to pass the time.

[HighlyVolatile]

* massive multiplayer, sorry

[random_girl95]

Interesting point of view. It's true that social media offers online games but to be honest I haven't really used them. I might consider it for the future thanks!

[HighlyVolatile]

It might be my bias because even on dates, I didn't just want to sit down and talk to each other over a coffee or dinner table for so long (although I still consider that 1000x better than text). I wanted to move around on our dates, do things together, laugh, and weave the conversations in between. I feel like doing things together while talking gives a stronger sense of connectedness than just pure conversation. So I think playing little games together online might simulate that feeling in some way -- a lesser way but some way.

[random_girl95]

I totally get that about dating and in general with friends. I like doing things as well, especially with my male friends as they tend to be more energetic than girls. With girls I am more likely to have a nice conversation but with boys I want to "play around", like some other time we played billiard which was fascinating for me really.

[nawtee_me]

These are choices for you to not be real is your choice, not the phone you text with...

[Emiliamazing]

It’s not the most enjoyable way to communicate, that’s for sure. However, it has a place, almost like a bookmark in your day/routine, to remind you to take time to contact those you care about (face to face or on the phone). Just my two cents

[random_girl95]

Appreciate for sharing your thoughts

[Emiliamazing]

You are very welcome! Great question with valid points on importance of human contact

[Femphile_xoxo]

I think it's a way to keep in touch with someone and so I think it's kind of important. But if you're close, calling and video calling is another great way to keep in touch every now and again.

[random_girl95]

I don't know if it's logical but I have this male friend whom we talk just fine in real life but in text something is off. However I am not feeling that confident on video calling him.

[Femphile_xoxo]

Hm, when you say off do you mean his behavior is different?

It's kinda like you said, people are different through text than they are in person. That's just kinda because it's a bit more hidden and it's easier to rethink what you say and close yourself off. Plus, a serious person might use TONS of emojis and have a bunch of typos when texting, and a super dramatic person might be a dry texter!!

[random_girl95]

Yes exactly he is different via text, he's more closed. Whatever the case you are absolutely right about people having more time to rethink what they gonna reply so I might say that I should cherish the moments I spend together with him in real life than focusing on his texting behavior.

[Femphile_xoxo]

Totally!!! I'm someone who can totally go through phases in how I talk via text so who knows, maybe he'll be more open while texting sometime in the future 🤷
If you're not super comfortable video calling, what about just audio calling? :D

[random_girl95]

You are right

[random_girl95]

Thank you for all the advice

[IMuser]

In my opinion, fuck texting. Phone call is way better and physical meet-up is the best. Texting is way too ambiguous and after a certain time, it feels fake

[random_girl95]

Agreed! Thanks for your opinion!

[Emilyis]

It isn't important to me. mom and dad keep telling me how it was before there were cell phones and texting.

[random_girl95]

Older days are better in the sense that people knew how to interact in real life better than they do now

[talka20]

I think once in a little while through texting is fine n not long talks just a little updates n checkin on them

[random_girl95]

Ok thanks for the advice.

[boredguy007]

Kinda important. You know you can do things online too. But being there for one another however you can and making them feel safe and caring about them can do wonders and is definitely underrated.

[random_girl95]

Definitely you can do things online but I would use texting as a mean to arrange something in real life. It's like when before social media people will send sms and just say "you up for a coffee? " and the other person would reply and then they will resume the conversation face to face.

[boredguy007]

Haha. That would be nice too. Some of it online some of it face to face is also good.

[random_girl95]

Exactly

[boredguy007]

Lets talk girll. 🥲

[random_girl95]

About what?

[boredguy007]

Anything you wish too. Im bored as my name suggests.

[boredguy007]

🌝🌝