How to know if someone is trust trying to use you?

[Anonymous]

Generally speaking and not in a romantic relationship setting. Like someone is being friendly and putting a lot of effort in the beginning to gain your trust, but once they've gain it, they either do the minimum or they drop off once they identify that you can't give them what they want out of you?

[Espresso-Grande]

It's usually impossible to know why, because there's a number of reasons why they may have dropped you and stopped putting in the effort.

I can relate to what you are saying, because it's happened to me. It's hurtful and frustrating.

If someone is using, for whatever reason, they won't stick around. I believe very few people remain in your life long-term.

I'm the sort of person who'll stick around always if people are genuine, loyal and real with me. Not many people appreciate that though.

[Guy13]

You have to ride it out. Most people are self-serving. Be consistent and let them reveal themselves. 6 months from first contact is my experience.

[Asker]

You just get this feeling when someone tries to isolate you and make you feel heard or wanted to be heard despite lack of any public conversation prior. Meeting someone irl is slightly different but I feel it still kinda applies. Now they only show up to online conversation if this one person shows up, otherwise they're absent, compared to prior they'll try to be conversational to everybody or most before reaching the position in the group they're at now.