Is it okay for me to say no to my mom?

[Anonymous]

I'm 25 about to be 26 in couple months. I live about 20 min away from my parents house. I been spending way too much money and trying to stay home. I'm getting annoyed at my mom because for the past 4 weeks on Saturdays my mom has been asking me to go to the house to watch my dad while she goes to the store with my sister. She can easily go by herself while my sister can watch my dad since my sis lives with them! But my mom can't do anything by herself. I'm tired of it the worse was last week my mom made me waste my gas to take her to police station (she getting worse mentally) and she wanted to report that hospital lied about my dad getting cancer. Which is not true he did have cancer and it shows. Point is im tired of this because I go every sundays and feel she's doing this on purpose its almost as if I live there now. I want to say no but my mom manipulates everything and makes me feel guilty. She will also lie and say I don't love my dad. I just can't stand how she can't do this on Sundays. I want to be away from my mom. It's making me want to die because I feel like I can't live my fuckin life! She gets mad if I say no if I have my own plans for the day like leave me alone already I dont want things to become a regular thing

[Lliam]

She's taking advantage of you. It's really selfish of her to not want what's best for you. Her desire should be for you to grow up and have a fulfilling life. It's like she thinks your only purpose is to be a servant.

Don't answer her calls. Let them go to voice mail. Return them when they are important or when you get a chance.

I admire you for loving your parents. But, at the same time, you can't give up your life for them. There has to be a balance.

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

People form habits out your generosity and they will not know they are using the heck out of u
You can move somewhere else but the economy is so bad that rent and cost of life is really high so you will have a hard time finding a cheaper place

[Asker]

About a month ago I bought my own car and find it weird that all of a sudden my mom has been asking since then to come Saturdays. I hate it there its fuckin boring and I hate hearing her complain. She's inconsiderate too doesn't even give me gas money when its literally like 7 bucks a gallon right now

[Asker]

Even when I moved out last year my mom tried making me feel bad by saying im a terrible person abandoning my nephew and dad. I told her I have to live on my own can't always be living with her

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

You should be thankful you even have communication with parents. My dad is in prison for drug trafficking and my mom left me when I turned 17 for a Mexican guy from Mexico. She’s been in Cancun with him ever since and never came back

[Asker]

Yeah but its not healthy relationship with my mom she's becoming more schizo and im tired of her shit she also tries putting me down but im afraid of her

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

I would be down to trade your parents for mine no lie even with all her shit

[Asker]

Like what kind of mom tried talking crap about the nice car you just bought? And she tries every way to trash it with negative comments

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

What car is it and what did she say

[Asker]

I would trade parents too so I can have freedom trust me my mom is so toxic its too much. When my dad passes away I dont plan on visiting her often. I got myself a 2013 mustang. I previously had same car but it was all scratched up and she liked that one.. I returned it and found a better one no scratches and now she says the other one was way better. She tries saying I messed up and im stupid dont know what im doing

[Waldoe]

get "caller ID" on your phone and let her calls go to a voice mail... if the message she leaves is important, you can call her back