Were you spoiled as a kid?

[bigpauly]

[Oigit]

Pretty far from it. My younger brother and I where raised by a single mother who has had cancer since her teens. So things like hand me down clothes, shopping at thrift stores for everything we could and dollar store Christmas's where the norm. Though as I got older I become more appreciative of it.

Mainly because I started to realize just how much my mother was doing to keep us as stable as she could. Working through chemo and radiation therapy, pulling overtime whenever she could or working a second or full time job on top of the job she had. Also it made me value a extremely hard work ethic and being willing to keep pushing forward no matter what tell you are out of a bad situation. It also beat into my head that sitting around complaining does nothing and it's a massive waste of time. Because that time is better spent working towards bettering yourself or to get out of a bad situation you find yourself in.

[pass_the_celery98]

No, honestly not at all. When I look back at high school I had two pairs of sneakers and wore the same thing all the time. It wasn’t until I started working in grade 12 and bought more stuff for myself. I understand my mom tried her best, so I got a Sega Genesis, a PlayStation 1 and PlayStation 2. Now that I work I buy what I want and stuff I wanted as a kid like vintage toys from the 90s or certain air Jordan’s sneakers. I’m not married yet but if I have kids I want to give them nice things. I don’t want to spoil them but I want them to have more then I had but still be grateful.

[PrettyPriya]

Nope. My family is well-off but we were never handed anything. My parents worked hard to get what we had. We were expected to work as kids. I babysat two young boys in the neighborhood.

Now, because my family was financially stable, I did get nice stuff and they paid for my schooling. However, I had to maintain certain grades for them to continue doing so. We also were still expected to maintain either activities or work in the summers.

[bigpauly]

Sounds like things that will prepare you well for the world

[PrettyPriya]

@bigpauly Yep, they were adamant that we learn values like being responsible for ourselves even though my parents did well. Nothing wrong with that in my mind. Looking back, only fair we pull our weight considering the cost of school.

[bigpauly]

Yes. Sounds like a good way to go about raising children to me

[mandyfire98]

No, my father was very strict but loving as well. My older brother spoiled me when I was little though. He was very protective of me and any little cry or anything and he'd be the first to run over to me to try and fix it.

[DrillBeats]

I hate that the term “spoiled” refers to your parents getting you things you want as a kid as if it’s a bad thing. Isn’t that the goal, to provide, to be caring for your kids and make them happy? Financial and emotional support? Wouldn’t you “spoil” your kids? I think spoil should be replaced with being a parent and the whole conversation is null. (this is in no way an attack on the asker)

[Apple1996]

Not spoiled by my parents but for sure spoiled by my siblings. I'm the baby of the family so they always took care of me and did anything to make me happy

[JoyGirl]

Very much the opposite actually. Thank goodness I don’t remember much.

[JoyGirl]

What about you? 🤪

[bigpauly]

I hope it wasn’t too rough then.

I may have been a little spoiled 👀

[jennifer_bloom]

I was given toys and entertainment and ice cream but also emotionally abused and neglected by my immature and clueless family.

[jamesgoldman]

Nah, well I started working at 8 to earn money and has assited others in the same regard for a couple of years before that

[Espresso-Grande]

My parents were kind people, but I wasn't spoilt as a kid.

[TacosRAwesome]

Very young kid, I kinda was. Only child from one side and enough to go around from the other. By 7 or so I definitely wasn't.

[Rockstarrrrr]

Well my parents had me in their 40s and 50s... used all their energy on my older siblings.. I didn't get a hug man

[douride2]

Not even close to being spoiled. Pretty much the opposite.

[moviedude714]

I like to think this has a worse effect on men than it does on women

[Flower7]

Because it makes them soft?

[moviedude714]

@Flower7 that could be it but nature and society of the world has always expected men to be more independent or more self-reliant than women have

[moviedude714]

@Flower7 Plus women have always kind of gotten things handed to them in the dating world or when it comes to forming relationships, since women never have to pursue a man if you get what I'm saying

[dustybiker]

You’d have to ask my sister.

[bigpauly]

Alright I’ll give her a ring

[dustybiker]

🤣 Good luck with that. She’s the most annoying person to try and get a hold of.

[bigpauly]

Lmao

[dustybiker]

@bigpauly 😁

[Msputiton]

Maybe 👀

[bigpauly]

Lmao. I was too

[Msputiton]

Lmao

[Flower7]

No, not at all. If anything, I didn’t have enough.

[NathanDavis]

nope, not at all

[TheMajesticKing777]

Nope

[exitseven]

no, not at all.

[Mynameisbobby]

No way

[moonpie89]

No I wish