Would a pattern like this mean anything or am I thinking too much into it?

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Well for starters, my mom was mostly raised by her grandparents, aunts and uncles.  By time I was born, I thought she was raised by her parents who were very “loving” towards her and I until she told me how they really were as a kid. Still, I mainly view them as the people I grew up to know.  So, someone asked me what were the parents of my my exes and past crushes like. I recall now that literally almost every single one was raised by someone other than a parent.  Literally almost all were raised by a grandparent, aunt, uncle, or even a maid. The few raised by their moms were extreme mama’s boys and their single mom just didn’t like me because she felt her son pulling away, wanting to love another woman.  Is this just a coincidence that I can only think of like two who were actually from two parent homes thats didn’t consist of someone other than their parent raising them?  I’ve just never realized til now. And i certainly hope to not see y'all using the excuse of liking someone “broken” because being raised by someone better and more responsible does not make them broken in my eyes. #FeelFreeToList #WhoRaisedYou

Ironmunkee · Accepted Answer

People seek out others whom are consciously or unconsciously similar to them. People whom have experienced pain or hurt also do without knowing it ("they understand what I feel"). What were your exes like?

I would certainly not say you're broken but its definitely not coincidence. Maybe a sense of comfort, a sense of shared pain, a sense of fear, maybe a sense of love, made you seek out people with a similar situation without knowing it. Maybe something like a school stereotype? You were raised a certain way so you naturally thought preppys were "uncool" etc etc then fell in with a crowd similar to you?

kellytheman · Accepted Answer

I agree if someone is raised by someone else is doesn't mean there broken and sometimes it was probably the best thing for that person. I think it's just a coincidence and thinking about a little much and it's kinda a norm these days because some parents are always working all the time to provide for that child.

Loveisgirthy · Answer

There's a select few universal lessons I feel everyone needs to grasp and live by. Like to me we're all a bunch of balls on the pool table except the cue is the person with voice of reason and guidance. Could be anyone. You shoot your shot based on something learned from something/someone and hit/miss or bump your goal lesson ball. Sometimes knocking out other people's balls in the process is absolute necessity. You make one choice, the other no longer exists. Thing is anyone can be a cue, they just need the balls to do and see things differently. Noone is technically broken you're right but there's sometimes people who just can't find the right guidance and will fall into their own world of whatever it is they built in their head.

Johnnyroyyall · Answer

The world has become obsessed with money. People are having children at such a young age now that they don't know how to be a parent... The elders are raising the kids now.. I know so many single moms that don't have custody of their kid and the father is not around either and if their parents are taking care of them it's sad it's pathetic but it's what the world has become

LazerBean · Answer

People are attracted to other people who are similar to them, and people who are raised under similar circumstances are more likely to be similar to each other.

Shark_61695 · Answer

Dizzy... as always, you're overthinking everything. Could be a coincidence or something darker might be going on in the background.

I'd tend towards the latter... there is always something going on in the background.

melanieeeB · Answer

I actually never really wished for a child or marriage, so there was never a age thing to it

Phoenix98 · Answer

Every girl I dated so far was from a 2 parent household. i myself was raised by two loving parents.

BCRanger10 · Answer

I think that things like this are at least a part of the equation.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

It means nothing, predictability of complex bahavior is impossible.

Sparkie460 · Answer

Girl you got way too much time to think. You're over analyzing it.

Twalli · Answer

My girlfriend was adopted, and raised by those that adopted her.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Yeah; it probably has some sort of effect.

TrillXHippy · Answer

I don’t think it means anything

legalboxers · Answer

interesting

Alex8736 · Answer

seems coincidental

Nahid1707 · Answer

It is okay

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