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Is it normal for people to only agree to meet up with you if they're close by?

From my experience, I've always noticed that my male friends or even my female friends don't usually just plan to meet up with me & actually travel to see me. They will only agree or make plans to meet up with me if they're around where I am that day & think it will just be easy to see me whilst they're close to where I am.

Like some of my guy friends just say to me, 'whenever I'm in your area next time, I'll let you know & we can hang out.' another older male friend of mine who used to work at my university also used to say to me 'whenever I'm on campus next for work, we can meet up' but I don't think he would've ever actually gone just to see me even though he used to live almost right next to the campus. It would always just be some other reason first, and then seeing me was an extra plan.

It also happens where my female friends from other states sometimes say to me 'I'll be coming to your city next week to visit & stay with my friend, do you wanna meet up when I come?' but it will never actually be me that they're initially coming for. It's always another reason or another person that comes first & I'm just someone they'll meet up with as an extra plan just cause they know I'm here.

Is that normal? do people usually only meet up with people if it's convenient for them? or does it just depend on your friendship and closeness with them? I mean if their main reason for visiting a certain place is to see someone else & stay with them, & I'm just an extra plan, I'm guessing it means my friendship with them isn't as meaningful to them as their friendship with the other one?
Is it normal for people to only agree to meet up with you if they're close by?
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