I'm pretty much going through the same thing. I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months. Before we started dating he warned me that he doesn't do well in relationships because he has anxiety disorder and starts to get annoyed at the other person and ignore them. This happened with the 2 girls he's ever dated which he also slept with. The one girl dated him for 2 weeks and the other for maybe a month or 2. When we began to date we didn't put a label on it, but we didn't see anybody else and he was wonderful. He called me once and sometimes twice a day. We'd talk for hours and even do video chat because he lives 2 hours away and we don't always get to see each other. The distance never mattered...until recently. He started his depression after we were together for about 6 months. It was about a week after we had sex for the first time. We did sexual things with each other since we started dating, but didn't have sex. Anyways...about a week after having sex he didn't talk to me for 4 days straight. I was really upset because I thought he was done with me, but he finally talked to me. He stopped calling me on a regular basis and we haven't done video chat since. It was hard to get used to the change, but it wasn't unbearable. Then his mom moved back into his house. She is unbelievably depressed and has been sucking him dry of any happiness. Because of this I have to beg him to talk to me at least once a week and beg him to hang out with me. He's too sad to do anything and it's really making things difficult. I finally got tired of it and tried breaking up with him a few weeks ago. He said that he's trying to treat me as best he can while he's going through this, that he'd regret losing me, and that I shouldn't blame myself for what's going on. As long as he can agree to answer me back when I text him and call me a few days a week I won't mind as much, but getting no attention whatsoever is difficult.
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give him some space. tell him you're there for him if he needs you to talk to, but don't try to force him to talk to you about stuff. let him come to you if there is an issue. just be a supportive nice caring girlfriend. I'm sure you are because you're obviously worried and want to help.
He isn't ready to be in a relationship. What you are experiencing isn't going to get any better any time soon. He needs to mature and get past his last relationship and straighten up all the issues going on in his life that are causing him stress. Not to mention he needs some serious self respect.
He's only going to drag you down and end up stressing you out. I know this is probably not what you wanted to hear, but I've seen it happen to many friends.
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