I'm disabled with lupus. Last yr i had a health scare. I almost died. I couldn't even walk. My homeless mother (slept in her car for over 15yrs) came to take care of me. I hadn't spoken to her in years because she is very abusive.
I couldnt get her to cook or clean. So i hired her as a caretaker through my insurance. I figured she won't listen to me but maybe with some $ incentive she will feel more motivated. Ik she is depressed.
I have had to endure her abuse for an entire year. She lived here But sat and watched Netflix everyday. She cooked when she felt like it. So I ordered food almost everyday.
"F#$& you and your boundaries"
That is what she told me after I refused to give her gas money. She got 1600$ a paycheck to care for me.
All I asked is she help with groceries. Not rent not bills just I'm on food stamps. I can't provide for both of us.
The hospital delivers me food. She eats that too
But if I cooked she ate that too. So I recently asked her to buy milk since she ate it. She said she didn't feel like it. I felt inconvenienced because I ran out of food stamps again and had no money to buy more.
She kept being condescending
"Wow really? Wooowwwwww thats why ur upset? Over food! Woooooooowwwww REALLY WOOW"
I told her I wasn't mad over food but that she keeps saying wow to me. Like I hate that she talks to me like that.
Then she yelled for me to drop it cuz now im passing her off.
I said NO
And I kept telling her I hate how she speaks to me. How she's abusive
I ask her to stop yelling she gets up and starts walking toward me. Yelling louder saying she don't care. (I have neighbors so I need to keep quiet)
But I can't ask her to keep it down because she gets mad.
I told her how I feel and asked her to leave. If she not going to respect me.
She left. But in her car. Again. I feel shame.
I am scared. I keep having nightmares. My heart racing. I'm scared she will hurt me. I feel guilty she is sleeping in her car.
I dnt want to be alone
I couldnt get her to cook or clean. So i hired her as a caretaker through my insurance. I figured she won't listen to me but maybe with some $ incentive she will feel more motivated. Ik she is depressed.
I have had to endure her abuse for an entire year. She lived here But sat and watched Netflix everyday. She cooked when she felt like it. So I ordered food almost everyday.
"F#$& you and your boundaries"
That is what she told me after I refused to give her gas money. She got 1600$ a paycheck to care for me.
All I asked is she help with groceries. Not rent not bills just I'm on food stamps. I can't provide for both of us.
The hospital delivers me food. She eats that too
But if I cooked she ate that too. So I recently asked her to buy milk since she ate it. She said she didn't feel like it. I felt inconvenienced because I ran out of food stamps again and had no money to buy more.
She kept being condescending
"Wow really? Wooowwwwww thats why ur upset? Over food! Woooooooowwwww REALLY WOOW"
I told her I wasn't mad over food but that she keeps saying wow to me. Like I hate that she talks to me like that.
Then she yelled for me to drop it cuz now im passing her off.
I said NO
And I kept telling her I hate how she speaks to me. How she's abusive
I ask her to stop yelling she gets up and starts walking toward me. Yelling louder saying she don't care. (I have neighbors so I need to keep quiet)
But I can't ask her to keep it down because she gets mad.
I told her how I feel and asked her to leave. If she not going to respect me.
She left. But in her car. Again. I feel shame.
I am scared. I keep having nightmares. My heart racing. I'm scared she will hurt me. I feel guilty she is sleeping in her car.
I dnt want to be alone
