What to do with my mom in this case?

[Anonymous]

My mom is an elder person and I live with her. She inherited from her mom (my grandmother) the habit of keep everything or hid things in order not to loose it if it is on sight. But by doing that she then does not remember where she kept the thing or if she lost it or gave it to someone. I deal with er with this issue almost everyday. Then all of a sudden she find the things or the things appear in anotehr place she first put it. But in other times the item never appears, cause she stashed it so well or kept it so well or hidden that she does not remember where the thing is and it gets lost my itself, so is why many things or her personal things is why it never appears.

I mean my mom has the habit of keep everything and most of the time she does not tell anyone where she hid or keep the item (like at least that way another person may remember more where the thing is if mom tell the other person).

She even store food in the kitchen just in case she does not want another person to eat it if the food does not belong to that person : I get really upset when she hid things, and I always get upset cause it is not possible. I dont know if that is a elder person habit to beign liek taht or even young people also have that bad habit. But I know I should not raise my voice to mom but it irks me she hids and store everything and then she does not remember where she put it or stored it, what if it is an important thing. I mean for what is worth she gave the item to somoen out of nothing like a gift or something but then she does nto remember.

That is why she had lost money, documents and other things in the same house, for that habit of storing things and then not remembering where she put them, because keeping it in plain sight someone may take it and it is worse, according to her so she keeps the things. I mean this is not newe my mom had always been like that for many years even when my dad was alive, but I was told by some relative my grandmother wwas similar

Updates

1 y

when my grandmother was like that.

Earlier today I got really upset at my mom she is elder I know but I raise my voice to her and she felt completely intimidated, cause she does not remember where she put a pricey perfume I gave to her in January, because she had 2 perfumes of the same brand, one she had been still using and I bought her last year in July and a brand new I bought her this this year in January. Im pretty sure the new one was still new and unopened cause she was using still

Updates

1 y

the one I bought her last year. But now she does nto remmeber where is the new one, or if she gave it someone just out of nothing. My mom called my brother in secret (without me hearing it, cause she knows I am mad at her and she felt bad) even ask my brother where the perfume could be or if my brother remembered if she gave it as a gift to someone of course but my brother can't know that my mom keeps her thing but dont say to anyone.
Those things make me upset that she hid things

[Guy13]

Have you thought about a medical and psychological consult? I do not know but those seem like a way to go?

[Asker]

but why medical or psychological? No we never thought about it cause she will feel she does not need any kind of help. I mean you can't force a person, especially when the person is elder you know

[Guy13]

Nope you're right. Forgetfulness and pills and medical?

[Asker]

Well my brother also forgets things many times he is very distracted and he is an anxious guy. But I mean forgetfullness is common in elder people but my mom has this habit of store things very well in order not to loose them but inthe process of storing so well, she forgets where she put the things afterwards and since she never tell anyone where she kept the things, things get lost automatically in ur house.