Would you tell my sister to chill out and stop stressing?

[kitty71]

Ok. I have a married sister and ever since the pandemic stared 2 years ago she became all fearful of things surrounding her (like mask use, social distancing, not attenging crowds) especially since we have an elder mom. I do understand that we have to be convered about mom as my mom live with me and my brother and we since living with her are the ones watching her. Of course my sister visit us once in a whole cause since she does not live with us, she does not know how my brother and I care for mom. SO she has to be watchful as to every move my brother and I do regarding mom in EVERYTHING, like an inspector.

My brother and I try to the the best for mom regarding things around the house but for some reason my sister acts like she does not trust us the way we are here for mom and she is wrong. My sister became so stressful that most of the time it gets on my brother and I nerves!!! SHe repeats things over and over again beause she thinks my brother and I do not do things ASAP in the time she wants us to do things. I mean my sister does not live at home, my brotehr and I do it at the moment we are able to do it so, not at the time My sister wnats us to do things, besides she does not even live at home but she behave slike this inspector for us for every move, is annoying. Anyway my mom is vaccianted with the 4 shots and vaccinated alreayd with the influenza, but unfortunately she caught the virus this week after 2 years.

SHe has cough and phlemg but no fever, no loss of taste, no sore throat and she says she feels fine. Of course at home my brotehr and I are taking the necessary ways to be isolated from her or away from her as much as possible, we use mask inside the house, sicne the house is big we can stay away from her in a good way. So now since she has COVID my older sister freaked out and now she is acting like a doctor. Each 5 minutes text me on Whatassp and ask me"How is mom?, then she also tell me the things my mom has to eat.

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mean I know all of those things, she does not ahve to tell me anything, Im a grown up lady, but my sister enjoys repeating and repeating the same thing over and over again so we pay attention.

Then yesterday she lends us an oximeter to measure her oxygenation. My mom never had problems breathing since she had COVID 3 days ago. I mean is fine to measure his oxygen Im not saying is bad sure is good but my sister ask tells me like a teacher " you ahve to measure it each 2 hours" and ask me that on

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that on text since I dont like to answer because she starts to nag and nag, she event gets mad beacuse I dont answer her right away as I reply to her and I take my time. I mean her nagging and her constant way to treat my brotehr and I like little kids is unbelievable and annoying. It looks like my sister does not trust us the way we handle mom just beacuse she can't keep and eye on us 24/7 as she will like.

[Guardian45]

I've heard these arguments before where one sibling is living away from the others and parent. As an only child who lived 600km from my mother & dying father, I understand her stress, so you should talk to her about this, and how to alleviate her anxiety and stop haranguing you and your brother.

[kitty71]

My sister does not live far from us maybe like 35 minutes by car.

[Guardian45]

The physical distance is irrelevant. In the exampleI sighted above the siblings ALL lived within on hour of each other. It's the 'psychological' distance from your mother, you and your brother!

[Guardian45]

Thank you for MHG!

[Waldoe]

it sounds like she almost never visits... so when she calls tell her "Thank you for the suggestion, but just did did that yesterday"... OR... "we are planning on doing that already, probably later today or tomorrow"... OR... "that's a great Idea, we sure could use your help, when can you be here?"

[EarthRealm]

Of course Your mom got Covid She’s Vaccinated 4 times
Covid has been out for 3 years it was Discovered late 2019.
My Grandma got Covid and is fully vaccinated. I’ve never been sick because I Trust Nature and evolution. You don’t Trust nature and evolution your mom is the same way. Because In your minds Nature and evolution didn’t Give us Proper Evolution. You think Scientist with there Drugs they create in Labs.🧪 is more capable than Natures Greatest Gift evolution.

[EarthRealm]

Also my Grandma always gets sick since she got her vaccinations. Just a week ago she was sick yet again.

[EarthRealm]

You democrats don’t have much of a immune system anymore ya done Went ahead and told the doctor to destroy Your Immune system by getting The anti Nature Anti Evolution Drugs that some Meth head could of Created.

[ArrowheadSW]

You do hear of that, where the sibling who does NOT live there, tries to tell the sibling or siblings who DO live there, what to do. If they are that concerned, they should move in and take care of the mom. LOL...

[Avicenna]

Oh, yeah, you should definitely tell her that

[FunkyMonkee]

Hey, sis!! Chill out and stop stressing!! Vapid wench!!

[LimitedBenefits101]

Its time to get rid of your sister for good.

[kitty71]

I mean I cat get ride of her beause she is my sister she is married so she lives in anotehr house of course. But her nagging is what is so annoying. I mean I know that you have to b e careful with COVID as my mom can get worse I undersnad that so far she is ok but my sister startes to give us like instructioins on how to take care of mom the way she wants to

[LimitedBenefits101]

she's trying to control you and your brother, best thing to do is to hire someone to get rid of her
or you move out with your mother in another city.

[kitty71]

Exactly control. Not possible to move out anyway. My mom is elder and we can't really afford to move,. is nto as simple as you put it. She needs to chill and stop nagging and believe that she has better ideas than us or that us we dont take care of mom the best way she thinks is correct

[JohnK123]

Yes I would