Should my sister stop complaining?

[Anonymous]

I have a married sister who lives in a nice house with her husband. They are not rich but they earn enough to travel often, update their home appliances often, change cars (with leasing though) each 4 years. My house (where she used to live when she was single) is an old house and of course it needs maintenance in many things ( some work at the roof and also ceiling, new painting, fix somethings at the terrace, car maintenance and many other things). My dad passed away many years ago and now we dont have the money we used to have when my dad was alive and with him we could afford to fix things at the house, not anymore. My mom receives a pension sure but that is not enough to fix many things at the house quick and at the same time so now we have to save money to fix things that requires money or a lot. My mom is an elder lady, my brother has a job sure but it is not steady as his work is like freelance, he earns money when there is job and work is given to him, otherwise he does nto have money and there are periods when there is no work in what he does.

My sister and her hubby when there something needs to be fixed at her house, it is easy for them they call and pay for the service period and the problem is solved fast

My sister came to our house to visit mom each week and each week she help us like cleaing the kitchen or mom room due to we dont have a maid anymore, (we used to ahve one this year). I also do house chores but there are things I forget to do. Not that in my house we receives visits, not at all. SInce pandemic we dont receive visits at the house of course that does not mean the house needs to stay filthy and dirty and super shiny, but I do chores.

Updates

7 mo

Anyway when my sister comes to visit us each week, is to complain to us why some things at the house are not fix and it has been a long time. She only complains. Every single week is the same, she believes we can fix all the things the house needs fast. I mean if we have enough money we will do it but we dont. My sister complains but she does not help.

[Amy_Mi]

It sounds like your sister’s complaints may come from a mix of habit, perspective, and expectation rather than necessity.

You’re managing the household and contributing despite limited resources, which shows responsibility and care.

Her ability to pay for fixes quickly at her own home doesn’t automatically translate to yours, and it’s reasonable that your situation requires patience and budgeting.

Instead of focusing on her complaints, maintain your boundaries, acknowledge the help she does provide when it’s given, and communicate kindly if her remarks feel discouraging.

Saving energy and perspective for the household’s needs is more productive than internalizing unnecessary pressure.

[strateguy632]

Yes!