How do I tell a friend I'm still pissed at him without starting a fight?

[not_a_twinkie]

So my friend and I were having a conversation a few weeks back when he suddenly blew up at me calling me an egotistical cunt with no real friends, a liar, a bitch, and a coward, to summarise. Then told me not to speak to him again.
I ended up talking to a mutual friend because I was understandably upset and confused and wanted someone to talk to, they just told me to talk to him and sort out what had happened.
Anyway he ends up messaging me after a while with a half assed explanation and no apology then goes back to messaging as usual after a quip about me giving him the silent treatment.
I'm still kinda pissed if I'm being honest, but he wants to act like it never happened and just go back to the way we used to talk which I just can't do while still mad, however I know he can be unstable and I don't know if I can bring it up without causing a fight.

[NathanDavis]

I just don't think if this is a good idea

first of all, this is not a friendship... because true friends don't do this kind of BS, he is just someone you know but not a friend

second, this is a terrible match... he seems to be very impulsive, explosive and also careless, while you seem to be very passive and not assertive when it comes to standing up for yourself on certain things

and that is just a terrible combination and it will keep putting you in the worst spot possible every single time

and third, what would you really get out of this? so far... none of what you said about him or your relationship with him is positive at all, is there even anything positive? or is this just an unresolved situation that you need closure for?

[DJB72]

I'm assuming you're actually female given your account.

Stay as far away from the guy as possible.

Narcissistic personality and verbal violence is only one step away from him hitting you.

[rosemilk]

i would immediately stop being friends with someone who called me those things... i suggest you stop.

i had a friend that always called me a dumbass. long story short, she hasn't been my friend for years. even tho she keeps trying to talk to me every once in a blue moon.

[weysally]

if that happened to me, sorry I would be off,

[Anonymous]

Suddenly? What exactly did you do to piss him off so badly?

[not_a_twinkie]

That's the point, I have no idea. One minute we were talking about one piece the next he was telling me how much of a bitch I am in multiple paragraphs

[Opinion Owner]

Either we are missing some pieces to this story or he has mental health issues. I'd start by asking him what you did that made him say those things.

[not_a_twinkie]

According to his half assed explanation I was being hypocritical because I tell him that sex is not a good coping mechanism but I called shanks from one piece hot, therefore I am a hypocrite.
And yeah he's mentally ill, that's what half his yelling at me was about, that I can't say anything about his mental health (I've suggested in the past he see a psychologist) because I also am mentally ill (I'm on antidepressants)

[Opinion Owner]

So you know exactly what angered him and you were not being truthful when you said you had no idea?

[not_a_twinkie]

I have no idea, because it makes no sense to me. It's the only conclusion I can come to from what he said.
Sent a message about shanks being hot, he blew up, his explanation states and I quote now "What I will not tolerate is people commenting on the depressing reminder of my relationship history"
Adding that he called me a hypocrite in his rant I puzzle pieced it together. I just wanted to try and be a bit more consise

[Opinion Owner]

So it seems pretty clear that he thought your comments about "shanks" (I have no idea what that is) was referring to his personal history, so he took it personal. I think you understand more about why he got upset than you are letting on.