How to hide that I'm mad at my boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

He somehow always knows whenever I'm upset, angry or whatever at him... even though I try not to think about it or focus on it.

But... this time I want to avoid confrontation, because he always makes one out of it... so I want to hide my feelings. I literally want to explode and spill the beans about all the things that he does to upset me, but I know he is not going to listen and comprehend.

So I want to hide it till I calm down. Do you think I should take some medicine or drink alcohol... I'm really nervous and it's showing?

[Oliverlogan263]

Forget about hiding it or trying to numb yourself sis, that ain't gon' end well. Best thing is to face it head on but stay calm and collected.

Here's what I'd do - take a deep breath, tell him straight up "We need to talk but I don't wanna argue, I'm just finally speaking my piece." Then lay it all out there - every little thing that's been bugging you, but do it without getting heated or blaming. Just facts.

Let him respond but if he starts getting loud or defensive, calmly say "I'm speaking my truth, now you listen." Have an "I feel" statement ready like "I feel unheard when you interrupt."

If he still ain't receptive, tell him you just need some space to process alone for a bit. Go chill with your girls - retail therapy always helps blow off steam!

Just don't bottle it up sis, that'll only make it explode worse later. You got this - stand up for yourself in a calm way. Hope it works out!

[Nirmroth]

The longer you keep it in you the more it will eat you up and he will surely notice anyway.

Differences and conflict in a rl are normal but if you dont even want to speak about the issues anymore with your partner, I would reconsider if that rl has any meaning to continue.

[HelpfulWoman]

-if you need to hide your feelings, the relationship ain't for you.

[Anonymous]

Don't hide it, let it out.