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I have a long term guy friend who is leaving soon for education reasons to another state.. we spoke one day and I told him to safe some room for my gift. We spoke fine and he even said he would treasure it no matter what it was. A week later when I saw him at church he began to ignore me and be so rude to me. I contacted him that night and asked him if there was something wrong and if he was ok. I told him that if I had done anything to offend him that he can tell me and I was sorry if I did. He said everything was fine just tired. The next morning I took him his gift and he was happy and thanked me. However, when I got home I noticed I forgot part of the gift. so I thought I’d give it to him when I saw him at church.
So I did and while I was at it I got him some snacks for studying to cheer him up.. I put it on his car and thought he’d text me to thank me but he didn't. I saw him the next day and he started being rude again and ignoring me…and he even started to talk to other girls infront me like making sure I saw he was ignoring me. Why is he acting so strange lately and angry at me?
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He seems like he has started putting distance between you two as he is leaving for education purposes. If by chance he had a crush on you and felt like he has tried in the past then he is probably very frustrated. To him, it seems like you are suddenly attracted now that he is leaving.
He is trying to severe so he may or may not be interested in the other girl. The point is for you to realize that any chance with him has passed as he is moving on with his life and education.
I would say he has never “tried” anything with me.. nor expressed anything openly to me.. NEVER. but I have always been very appreciative of him for the things he does for me. I always made sure to thank him when he would do something for me.. and when he asked for help on something I’d be there. So he can’t really say that I treated him badly. Or that I was a bad friend…. The only thing I would say that was odd that I would notice sometimes was he would get kinda jealous But I figured that was him being protective of me not because he had feelings. And even then I would try not to stir those feelings in him.. The girl he was ignoring me for is gorgeous so I don't know if that plays a role in him just kinda “leaving me behind for her”
But still we were friends for years not sure why that should end even if he dates this girl?
Do guys do that to their female friends when they start to pursue someone?
I never did and i was around lots of beautiful women. Pick-up the pieces rather than Protector personality
I think then, maybe it would be best to just let him be.. I don’t want to nag him either. And I really wouldn’t want to end the friendship but like honestly what can I do.. he’s not being reasonable…
I don’t want to loose the friendship, he means a lot to me…but I honestly just want him to be happy and if me being out of his life makes him feel like he’s solved his problems then it is what it is
Those last two notes really got the either/or decision plainly stated. Yours is different from me because people do perceive me as the “gay friend group guy”…. I’m not but whatever.
I think I woukd let him go if I was you too 🤷🏻♂️
Yeah It honestly sucks, we’ve been friends for like 9 years.. he's Never acted like this before…maybe one day he’ll come back when whatever he’s going through passes. Also thank you I appreciate your response!
My pleasure. Take care.
He might be under a lot of stress and doesn't realize how irrational he's being. As for talking to other girls, sometimes we don't realize that we're treating certain people differently than others. We often hurt the people we're closest to.
Have you asked him if he's stressed out about school? He said he was tired.
Yeah I figured he was really stressed about school which I why I asked him if he was ok and if there was anything I could do to help or if it was that I offended him in some way that he could tell me and that I was sorry ( this was me in trying to be there for him) that’s when he told me he was just tired and we seemed fine…then out of nowhere he started acting rude towards me again.. he didn’t even thank me for the snacks I took him and continued to act cold towards me…then he started to kinda ignore me and talk to other girls.. I honestly have no idea what happened it really was from like one day to another.. and now I don't know if I should even approach him again because I feel he will just tell me the same thing or I don’t want to be like crossing any boundaries.. maybe he just simply doesn’t want to share with me or be my friend anymore and I honestly have no idea why
Also I agree with what you said that sometimes we treat the people closests to us badly…I just don’t know if I should apphim again or let him be
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I have no idea either. I'm so sorry :(
No need to apologize, believe me I appreciate you taking the time to answer my question, thank you! It actually was helpful to hear what others thought