Is it normal for a therapist to tell you you're overreacting to being hurt?

[Anonymous]

I had a situation where my friend uninvited me to a party of hers. It hurt my feelings I guess because it opened up wounds of rejection and abandonment for me. I told my therapist when I went for my session with him, and he said “[My name], there’s a pandemic going on and people are dying all over the world. You’re worrying about a party. It really isn't a big deal.” Is this normal for my therapist to tell me that?

[Mynameisbobby]

I don't think a therapist should be telling anyone that they are overreacting to something no matter what it is. He is judging you and that's not what he supposed to do. He is there to listen to how you feel and support you. You might want to find a new therapist.

[Wise4myage]

I think what he said was fine, because it should have given you some perspective.

[Guccigabbana18]

I would say it's not normal. I'm not a therapist, but it's pretty gaslight-y for anyone to tell you what your feelings should be. I'm pretty sure therapists also fall under this, so no he should not have said that to you

[Staximus]

I have never met a 24 year old with a PhD in clinical psychology

[Anonymous]

No, it's not normal! Find another therapist

[Staximus]

https://youtu.be/pJF5QMpzSso

[Staximus]

That person is not your friend