Is this physical abuse or I am overreacting?

[Anonymous]

When I get mad at my boyfriend I can be very immature and childish, I don’t like being hugged or kissed and I just want a moment for myself, he finds this very annoying and forces himself on me: he grabs my hand forcefully until it hurts and I give in, he grabs my face and ends up hurting me trying to force me to look at him or kiss him, when I want to leave the room he grabs my hand and refuses to let go even with pushing and tugging, he hugs me when I’m angry and refuses to let go even when I want out. I’m not sure if he doesn’t realize that he’s hurting me or if he does it on purpose to intimidate me. I’ve told him that he’s very strong and that he hurts me but he hasn’t stopped.
Maybe I’m overreacting but it worries me that he doesn’t respect my boundaries, he even has forced me to have sex when I didn’t want to. Is this controlling behaviour?

He used to be very possessive and controlling in the past (he wouldn’t let me have friends and would get jealous of everyone) but changed for the better with time, I don’t know if this is just another way of being controlling or if he can improve this behaviour as well. Usually he’s really sweet and the best boyfriend ever, I tend to blame myself and feel guilty that he needs to force his affection on me and I can’t be as loving as him, ungrateful for not appreciating how hard he tries. I end up feeling bad for bringing the worst out of him. I know that this is the wrong way of looking at the situation but I can’t help feeling like it’s all my fault and that if he had a more easy going girlfriend he wouldn’t have to act like this.

[Anonymous]

Has all the hallmarks of an abusive relationship. Don't blame yourself for his bad behaviour. He's unlikely to change. If you want to allow this abuse, it's bad enough. Don't have children.

[Avicenna]

Yes, it's clearly physical abuse